Help!, I've gotten obsessed! :'( Options

[Dreamers]

Okay, there is a guy a couple years older than me, hes in 8th grade, so as you know, im young and crushes are natural for a 6th grader but...He is my brothers friend, hes real cute and funny, and he spends the night at our house often to play video games/get on computer with my bro. I usually hang out with them when he comes over. anyway, it started out as a little flicker of happiness when I saw him, but now its gotten to where I need to exchange words with him or see his face at LEAST once a day to remain in a good mood! He likes someone else, i know that much. Basically, I don't stand a chance with him, and I NEED to get over him, I just can't though! He has these eyes that laugh, so I can never stay mad at him! I need some way to get over him before I get hurt by it.



I'm like a little sister in his eyes, I can tell because....


*He pushed me onto the couch at aunts house, then rolled me onto the floor. When I got up, he pushed me back onto the couch. pounced on me, then got off, laughing the whole time, like I've seen my brother do to our 5 year old cousin.

*He loves to poke me!

*He gets quite annoyed when I complain about something

*Once I got hurt at school, i loked at the scratch said 'Oh, apparently it left a mark.' He was like 'Oh, lemme see!' then acted like he was gunna punch me where I got hurt.

*He loves to mess up my hair, escpecially if I just got out of the shower.

*sometimes he just asks to get a slap!


* I had to be sandwitched by him in Scholar Bowl when I went into sub for my friend. I said "Sorry, dude. i'm squeezing in." He smiled at said he didn't mind, at least he got to sit by someone he knew.

* he willingly sat by me with open seats. This again was probably because he doesn't know the other scolar bowl members too well.


These are all things that a guy would do to a younger sister, am I correct? We are both on Scholar Bowl, so we see each ther alot.




Anyway, I'm liking him more by the second, and as I said, I'm going to end up getting hurt by the guy who likes me as a sister, and has a crush on another girl. Help me!!!!

[Dreamers]

C'mon! this thing has 12 views so far, and not 1 person has said anything! give some sort of opinion at least! I am seriously about to spontaineously combust any second if i don't hear any advice....

[alysaphobia]

Not to be rude, but I think I'd be totally realistic and truthful to myself and realize that this is kind of an impossible relationship, as of right now.

Talk to your friends, hang out with them, listen to music, go running, watch movies, read books, play sports, etc. Basically get busy... and distract yourself from thinking of him. Try not to be around him when he comes over to your house.

[haha_you_have_a_...]

To tell you the truth.
You are too young for relationships.
Wait until you are older where you can have more serious relationships.
The serious ones are way more fun and interesting than those boring one week relationships.

Because for some people, boys come and go like seasons, and I think that they are just really stupid to waste their love like that.

I personally go for the more serious relationships so I can know that the boy loves me and isnt just trying to get in my pants.

[cori-catastrophe]

You are young & you have plenty of time to get to know guys your age. Guys are immature & do stupid things, like what you mentioned, at time. It doesn't mean anything particular.

[Dreamers]

I NEVER said anything about really wanting to make the relationship WORK. I want to make sure it DOESN'T work. I know it never will, so i dont need to be told that. I myself even believe im too young for relationships. I just need to make sure I get rid of these feelings.

Sadly, only one, perhaps 2, posters seems to have paid attention to my post, and I forgot their usernames. Anyway, to the person who suggested gewtting involved in other things...Thanks, I never thought of that...hehehe...

ALSO, I never thought that the things he did meant he liked me in a romantic way,

"These are all things that a guy would do to a younger sister, am I correct?"

I already know he likes me like a younger sister. Seriously, I've even seen how he treats HIS BLOOD RELATED lil sisters, and it is EXACTLY how he treats me. So I'm like a non relation lil sis to him I know this...hehehe... sorry for sounding so mean, i just woke up, so I probably made alot of mistakes typing too.

Also, the people who gave advice that wasnt completely on topic, I thank you anyway. When I'm like, 15, I think I'll be ready to enter the dating world, and Ill remeber those tips you gave me. It'll be a big help.

[fall3n_s0ul]

All guys suck. Think of all his bad points and expand them, that's how you get yourself to hate him and then over him. You're still so young.

[Dreamers]

All guys suck. Think of all his bad points and expand them, that's how you get yourself to hate him and then over him. You're still so young.

Umm...Interesting...I don't see many bad points though...He's never gotten truly mad at me....umm...I'll have to think about this, but I dont wanna HATE him, but I could try until those romantic feelings are diminshed, then I could just be careful....*voice trails off*




I got an idea! I'll try fall3n_s0ul's advice to get rid of the 'more than friends' feeling, then when those feelings are gone, I can go back to normal, but when the romantic feelings start coming back, I'll just get real busy...*falls over**moans* ughh...but that would be so heartless....

[shaixe]

Wow... I hadn't even noticed a boy's romantic value until I was a sophomore in high school. You started young! Lol, just kidding.

