umm so you guys are my last hope, i hurt HIM Options

[volcomchik2006]

sooo...I met *cris (fake name) in my junior year...and we became good friends....he ended up going out with another girl he knew for a while...but it didnt bother me...we were just friends...a few months after they broke up he asked me out...I said yes...and we ended up going out on and off for a little more than a year...I last time we broke up was my fault. I was moving soon and I saw no reason to keep it up...We had told each other that we love you, but I had taken it back...it just didnt seem right when we were together...I went out with another kid and I had apologized to *cris for leading him on...he said forget it and stopped talking to me... Before we broke up and even before we went out for the first time...we always talked on the phone...always!...and I didnt want to lost that...so I called him and tried to talk again...he wanted nothing to do with me...I recently broke up with my last boyfriend and I still want to talk to *cris...I dont know what to do...he won't even pick up the phone anymore...and I havent been happy in a while...I just wanted to know...did you think its cause I actually loved him or just because I'm not used to being without him.

I'm not used to asking for advice so any thoughts would be appreciated.

[***Lucy**]

I guess everytime that the boyfriend also used to be a close friend, after the break up things are tougher as u also lose a friend.

I guess u feel like that, probably because you were used to him.

but it could also be love..

I hope I helped abit

[*Uronacid*]

Well, you were diffeinitly attached to him. I don't think it's because you love him though. I think you just have deep rooted feelings for him. It will take time for those feelings to go away, but they will. If you keep calling him, and trying to get back with him. Then they will not. You need to stop calling him. You're putting your own life on hold for someone who is obviously expressing that he doesn't want to be with you. Don't hurt yourself over it. Move on, and learn from the situation. There are pleanty of good guys out there, and you can use what you learned in this relationship to make your future relationships better.

I understand that you're hurting. It will take time to feel normal again. Don't focus on finding another boyfriend. Just be pacient, and eventually one will come along. Have fun being single again. Find a hobby, and make new freinds. Get active. :D

[shinysparkle3]

both.
you grew dependent on him.
(not in a bad way)

you don't care for change.



i just went through the same thing.
in a little while,
you will have routines that won't
be able to change and you won't
have to worry about anything like
this again.


atleast that's what i did.

[thanhmai]

Sometimes it takes losing someone to realize how much they mean to you.
Maybe he's afraid of getting hurt again by you. Or maybe he's just lost interest in you.

But whatever the case, you will meet other new people you will be interested in just as well. Life is pretty good once you really come to realize that

[volcomchik2006]

thanks so much for the replies!

I've decided to follow your ideas and get a new hobby
I really wanted to thank you for your thoughts!

[***Lucy**]

thanks so much for the replies!

I've decided to follow your ideas and get a new hobby
I really wanted to thank you for your thoughts!

Go girl!