Ok boys,you know how you all act, So tell me what I should do. Options

[sukixinaxmou]

You guys know how other guys act.SO explain PLEASE!
I met this guy at the mall January 6th.We started going out the 8th.He makes me really happy,but then again,he makes me really annoyed and angry and sad and frustrated.Hes really emo,too.He said before he met me he was on the edge of killing himself.Hes making all of these plans to marry me when I'm old enough.By the way,I'm 13,hes 15.Anywho,he's okay that I'm bi,and all.And I really don't know what to do.Everyone call me a whore because I'm always in a new relationship.But that's been happening since last year when my boyfriend died,and then my other boyfriend died,and then my best friend died.I'm so confused.Because if I leave him I'll tell myself that I want to be single for a while,but then like 3 days later I'm in another relationship with another guy I don't really like.Plus,my bf seems like a cheater,because when we met he had a gf and he kept flirting with me,god only knows if he is doing the same thing to me.I don't know what to do.If I leave him,what if I really don't get another guy for a while,I don't want to be alone,and I don't want people thinking I'm a whore or anything.And then again,what if he isn't kidding.He says if we ever break up he'll kill himself?I wouldn't be able to live with that.Anybody know what I should do?

[multifaceted]

i think this needs to be moved to relationships.

when a guy asks you out, you have the right to say no if you want to be single. if you don't like the guy, say no! maybe cause you keep saying yes to the guy, people think you are a whore.

who cares about what other people say about you.

don't let yourself suffer because of someone else. maybe next time go for a less emo type of guy.

[demolished]

You are a whore. Deal with it.

Just kidding.

Why are you still continue to stay with that cheater? what are your intention? You are you. No one is forcing you to be with him with a freaking gun at your head. it's about you. you're going to decided your life. dont let things pressure you or whatever.

fight for it.

[sukixinaxmou]

i know i couldve said no,but things hav been tough lately and i dont wanna end up alone so i end up going w/ the next guy that i like who asks,but i end up realizing i dont really like him.and people call me a whore nto becuz i date him multiple times,but because im always dating some1 new becuz of these problems.so i wanted 2 know,is he really going 2 kill himself if i left him?cuz this happened 2 me b4,and the guy who i left ended up at attempt at suicide,and he was hospitalized 4 a while.jeez,what should i do?

[multifaceted]

i cannot tell you if he is going to kill himself. i think you can start by sending him to a therapist.. there is something wrong with him.

how can you not want to be alone yet want to be single... its either or honey.

you should let some time between relationships. and really think do i want to go out with him? like as in do i think we have something. if its just a crush, then say no.

[fameONE]

Oh God, you're 13 and you're dating? My baby sister's 13! Oh man, my head hurts. I'm moving back to Texas and postng up on the porch with an M16.

Whatever the case, you're only 13, move on.

[*WHIMSICAL 0NE*]

last year when my boyfriend died,and then my other boyfriend died

You saying that you've had past boyfriends that have died worries me. Maybe you just shouldn't date because they die? Okay, don't take that seriously. I had to type it.

It sounds to me like he's got his own issues. You haven't been dating that long so he's obviously had some other type of physchological problem other than depression. I don't think he would tell his new girlfriend that he's going to kill himself if he also says he's going to marry her. In my opinion, this guy sounds like a creep.

[HakunaMatata]

Moved to Relationships.

Your 13 dear, if you don't feel right in the relationship then get out and try to stay single. Learn to say "no".

[lovescream]

Maybe you're jinxed. I'm serious. I mean you have a bad relationship and your boyfriends died. Plus, don't you feel bad at all or sad in any way that your boyfriends die? That creeps me out a lot, but for some reason, I think you're lying about that. Then again, not like I really care. Plus I'm not helping you in any way right now.

[y0urelectrikk]

just stay single for a while... if you don't really like them or have doubts then what's the point.
if he kills himself because you break up with him..... then that isn't you're fault. You can't MAKE him kill himself... unless you put a knife in his hand and physically make him stab himself or something.

[pedophile]

...you're kidding me, right?

[ReggieM]

WTF murderer!

[Realization]

Jeez, some of you are mean! If she's lying about something, that's her problem. Isn't this for us to try and help her. So we have to assume she's telling the truth, which means...

Sweetie, don't let him control you. If he threatens suicide, let him. He knows that controls you because you're afraid of more deaths.

Tell him he's too immature for you, and you need to move on. Or use a classic line like:

"I can't love you, until I learn to love myself"

I can't help much on this issue, but maybe guys can... Alls I can say, is what I've already said.

Do not, ever, let a guy control you and make your decisions for you.

<3

[xmy_sweet_reveng...]

dont just go for any random guy, if you have to be single for 12 months untill you find the one you want then do it, its better than being with people you dont like.

[maximelids]

I have been in many relationships until I met my dream girl.
I had the same problem as you so I will tell you my story and hopefully it is useful for you.

I met a girl that was going to commit sucide. I tired to talk things into her, and she told me that she loved me. I got into the relationship with her so as to try and comfort her. To tell you the truth, I did not like her a bit, but I was there more to help her.

What I did turned out bad. She started to love me more and more and one day she started talking to me about getting married when we get older.
Yes it was my fault, because I led her on, thinking that I love her 'so much', but at least I got her out of her sucide mentality.

Now was the hard part, trying to break up with her.
What I did was really hard for both of us (me and my 'ex').
I told her the truth.

We sat down at a park and after telling her the truth, I got a slap and she ran off.
I was really worried that she would commit sucide and stuff.
So at night I called her and we talked for hours on the phone,
I told her that she deserves a better guy in life and I would always be there for her if she needs help.

Another piece of advice. It always takes time to heal wounds. So after that, I backed off for a year and we lost contact. I met her on friendster 2 years ago and we started talking again.
Today, suprice suprice, she is my best friend and she is with a wonderful guy!

At your age, 13, it is best to make many friends instead of jumping into a relationship with every new guy you meet. Jumping into a relationship 2 days after meeting him is a bit fresh! It takes months and even years to get to know a person well. My sister and brother in law were together for 2 years before they decided to get into a relationship. 8 years later, today, I bet they are the most loving couple in the world.
Yes I know it is hard to control your feelings for a guy.
At your age, I was falling for every new girl I met. haha. But you got to think outside the box(meaning think about the events that could happen after getting into a new relationship) and learn how to control your feelings.
Bottom line, get to know the guy very well before you decide to get into a relationship with him. I got many very good female friends that I could have gone into a relationship with but I prefered to become friends with. That's why today I have many good friends.

And don't give a dam about what other's think about you. It is you living your life and not them living it for you. I usually ignore people that insult me. Or i always ask them to stare into the mirror hard before critising others.

Sorry about the long post and hopefully it helps you out. I am 17, so not long ago I had the same problems as you. So hopefully my advice helps you out.