From what you say, this guy seems pretty nice. It would be terrible to lose him as a friend. But at the same time, I can see why you would want to get over the feelings you have. Instead of focusing on his bad points, why don't you focus on somebody else entirely? That's how I got over my first crush, I found another - less significant - one. Of course your heart will follow the original, but sometimes you can trick your mind into a new obsession. And the new obsession doesn't hurt as much because it isn't real.

I know this probably sounds ridiculous, but I swear it works. For me... anyway. Find a new guy, write poems, stories, letters about him. Force yourself to daydream about the guy, anything to help you move on. You could probably even pick a celebrity to obsess about if you wanted to. Lol. Love is hard, as I'm sure you already know. The best thing you can do is give it time and not think too much on the matter.

[Dreamers]

Wow... I hadn't even noticed a boy's romantic value until I was a sophomore in high school. You started young! Lol, just kidding.

From what you say, this guy seems pretty nice. It would be terrible to lose him as a friend. But at the same time, I can see why you would want to get over the feelings you have. Instead of focusing on his bad points, why don't you focus on somebody else entirely? That's how I got over my first crush, I found another - less significant - one. Of course your heart will follow the original, but sometimes you can trick your mind into a new obsession. And the new obsession doesn't hurt as much because it isn't real.

I know this probably sounds ridiculous, but I swear it works. For me... anyway. Find a new guy, write poems, stories, letters about him. Force yourself to daydream about the guy, anything to help you move on. You could probably even pick a celebrity to obsess about if you wanted to. Lol. Love is hard, as I'm sure you already know. The best thing you can do is give it time and not think too much on the matter.

No offence to anyone, but I think out of al the ones posted, this'll be the best coice! thank you soooo much!

[pinacoolada]

From what you say, this guy seems pretty nice. It would be terrible to lose him as a friend. But at the same time, I can see why you would want to get over the feelings you have. Instead of focusing on his bad points, why don't you focus on somebody else entirely? That's how I got over my first crush, I found another - less significant - one. Of course your heart will follow the original, but sometimes you can trick your mind into a new obsession. And the new obsession doesn't hurt as much because it isn't real.

I disagree with that. Getting obsessed over someone new to get over someone else doesn't work, because you're just setting yourself up for another heart ache. Just let things flow..and forget him. Keep yourself busy for now and take a break on boys. Concentrate on school,

And..you're too young for a relationship. >.<
I had a "relationship" in 6th grade, and it pretty much consisted of awkward holding hands..then a break up.

Also, the people who gave advice that wasnt completely on topic, I thank you anyway. When I'm like, 15, I think I'll be ready to enter the dating world, and Ill remeber those tips you gave me. It'll be a big help.

You don't have to be 15 =P
My first "real" boyfriend was when I was 13.

[angelrevelation]

aww that's so cute

I don't think it's possible he'd like you right now. The difference between a 6th and 8th grader is a lot (as opposed to a sophomore and a senior). I think you should move on, but not give up really. Stay friends, and he might like you later on, as you grow up.

[shaixe]

I disagree with that. Getting obsessed over someone new to get over someone else doesn't work, because you're just setting yourself up for another heart ache. Just let things flow..and forget him. Keep yourself busy for now and take a break on boys. Concentrate on school.

Crushes are hard. Obsessions are even harder. And when you consider how much interaction you'd have with your brother's friend - it would be difficult to focus on schoolwork. Difficult to forget him when the guy is right downstairs. No matter how hard you try, all that effort in getting him out of your head is going to be erased when you accidentally run into the guy at home or school.

I would agree that choosing a new person to think about would get you into the same mess... but it won't be the same if you go into the ordeal knowing that you don't like this new guy. Knowing it's for the sake of replacement. That's why I mentioned picking a celebrity. Instead of daydreaming or writing about your brother's friend, replace his name with another's. You can doodle "I love Justin Timberlake" all over your stuff and think about a relationship with him. I mean, let's face it: who wouldn't want to be with Justin Timberlake? Lol. Or Orlando Bloom. Oh, or Heath Ledger? ;D It makes it really easy to - at least temporarily - forget the real person.

That's my take, anyway.

[YaGurlSukedMe2SL...]

thats cute sixth grader

[II_noFOREVER]

youre in 6th grade, you have pleeennntty of time to find someone else! so dont stress it because hes not the only boy out there like that.

i thought i was "in love" with this guy when i was in 6th grade. in fact, i liked him until 8th grade. when we graduated, i thought that i would never find anyone else that would treat me the way he did. what did i know? a year later, i found another boy who treated me ten times better and im still with him now. we've been together for about 4 years.

crush on him all you want! buuuuut dont make it the end of your life if he doesnt like you back because you have plenty of time to find someone who is probably better for you.

[Dreamers]

I tried to forget him, a poster was right. We had a scholar bowl match today, he sat next to me and started talking to me, I couldn't just erase him him.
And to the poster he said 'thats cute sixth grader' how RUDE can you get?



my MOM told me in private she thought I was in love with the guy....It's gotten serious....Well, my hamburger helper is done so yea....I don't believe in celeb crushes, but I have a slight crush on a guy my age...Its okat to have 2 crushes, correct?

