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 Aug 7 2006, 06:59 AM
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 (′ ･ω･｀)  Group: Official Designer Posts: 6,179 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 72,477  |
I suppose sex isn't that great anyways. There are a lot other stuff to do to show you trust your partner, not just sex.
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Aug 7 2006, 11:14 PM
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 [ yeah you bleed just to know you're alive ] Group: Member Posts: 52 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 433,453 |
You sound reeeaally nervous. If you're not ready, then I suggest to not do it! Because you might end up regretting it, etc etc. I've been with my boyfriend for 21 months now and I've learn to trust him. He's my first and I plan for him to be my last. When you have a connection with someone, sex will mean so much more than pleasure.
Don't do what everyone else is doing, it'll only make you look really low. |
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Aug 7 2006, 11:16 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,476 Joined: May 2005 Member No: 135,305 |
if you're nervous,that means you arent ready for sex.
don't do it.you're still young. |
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Aug 8 2006, 01:09 AM
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 [BRITT;;] Group: Member Posts: 764 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 433,210 |
I'm not sure what to tell you. If you want to, do it. If you don't want to, then don't.
Either way, sometime most likely in your life it's GOING to happen. You should only do it if you completely feel like you want to. It hurt me, my first time, but I didn't even think about the pain because all I could think about was how close I felt to my boyfriend, and how much I loved him. What exactly are you nervous about? |
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Aug 8 2006, 01:51 AM
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 rissa. Group: Member Posts: 621 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 436,690 |
I agree with all the people who are virgins.
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Aug 8 2006, 02:15 AM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 1 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 116,638 |
hey man, i believe in abstinence and all that----
BUT if you're gonna do it, make sure that you're smart about it. use contraceptives and all that useful junk. also, if you wanna minimize the pain, try to engage in foreplay....  on a biological perspective, the reason why it might hurt for many girls is because there isn't enough lubrication down there. so have fun and let him help you out a bit before he puts his pickle in the jar. Most girls already tear their hymen doing other physical activities like sports, so i don't think thats causes the pain so much. BUT YES, GO ABSTINENCE!!!!! what a great, but rarely applied concept. so use this information when you're good and ready (both physically and emotionally) to make love. and don't worry, even if it's the right guy- you'll still feel a little nervous....maybe its more like anticipation. i find it odd if someone isn't neervous about engaging in a very intimate interaction for the first time. shoot, even people who've done it a million times still feel that nervousness if it's a different person. anyway, no rush and good luck. make us proud. HAHA. 
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Aug 8 2006, 01:22 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 950 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,808 |
"That might be changing very soon." It sounds like you're letting the situation (or future situation) control you. YOU have to control what goes on in your life, especially if it's about something that means a lot, like in this case. Well I don't know if virginity is something you hold high...but that's another story.
One thing is that if you're in a stable relationship with this person, it'll bring you closer to them...But you gotta watch out for yourself anyway, chica. |
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Aug 8 2006, 01:55 PM
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 我爱台妹,台妹爱我 Group: Member Posts: 877 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,340 |
do it! its the most amazing experience ever and so enjoyable. besides, you gain prestige for losing ur virginity.
oh wait... ur a girl... nvm then |
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Aug 8 2006, 05:07 PM
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 roosternamedingo. Group: Member Posts: 1,211 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 333,926 |
Well..if you're having doubts, then I suggest that you not do it.
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Aug 8 2006, 05:08 PM
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 rorhinna Group: Member Posts: 331 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 432,214 |
QUOTE(lanbexx @ Aug 8 2006, 11:55 AM)  do it! its the most amazing experience ever and so enjoyable. besides, you gain prestige for losing ur virginity. oh wait... ur a girl... nvm then Honestly, I don't think that a girl OR a guy gains any kind of prestige by doing that. I think its more respectable if you wait for the right person after you get married, or when you're in college. |
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Aug 8 2006, 07:45 PM
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我爱台妹,台妹爱我 Group: Member Posts: 877 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 52,340 |
yup thats what a girl would say.
unless ur announcing it in a church, as a guy you gain a lot of prestige for losing ur virginity... at least as long as its before the 2nd year of college. girls get the label of a loose slut, guys get the label of a cool pimp. and it doesnt hurt that its one of the best experiences ever for a guy. cause they actually get pleasure out of their first time |
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Aug 8 2006, 07:56 PM
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 Two can keep a secret if one of them is dead. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,682 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 156,187 |
well ... gonna be 17 and i'm in the same boat of nervousness... i mean i have some i love and trust... but hes with someone... so i'm assed out
i mean i will try it after highschool.... cuz then i don't have to worry about school... since ur yonger than me... look for someone u love and trust... don't do it cuz everyone else is... wait till ur ready |
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Aug 10 2006, 07:49 PM
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X x L o L a x X Group: Member Posts: 66 Joined: Jun 2006 Member No: 430,749 |
well u dont really seem ready at all so id advise u to wait...im waitin til im outta skool and have a good job and when i know i can handle a child or whatver..just in case lol but ya most ppl would rather have sex waaay before then so if u wanna do it, do it but if u end up with a baby poppin out ur vagina..or lice well then ur gonna gonna have to deal with it lol...wow im terrible at giving advice lol..well actually theres more to a relationship than just sex theres lots of other stuff u can do
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Aug 10 2006, 08:34 PM
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If you're questioning it, then you are clearly not mature enough to handle sex or anything that comes along with it.
