Long Distance Relationship, do you think he's being faithful?? Options

[HopeLessRomantic...]

Okay so I started goin out with this guy a little over three months ago.. when me and him both knew i was moving over the summer three states away.... we just planned on breaking up when that time came... well when the time did come we both had already fallen head over heals for each other.... so we decided to see how the long distance relationship could work out.. So far I have been gone about a month and a half and i have gone to visit for a week once.. I was with him 99% of the time i was there. we talk on the fone pretty much every day and we are constantly sendin stuff back and forth on myspace... but i'm kinda an insecure person... and i was just wondering what you guys think about it? Can guys really be 100% faithfull in a long distance relationship?? This is my first time in one.. so i don't really know..

[blacknailpolish]

Well it depends on the person. I, for example, have tried a long distance relationship before. Didn't exactly work out. We ended up not having anything to talk about anymore and we just kinda drifted apart. But we didn't atart out as well as you seem to have. I think for you it looks more promising .

[*Uronacid*]

Well, I am... :]

But anyways, I'lll give you the scoop. It's difficult being in a long distance relationship. You really have to have alot of communication. You can't look at eachother face to face so you pretty much have to learn how to express yourself over the phone. The most difficult thing is when your mad and your partner isn't and they don't realize you are angery (because they can't see your face) so then you think that they are beign a careless ass-hole when ever they start joking around with you... It gets pretty tough at times. You have to learn to deal wtih things over the phone by expressing yourself in words. I think that's probably the hardest thing... also the whole:

"wait, say that again"
*they say it*
"erf.. i'm sory say it again"
*they say it*
"omg, i'm one more time"
*they tell you to forget it*
*you get pissed*

That's annoying too...

I don't know, but I'm getting accustomed to it. When I see her in person it's totally different... It's like we don't have to talk as much becuase we can see each others faces. I'l just say this... not everyone can handle it, and if either of you think that you can't handle it. It won't work. I don't think he is going to cheat on you, but either one of you may not even be ready for a long distance relationship. Although I'm in what is (as of right now) a functional long distance relationship. I still know how difficult it can be at times, and would not recommend it to anyone. Both of you really have to go into the relationship with the "I will not give up" mentality. I suggest you think about weather you really want to do the whole long distance thing or not. If you think your ready, try it, and if you don't think so... than maybe you guys should part. There is nothing wrong with breaking up for the right reasons. You guys can always stay friends.

[msladyliberty]

You both are a fresh couple. It just depends on how much you both are willing to work it out. If you're insecure about it and can't trust him...then I don't think it's a good idea to keep him around.

I did the long distance relationship thing (except I was with him for 3 years before I moved)...we were a PACIFIC OCEAN apart! I can't drive to see him...so it was hard. It never worked out because he felt insecure...and I was changing.

I don't regret losing him...although we were very much in love...because I found someone who has shown me more to love and life than anyone ever has.

people change
and you can't help that.

[HopeLessRomantic...]

well yah i know only 3 months is a really short time to commit yourselves to a long distance relationship.. but like we've been like best friends since I can remember.. We've always kinda liked each other.. but we always had other bf's/gf's... and like we told each other we loved each other long before we were even goin out.. so liek i really do trust him completly.. i just wanted some more opinions.

[ItsAMansWorld]

hm... it depends on the person...

if you are still young you may want to break if off and look for something more tangible.

it's worth a shot though and if it doesn't work out then it doesn't work out.

[xostolenkissezox]

it really depends on the people in the relationship and i guess how strong you guys are because it's hard. i spent 7 months of my engagement as a long distance relationship and it didn't work out just because people do change and he decided other things were more important....but if you're a strong couple then it'll be easier for you to have a long distance relationship

[*Kathleen*]

well yah i know only 3 months is a really short time to commit yourselves to a long distance relationship.. but like we've been like best friends since I can remember.. We've always kinda liked each other.. but we always had other bf's/gf's... and like we told each other we loved each other long before we were even goin out.. so liek i really do trust him completly.. i just wanted some more opinions.

Well, that's good. As aforementioned, by the sound of your relationship, it sounds promising. Since you've known him for awhile, do you know if he's ever cheated on his past girlfriends? If you both love each other enough, it'll work out. You just have to learn to trust him, that's all and vice-versa.

[smoke]

Well I went out with a girl who moved a month after we started dating. We dated for year and a half and I stayed 100% faithful even though I never saw her again. She ended up cheating on me though. Hence to break up. We're still great friends today! I actually met up with her again a few months back.

Anyway, yes, guys can be 100% faithful. You just have to trust him but be smart enough not to get played.

[pinayprincess]

honestly, it really depends on the guy... you have to trust your "instinct" if he IS being faithful..... like my boyfriend, its the summer time [i guess you can say its comething like a 'summer fling'] .. i havent seen him in a while b/c of his job and my vacation... i just trust him; but i always think of it like "if he didnt want to be w/ me & cheat on me then he wouldnt be w/ me in the first place, & just dump me for the girl" .. arhgh but it doesnt always turn out that way