Long Distance Advice.... interesting, Please help me through this interesting moment. Options

[jayjota3133]

I am turning 22 y.o. in a month, my gf is 20 y.o. and is about to finish her first year as a college student, shes in missourri, while im in new jersey, I met her when she was a senior in h.s. and 19 y.o., I had already finished my college years. Well this is the thing, before she had went off to college, I went with her to her senior prom, where I witnessed her grabbing some guy's ass, and later that night grabbing his "inner-thigh" (as she says), right in front of me.... i didnt make a big deal, for I wouldn't kill someones special night, but later that night in the hotel, i did let her know i saw her do that, her jaw dropped and thought nothing of it, So I asked if it was alright I grabbed her friends ass since it was nothing to her and she said yeah, so as I left to the door to do just that, she stopped and she cried and apologized... a few months later, a guy approaches her to talk and what not that she worked with, and supposedly made it clear that she had a boyfriend, and then she gives HER phone number out to a guy, and he called when she was with me, apparantly it wasnt strange at all to her, or like deceiving, until i had pointed it out and she started to cry and apologize.... well this is the thing, these thoughts and experiences with her haunt me all the time, and it takes a toll on the relationship. now out of no-where she wants to go to parties and what not, which i understand, but I cant help but remember those moments..... especially because when I met her, it was because she started kicking it to me, meanwhile she was going out with someone else. and supposedly loved him. she says she loves me, so how can i believe that shes not gona do the same thing again? How can I really trust someone who's like this, and is going through college, Should I just tell her to call me in another 3 years when she graduates?

[*Monochrome.*]

She isnt a really trustworthy person obviously.And i admire how she uses the "crying and apologizing" technique,It works because a guy never likes to look at his girl cry let alone deal with it.

What you need to do is the next time she does that again,You need to say "cry all you want,your still arent off the hook for what you did".

You need to be coldhearted because obviously shes taken advantage of the whole"being a skank and then being a cry baby and saying shes sorry about it."
people like that never ever really change.Consider it best for you to get rid of her.

[jayjota3133]

Anyone else? please I need a few more advice!

[xxMoonlitxx]

She isnt a really trustworthy person obviously.And i admire how she uses the "crying and apologizing" technique,It works because a guy never likes to look at his girl cry let alone deal with it.

What you need to do is the next time she does that again,You need to say "cry all you want,your still arent off the hook for what you did".

You need to be coldhearted because obviously shes taken advantage of the whole"being a skank and then being a cry baby and saying shes sorry about it."
people like that never ever really change.Consider it best for you to get rid of her.

What she said. She's like.. taking advantage of you? If you give her more and more chances she'll just keep taking advantage of it. So.. yes, i also 'consider it best for you to get rid of her'. Well, unless she really changes.. You know, by some miracle? No offence intended.

[shiftieeyedpnoi]

Get out of it. It'll never work. It's stupid to think otherwise.

[Mystic Eyes]

She's taking advantage of you by crying and playing on your soft spot. Tell her how you feel and if that doesn't work and she's still doing this crap, then as hard as it may seem but you should ditch her. You'll find someone better, i'm sure.

[pkbabe]

Wow...the girl is a total biatch! Like a lil kid trying to get away with doing something bad by crying. I agree with Diana, just be heartless & walk.

But 1st, try to talk to her & if she deos that stupid sh*t again...well you know.

Hope I helped & I wish you the best

[mytangerine]

forget about it. move on. be happy.

[jayjota3133]

Thanks alot guys, now it turns out she went to a party on wed. before she went in, i called, we talked about her "grinding" her ass on other guys while dancing(u know like hip-hop music), because we discussed a few days ago, that I am NOT comfortable with that shit at all. n she said she wont, that she just wants to dance spanish music and wont "grind" on anyone, now that I call, I ask, so your not gonna grind on any guys. and she says, is there a problem if I do. we talked and she had all intentions to, she said she wasnt going to though, now a few days later, she tells me she actually did "grind" on some guy. how am I supposed to trust someone like that? I love this girl, but cant stand the lies and deceits, and dont know if we can make it. she says I can trust her, and to put trust in her to test her out, but theres no point, I keep doing it, and she keeps failing. miserably, every time. Should I just end this and spare all emotions feelings and everything from going even further? She's def. a keeper, not like any i've found, thats for sure.