OMG CONFUSED!!:(, Yah Another One Of Those Guy Problems LOL! Options

[malimars]

Ok so there is this guy Mat I really like , We were like seeing eachother for about 3 months but not offical girlfriend and boyfriend cause everytime he asked me I said no I didnt want a boyfriend at the time . Anways , things were going really good he came and seen me every weekend (he lives 30 minutes away). He was always telling me how much he liked me and even telling the people I was his girlfriend and stuff .Than all of a sudden he dont call me or msg me for like 2 weeks so I call him and he is like can i call you back and never did . Than Im out drinking with his best friend(Ryan) who is also my friend and his bestfriend(Ryan) calls him to comeover and he is like I cant I have a girlfriend now blah blah...So obviously im mad and started to get over him. He calls his bestfriend (Ryan) one day and asks him " do you like melissa (me) cause i hope not cause i really like her" meanwhile I have not talked to him in like a month and so.Than just last weekend his bestfriend (Ryan) calls me to come over and drink I didnt answer so he left a msg when I call back Mat is there and wants to talk to me and says " what are you doing please come over I miss you I was gonna call you earlier " . I already had plans with my other guy friend Jeff so Mat freaks right out and I guess he went to a bar and was freaking and crying all night but would not tell his friends why.....Anyways go to find out this girl and him are not girlfriend/boyfriend just "BED BUDDIES" ...So can you see how I'm confused? Im not sure what to do keep him around and keep talking to him or just ditch him cause im defiently not gonna be a "bed buddie" to him!!...Please help people all the advice provided will be very much appreciated!!