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Aug 10 2006, 08:41 PM
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 All The Girlies Say I'm Pretty Fly For A White Guy Group: Member Posts: 1,944 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 400,858 |
Well I agree with Melissa. You have to be mature about it and trust your partner. If you are so uncertain then maybe you should wait.
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Aug 11 2006, 01:55 PM
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 lindurf Group: Member Posts: 12 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 451,745 |
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Aug 11 2006, 02:33 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 6 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 405,092 |
agreed, dont do it if you feel wierd about it. but your first time is going to be really scary anyway. it might hurt, it might not. but everyone has to have a first time. and if you decide youre not comfortable with it, dont do it just because your bf wants you to. that doesnt make for a very good first time story ;)
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Aug 11 2006, 05:56 PM
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♥ Group: Official Member Posts: 4,066 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,393 |
QUOTE(lindurf @ Aug 11 2006, 2:55 PM) you should save it for marriage. i don't think people should experience the act of love until they're actually IN love. you don't need to do it because everyone else is doing it. You don't have to be married to be in love. |
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Aug 11 2006, 06:51 PM
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 Pokeball, GO! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,832 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 433,009 |
Positive? I was in love when I lost my virginity and I still am. That's positive. I think that makes sex 999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999,999 times better. All in all, if you're not sure and don't think you're ready, don't do it. That's what I did and I don't regret it one bit.
 You're guy will understand that you're not ready. If he doesn't, well, you have bigger issues than you think. 
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Aug 11 2006, 06:58 PM
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Aug 11 2006, 07:03 PM
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Pokeball, GO! Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,832 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 433,009 |
^ I can't. It's corrupted or something. I already tried to see if it was PG-13, lol.
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Aug 11 2006, 08:08 PM
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s w e e t e s t Group: Member Posts: 808 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 46,149 |
Everyone has their first times, I had mine. From past experience, I was nervous. Of course, of a girl, you would be afraid that the protectin would rip and you would eventually get pregnant. That's something that is normal for everyone to feel. Well, it was what I felt. It was a great experience for us, by making love with each other, we ensure and build up our trust even more.
You know how some girls says .. " im going to save my virginity to the one that i really love .. " .. I said that. I found my perfect guy, and I lost it to him. Not saying that I regret it, it's just that I couldn't believe it ... but it was perfect. It may hurt for you ; as it will for every other girl. You will feel pain ... but you'll get use to it and it may become pleasure after a few times you've done it afterall. So don't worry. We'll all here to support you . !!
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Aug 12 2006, 04:04 AM
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old school member Group: Member Posts: 1,796 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 843 |
 If one more person says "do it", I'm going to shoot someone. You're probably too young to start anyhoo. It's overrated, save it for the husband. If you wanna release your hormones and horny-ness...learn to deal with it. No need to f**k. 
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Aug 12 2006, 08:27 AM
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 daughter of sin Group: Member Posts: 1,653 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 386,134 |
QUOTE(xxaznxgurlxx @ Aug 11 2006, 9:08 PM) Everyone has their first times, I had mine. From past experience, I was nervous. Of course, of a girl, you would be afraid that the protectin would rip and you would eventually get pregnant. That's something that is normal for everyone to feel. Well, it was what I felt. It was a great experience for us, by making love with each other, we ensure and build up our trust even more. You know how some girls says .. " im going to save my virginity to the one that i really love .. " .. I said that. I found my perfect guy, and I lost it to him. Not saying that I regret it, it's just that I couldn't believe it ... but it was perfect. It may hurt for you ; as it will for every other girl. You will feel pain ... but you'll get use to it and it may become pleasure after a few times you've done it afterall. So don't worry. We'll all here to support you . !! Rofl.. you're 13  YEAH, man, for kids having sex!
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Aug 12 2006, 11:48 AM
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 sarcasm hides what you really feel Group: Member Posts: 550 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,105 |
well it was positive because i felt like it wasnt a one night stand. i felt that we did it, and it brought us closer instead of bringing us apart. plus it was ring dance night (jr. prom) so it was all dressy too...
and for all the people who said shes not ready. just because shes nervous doesnt mean shes not ready. hell i was nervous, and i still am every time it happens. i dont regret it though. but if you think at all, maybe we should stop. then by all means DONT DO IT. plus there are many other things you can do besides have sex... |
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