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 Jun 2 2004, 10:33 PM
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 JeSsIcA rAyE  Group: Member Posts: 782 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,977  |
ugh.... how can you tell when it is time to end a relationship...I am soo bad at this...I would prefer to let the other person do it and never hurt their feeling. But my boyfriend and I fight a lot....not like major stuff and then we talk and it's good. Its just htat it happens repetitively.....mostly cuz of the stupid xbox and he's stubborn. I REALLY REALLY REALLY love him....... I don't know what to do anymore...... is it possible for him to change?
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Jun 2 2004, 11:16 PM
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 WUT THA DUCK? Group: Member Posts: 3,950 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,138 |
oo yess very possible for him to change!!! if he really does care about you.. he'll put xbox aside! tell him *if you really care.. put the xbox away!*
to tell if you should break up with sum1 is pretty easy.. your feelings.. if they're not the same as in the beginning... you might feel like your time with him is done.. or sumthing like that!! |
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Jun 2 2004, 11:21 PM
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 Prez of Student Council 04/05 Group: Member Posts: 2,888 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 851 |
awws i feel like that tooo... about the part where don't want to hurt their feelings and stuff hmmmm... seriously tell hi how ur feeling and what u think...
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Jun 3 2004, 10:43 AM
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JeSsIcA rAyE Group: Member Posts: 782 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,977 |
I still really really really love him....and when he kisses me or holds me in his arms and tells me he'll never let me go...I just melt and want to stay there forever, but Idont' know what to do about the arguments. I woul dbe lost and alone without him.
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Jun 3 2004, 10:56 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 3,077 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,904 |
I've been there before. You really love him but you guys just keep fighting and you feel like you wanna break up with him but you gawdamn love him.
It sucks. You gotta ask yourself truthfully. Do you really love him? Can you spend your life with him? And talk with him. You have to know where he's at. If he isn't at the same place as you are, then maybe you should break up with him coz it's not worth it. But if you feel you should break up, then you should do it now. Coz if you just drag it on, it'll just make things worst. |
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Jun 4 2004, 11:48 AM
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 he`z gOt my heart*<3`o2.18.o1` Group: Member Posts: 1,662 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 6,338 |
he can change but you have to talk to him more about how you feel .. if he's willing to compromise with you it shows he really cares .. if he's stubborn and he refuses to try to work things out with you it wasn't meant to be .. relationships involve compromise and some sacrifices .. you both have to be willing to work it out ..it can't be one - sided .. i understand that you love him .. but don't let it blind you and allow him to walk all over you and do as he pleases without consideration of your feelings .. that'll just leave you more prone to extra heartache in the future ..
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Jun 4 2004, 01:32 PM
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 doot doot doot Group: Member Posts: 1,803 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 1,954 |
well first u should talk to him about it cuz hes part of the arguments too.. and then decide what to do.. if u guys tend to stay together then think of arguments as a good thing... at least u guys are communicating lol
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Jun 5 2004, 03:14 AM
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 03.21.00 <3 LaTe 637 Group: Member Posts: 744 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,890 |
lol.. i used to have the same problem with my current b/f... it was with his car though.. we kept arguing everyday because he would spend more time fixing his car than with me... i had to put my foot down though, and so i told him.. it's either me or the car... luckily he picked me.. and we worked things out.. he only works on his car if i'm there to help him... lol.. yeah right, help?? hahaha, but the whole ultimatum thing is hard... i had a hard time doing it because i was afraid he would pick his car over me.. and that would have just broken my heart.. but i suggest trying to talk about it.. it's probably just a phase... the whole xbox thing...
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Jun 6 2004, 03:30 PM
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 Kermit the frog = <3 Group: Member Posts: 2,315 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,215 |
don't worry, if you feel like you want to end it then go right ahead. don't worry about how your partner feels, it's not like if he breaks up with you, he won't hurt you.
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Jun 6 2004, 03:50 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,989 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 10,691 |
Wow...he must really love his xbox.
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Jun 6 2004, 04:23 PM
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 Serious As A Heart Attack. Group: Member Posts: 2,292 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,344 |
its definetely possible that he will change..what you two need to do is talk about it in a calm way and come to a compromise..if he realli cares about you..he'll see how you're feeling and you guys will compromise about the xbox or anything else you guys need to work out. in every relationship ppl will fight..if you guys realli care about each other you'll figure out how to get thru the arguments..dont let obstacles stand in your way..
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Jun 6 2004, 07:58 PM
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JeSsIcA rAyE Group: Member Posts: 782 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 15,977 |
we talk and both of us say we will be different but nothing changes... sometimes things are really good and tehn they are not soo good. That's just the type of person I am forgiving and always ending up getting walked all over.
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Jun 12 2004, 10:09 PM
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 =P Group: Member Posts: 207 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,290 |
its extremely hard to force people to change, but try talking to him and let him know that all this fighting is really hurting you. If it doesn't work, maybe you should take a break and clear things off your mind.
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