Is it mean of me?, to secretly hate her? |
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 Oct 21 2006, 05:35 PM
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 roosternamedingo.  Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926  |
So I like this guy.
And since I like him, I started talking to him. It went pretty well..we talked a lot, flirted a lot, and talked on the phone a lot. It was pretty awesome since we've just known each other for about a month. But here's the catch. His ex-gf (now gf again), is his best friend. They both still like each other and she started being mean to me. Then this week, I found out that they are going out again. And just like that, our connection suddenly was handicapped. Now..it's really awkward when we talk..etc. etc. I hate her...because the fact that she didn't give me a shot at it when she had 2 tries with him before just seems selfish to me, although in reality, she's just following what she feels. Maybe I'm jealous..I don't know. But now that he stopped initiating conversations, saying hi and all that crap, what do I do? Do I back off? Try to forget him? Or just wait since they've broken up twice before and it can happen again...? Help? |
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Oct 21 2006, 07:39 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,388 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,129 |
I think you're just jealous. BIG TIME.
You just have to let him deal with her. If they're together, then he obviously still has feelings for her. Well, look at it this way: If I told you to 'follow your heart' and fight for him.. and let's say you did. So what if someone else told her that too? You just have to let them be and wait. |
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Oct 21 2006, 08:42 PM
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 What a sick, masochistic lion. Group: Member Posts: 1,853 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 460,535 |
^ yup, agreed.
sorry, i don't think he took his flirting/talking to be signs of affection towards you. if he is with his ex now, obviously he likes her, so you can't hate her just because he likes her and not you. what you've got to do now is to get over him, really. don't chase him around. and are you sure she was being mean to you? maybe you took it the wrong way. i wouldn't want another girl flirting with my boyfriend(or really soon-to-be boyfriend) though, so yeah. |
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Oct 21 2006, 09:46 PM
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roosternamedingo. Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926 |
^ she was being mean =/
I was willing to accept defeat..and all that. But she told someone to tell me that I'm a bitch for flirting too much. Flirting which by the way occured before their relationship. And now...I'm trying to stay away, but I don't wanna stop being friends with him .. =/ |
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Oct 21 2006, 11:28 PM
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What a sick, masochistic lion. Group: Member Posts: 1,853 Joined: Sep 2006 Member No: 460,535 |
QUOTE(french_fries @ Oct 22 2006, 10:46 AM)  ^ she was being mean =/ I was willing to accept defeat..and all that. But she told someone to tell me that I'm a bitch for flirting too much. Flirting which by the way occured before their relationship. And now...I'm trying to stay away, but I don't wanna stop being friends with him .. =/ eek. well... maybe you could make peace with her first. hey, maybe you could even become friends with her and find that she's not as bad as you think. :) if you guys become friends, she'll trust that you aren't trying to steal her boyfriend and you can be friends with him as usual. that's what i think. |
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Oct 21 2006, 11:56 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,388 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,129 |
Wow. Wait, so did you tell the guy about what that girl said? If you did, and he didn't believe you,
 move on.
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Oct 22 2006, 12:23 AM
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roosternamedingo. Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926 |
^ haha. he knows about the conflict. he stays out of it though.
her: she's so annoying! (his gf) him: no..I think she's cool. (guy I like) |
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Oct 22 2006, 02:07 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
she's just afraid that you might take her bf away, i agree with &/degradanca. try being friends with her.
but i say just move on.. |
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Oct 22 2006, 09:54 PM
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 chinky Group: Official Designer Posts: 2,566 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 434,437 |
^ major ditto.
it's normal to feel jealous; i feel that way all the time. you should stay friends with him but like _sarcastic_ said, move on. |
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Oct 22 2006, 10:11 PM
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 former dancerellie714 Group: Member Posts: 101 Joined: Oct 2006 Member No: 471,750 |
okay.
put this guy on the back burner...keep the connection around but dont worry about strengthening it or whatever until the girlfriend is gone....you dont want to be blamed for breaking them up because then the (ex)girlfriend will be even more pissed and more drama will happen. so...just keep that option open..but dont focus on it so much...move on to other guys...you might even find something better (ps-this doesnt mean be a whore...lol  )
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Oct 25 2006, 09:32 AM
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look for the stars as the sun goes down Group: Member Posts: 493 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 453,963 |
just find another guy and make it seem as if you forgot about the other guy. and make him jealous.
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Oct 27 2006, 12:49 PM
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gurl its your fault anyways by not being quick enough to get your man. from what i read your just jealous because that other gurl was quick enough to wisk her boyfriend away while you were still flirting/talking girl just move on! if he went out with his ex obviously he likes her and not you. i would suggest not be friends with him because it could get ugly if you keep being friends with him and his girlfriend found out.. im sure as hell i would not want my boyfriend talking with some girl who flirts with him.
good luck 
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Oct 27 2006, 09:36 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 228 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,294 |
Back off. Couples like that stick together until they're out of high school and they go their separate ways. Or they stay together forever? Anyways, in my experience, they're not going to be over anytime soon. Don;t wait around
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Oct 28 2006, 11:29 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
It's only natural for you to hate the person that you feel "took away" your guy even though you never actually went out. I felt that way too. But you really should move on and leave them alone. You don't have to end your friendship with him, but don't flirt anymore.
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| *a painefull euphoria* |
Nov 22 2006, 06:25 AM
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hes a dead cause darling.
move on hes a moron and shes a moron. and they will have moron babys |
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