get over her/him, how did u do it? Options

[chasingvictory]

well i went through some rough times with someone.. and right now I don't know if we are still 'together' or what not. So right now I'm just giving her space to cool off and stuff. But before, I used to try to call her after everytime we enter some disputes so we could fix it (or talk it out) but I just end up making the problem worst. Well I've learned my lesson after a number of failures of doing so and I'm not doing that again. Okay here is my question, I don't want to call her because I want to show her that I'm strong [emotionally] and that I trust her, but I keep thinking about her and I wrestle with myself trying to call her. So what do you to keep your mind of someone that you really love and appreciate? I tried keeping myself busy and I tried chillin with my other friends but when night time comes around, I being to think about her again.. and so many thought run through my mind. thanks u all