I feel like we're drifting. Options

[Le DaNi]

Me and my girlfriend.. been together for a while now.. almost a year. But I haven't seen much of her lately.. We just got over somewhat of a break but still I don't feel the same when I'm around her. Like if she doesn't want me around or something. We haven't talked or seen each other even for almost a week now. We used to talk over the phone for hours, but not anymore.. and if there ever is a phone call anymore it lasts but 5 minutes long.. Yet she continues to tell me she loves me. This isn't a problem when we're face to face.. but when shes not around I don't even feel like I'm her boyfriend anymore. Is she trying to tell me something? Help

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

I think you are both really bisy with what you are both doing hence the reason why your not seeing eachother as much anymore. Give her time and love. Maybe she is going through somthing that you have no clue about. Talk to her and tell her you care. She will come to relize that you really love her and care for her at the same time. Plus she might be thinking about school which is coming up in a few weeks.

[*This Confession*]

Sometimes people drift apart, easpecially over having breaks. Sometimes it does strengthen a relationships and others it makes them fall apart. Why did you guys choose to be on a break in the first place?

Also you need to talk to her, get her opinion on things and ask her how she is feeling. Show her that you care and you want to talk to him and know what shes thinking. Perhaps she worried about something or she feels the same way.


It is summer as well, school is starting really soon. And its pretty busy for a lot of people. Perhaps shes really busy and she doesn't have a lot of time on her hands, she does love you but sometimes people are busy and you have to finish one thing to get to another. Perhaps ask her how her day has been going, and what she has done. Any other questions that would end up answering your final question. Don't wait for her to call you and call her

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

It is summer as well, school is starting really soon. And its pretty busy for a lot of people. Perhaps shes really busy and she doesn't have a lot of time on her hands, she does love you but sometimes people are busy and you have to finish one thing to get to another. Perhaps ask her how her day has been going, and what she has done. Any other questions that would end up answering your final question. Don't wait for her to call you and call her

Yes. Thank you, you said it 10x better then any thing I could have said. I know people go in to crazy moad right before school starts. They start going every where. They go shopping and think about what they are going to have to put up with this up coming year. There is also some people that take school lightly and go with the flow. I just don't know which one your girl friend is.

[Le DaNi]

The break was her idea.. I wasn't a fan of it but yeah. I wanted to give her the space she wanted and now I still have that attitude as to me giving her space. But I feel as though we're too distant now and she'd rather spend time with other people than me. Which is perfectly fine but it still has me thinking where I stand in this whole thing.. Thanks for both of your replies.. I'll keep trying but if its space she wants then its what shes going to have

[*Uronacid*]

The break was her idea.. I wasn't a fan of it but yeah. I wanted to give her the space she wanted and now I still have that attitude as to me giving her space. But I feel as though we're too distant now and she'd rather spend time with other people than me. Which is perfectly fine but it still has me thinking where I stand in this whole thing.. Thanks for both of your replies.. I'll keep trying but if its space she wants then its what shes going to have

If you don't understand... talk to her about it.

other than that:

Look man, if you aren't happy with a relationship, and you need someone who is going to give you attention or act like they want to spend time with you. You need to find someone who will. This sounds so similar to my first girl friend. She took a break from me brecause she wanted space... I need someone who is willng to share things with me. In return I need to be able to share everything with them. I also need someone who will show me that they want to be with me. I know that I couldn't have it any other way. If I didn't have it that I wouldn't be happy. f you arn't happy, and you feel that you aren't happy with your relationship than I suggest you get out. You are young, and there are pleanty of other girls out there.

[stanzaonthewall]

does your girlfriend know you feel this way? If i knew my boyfriend felt that way i would go crazy...if she really loves you, then she wouldn't want to break up with you right? Time plays a big role in a relationship how much ru both willing to give to each...or do you feel like its time to split.

[Le DaNi]

Well, I honestly don't even know anymore. Should I even bother . I mean. whats the point if its only going to cause more drama, right? I suppose maybe talking to her would let everything out but how would it be any different than any other time I tried to explain the way I felt to her. It wouldn't make a difference; and it won't change anything

[*Uronacid*]

Well, I honestly don't even know anymore. Should I even bother . I mean. whats the point if its only going to cause more drama, right? I suppose maybe talking to her would let everything out but how would it be any different than any other time I tried to explain the way I felt to her. It wouldn't make a difference; and it won't change anything

Ugh... I have heard that excuse so many times... just tell her anyways, don't give up hope....

[Trinie]

me and my bf have been together for almost 8 years now. and our phone convo's last from 5mins-15 mins. not really worried about it because we are both so busy with school and work now. but back in 8th grade we used to talk on the phone for like hours and hours. i dont think you are drifting at all. just give it some time. at least she still loves you. :)