Like one person said, 'move on but dont give up really.He might like you later. As you grow up.' I think I've devised a good plan, but i still am a lil hopeless...Seriously, at the match today he stared at me with those blue eyes of his, I HAD to give in! I HAD to give him a peice of chocolate! seriously, he looks at me and I'm like "*melts*" every time...I am gunna have to move on at one point...AHH!!! I'm all confused!!!

[letterboop]

you can't get rid of a feeling .. it just doesn't work that way.

you could tell him how you feel

maybe that would help you get over it, if u hear a rejection from him. because a few months ago i was in that situation (of course, he was a hunk from my class) and anyway, long story short i ended up confronting him and it took a simple rejection from him to get rid of all my obsession for him (which lasted 3 months long --.--)

see less of him!

how can u get over someone if u see him 24 7? maybe hang out with someone else at the bowl and jus limit urself to a couple words a day. honestly, it's jus cutting back and all that stuff. i duno if thats any help lol. it's rlly up to urself & eventually it'll go away if u stop thinking & obsessing about it. the more u think about it the worse it seems.

[pinacoolada]

[quote]my MOM told me in private she thought I was in love with the guy....It's gotten serious....Well, my hamburger helper is done so yea....I don't believe in celeb crushes, but I have a slight crush on a guy my age...Its okat to have 2 crushes, correct? [/quote]

it's okay to have 2 crushes.. =]
and don't worry, this will eventually pass.

[quote]see less of him![/quote]
^ that's a good way to forget someone.
good luck
see less of him![/quote]

[*suddenly she*]

you can't get rid of a feeling .. it just doesn't work that way.

Perhaps, but you can cover it up with hate.
Morbid, but true. I've done it.

I don't think you'd be willing to, though?

[megggnasty]

I think grade 6 is a little bit young to start a relationship. Your age gap seems bigger because you both are younger and you probably aren't interested in the exact same things. Even if you were to be together, he'd move on to high school before you and find a whole other pool of girls to be interested in. It's great that you have that cute relationship, but I'd just keep it at that to avoid future heartbreak. You have so much more time to find a guy you like! Just hang in there.

[-sincerely]

I personally go for the more serious relationships so I can know that the boy loves me and isnt just trying to get in my pants.

no guy wants in a 6th graders pants..
or atleast i hope.
anyway, yeah, i suggest getting outta the house.
that way you get your mind off of him..

edit: clean. and blast music while you're doing it. helps me clear my head all the time.

[*Uronacid*]

Okay, there is a guy a couple years older than me, hes in 8th grade, so as you know, im young and crushes are natural for a 6th grader but...He is my brothers friend, hes real cute and funny, and he spends the night at our house often to play video games/get on computer with my bro. I usually hang out with them when he comes over. anyway, it started out as a little flicker of happiness when I saw him, but now its gotten to where I need to exchange words with him or see his face at LEAST once a day to remain in a good mood! He likes someone else, i know that much. Basically, I don't stand a chance with him, and I NEED to get over him, I just can't though! He has these eyes that laugh, so I can never stay mad at him! I need some way to get over him before I get hurt by it.
I'm like a little sister in his eyes, I can tell because....
*He pushed me onto the couch at aunts house, then rolled me onto the floor. When I got up, he pushed me back onto the couch. pounced on me, then got off, laughing the whole time, like I've seen my brother do to our 5 year old cousin.

*He loves to poke me!

*He gets quite annoyed when I complain about something

*Once I got hurt at school, i loked at the scratch said 'Oh, apparently it left a mark.' He was like 'Oh, lemme see!' then acted like he was gunna punch me where I got hurt.

*He loves to mess up my hair, escpecially if I just got out of the shower.

*sometimes he just asks to get a slap!
* I had to be sandwitched by him in Scholar Bowl when I went into sub for my friend. I said "Sorry, dude. i'm squeezing in." He smiled at said he didn't mind, at least he got to sit by someone he knew.

* he willingly sat by me with open seats. This again was probably because he doesn't know the other scolar bowl members too well.
These are all things that a guy would do to a younger sister, am I correct? We are both on Scholar Bowl, so we see each ther alot.


Anyway, I'm liking him more by the second, and as I said, I'm going to end up getting hurt by the guy who likes me as a sister, and has a crush on another girl. Help me!!!!

Grace... I don't like you... I'm sorry...

[Aerjae]

aha. Honestly, that sounds just like me when I was 6th grade. I liked my brothers best friend knowing he won't like me and then he liked this girl. ehh.. I got over it after a while. You'll find that it's better to stay friends. I'm actually glad we're just friends. He knew I liked him before but he never really acted weird around me. so... just focus on other stuff. like school. you're still 6th grade. You've got so many years to go.

[Dreamers]

Grace... I don't like you... I'm sorry...

Uhh...Who's Grace? A girl in the same sitch as me? Lol
I dunno who Grace is..

[cupcakex]

Don't stress too much over it.
Think about other things get involved in other things.
If you think he's coming over, try to go to a friends house.