starting to have problems w/ my best friend Options

[lovescream]

i'm starting to have a few problems with my best friend. we never went to the same school except when i was in kindergarten and she was in first grade and we've been friends for 12 years. =\ well, like, we'd usually gain our closeness by going over each other's homes, etc. but lately, my mom and her mom are like.. fighting. they secretly hate each other now but they wont admit it ><;; so that makes us have less time seeing each other. and well, the other day we went to go hang out with each other after school, but not at our houses, out in public like at the mall but her group of friends were there and she just TOTALLY ignored me. I tried to go and talk with her, but she starts blabbing like I'm not there. ><;; Her friends ignore me less than her. Her sister was along as well, and btw, me and her little sister hang out a lot more since we are in the same school and I feel like I can get along better with her because at least she doesn't ignore me when she's with her friends. ><;; So instead of talking to her and her group of friends, or rather I mean trying, I just talk to her sister, who is also ignored. .__.

Yeah.. And not to mention, she's now being very very show off-y to things I taught her.
Like I taught her how to do some orgami things, and she's showing it off like she found out how to do it herself, not even a little credit for me, not even a "she helped me," and she's being praised. I guess this is sort of a jealousy feeling, but she doesn't see it in me at all. She still sort of ignores me too when she goes around bragging. ><;;

I don't know what to do -- try to get closer to her again or what ? Because talking to her isn't working.. she doesn't see the show offy part. .__. Or the ignoring part. -sigh-

[LennonLime]

Don't let her get away just yet.

Just recently I had this sort of problem with MY best friend. You need to sit her down alone, and REALLY talk to her. Be frank, be to the point. Tell it like you see it. MAKE her understand how you feel. Have examples to prove your point! (It sounds like I'm telling you how to write an essay ) but seriously....give it one more try, and if she's still a loser about it, drop her like a hot tamale and find friends who won't ignore you.

[Dreamers]

Don't let her get away just yet.

Just recently I had this sort of problem with MY best friend. You need to sit her down alone, and REALLY talk to her. Be frank, be to the point. Tell it like you see it. MAKE her understand how you feel. Have examples to prove your point! (It sounds like I'm telling you how to write an essay ) but seriously....give it one more try, and if she's still a loser about it, drop her like a hot tamale and find friends who won't ignore you.

This person is right. Definitly.

[OhSnap]

I have the same exact problem. My "best" friend always had the tendency to show off her looks, her weight, her clothes, her designer stuff, her boyfriend, instead of being humble about it. And if that gets her the right attention, she'll just ignore her real friends. So recently, we moved to different schools and she just completely changed. She really wants to fit in, but does it to a extreme degree. (We're both juniors in highschool right now). At first, I was happy for her to have such nice things, but it eventually got annoying. And I have to admit, I was getting pretty jealous too. We eventually began to talk less until to the point that she was talking to her dog more than me. Not good, right?

Well..I haven't really talked to her about this yet but I will soon since it's getting on my nerves. I think you should just talk to her one on one and make sure she sees your perspective about this situation. Pretend this is a debate, you should win.

You need to sit her down alone, and REALLY talk to her. Be frank, be to the point. Tell it like you see it. MAKE her understand how you feel. Have examples to prove your point!

And if things don't work out, then she doesn't deserve this kind of friendship. It's her fault and you did your best to work it out. :] Good luck to you!

[EmoEyelinerx]

If she was a real friend she wouldent ignore you and give you the "props" that you deserve for helping her. Also you could try and have a talk with her and tell her how you feel , maybe she didnt realize how she was ignoring you. If this doesent work you can always be her sisters frined becuase she seems nice and doest act like a snob around you, even when shes with her frineds. Afterall she also knows how your feeling i bet.

[Mystic Eyes]

Like the others have said, give it one more shot. But this time tell her how you feel like you have told us. If she's still ignores you then leave her. She isn't worth it. You deserve true friends who will never ignore you.

[xxMoonlitxx]

I really want to know. This is a friend HOW?

No offence.

I mean, if you still treat her like your best friend and she's like that, move on.

[mytangerine]

just avoid her completely & make her realize that you're important to her & she is missing out. that might not be the best approach, but if she truly cares & this whole "bragging/ignoring" is just a phase then all will be well, that is if you're willing to forgive & forget..

[lovescream]

I really want to know. This is a friend HOW?

No offence.

I mean, if you still treat her like your best friend and she's like that, move on.

None taken, but it's because we've been great friends for all our lives until she started High School and I'm still stuck in Jr. High.

I did what ola says hola did because I was afraid to talk to her for a few days, and she was really mad and actually NOTICED I was ignoring her. Surprised me, but we talked this over and she apologized for what she was doing. She said she did it because she liked the guy she was bragging to >_< (and I'm wondering why she didn't tell me this before?!) so yea. Still makes me jealous how she's being praised, but whatever. It's gotten through her head now.. I hope.

[stormbringer]

I'm having the same kinda of problem.. but shes really nice and dosnt realixe what she's doing to me.

[Simba]

Adults should handle conflicts like adults.

She said she did it because she liked the guy she was bragging to >_< (and I'm wondering why she didn't tell me this before?!) so yea.

Those darn hormones.