13 me - 16 them?, Age? Matters? Options

[emokimo.co.nr]

Well, does it matter? I mean the age, it's STILL somewhat cool right? Hey at least it's legal! I just wanted to know if it was wrong. Everyone said I'm TOO young... not really, right?

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[aznraver396]

Oh geez, this sounds like my scenario. Mine's just..worse. Um, I don't really know if you're "too young." A lot of kids decide to date at age 10 nowadays [as if they were ever going to have a 15 year relationship and get married to the person.. -_-] When i was 12, I really liked my friend who was 13 at the time. We knew that if we started some relationship, it would end up like any other - over and useless. We decided not to go passed the close friend line. I don't know if that could apply to you. It's not that it might be considered 'wrong,' it's more like...do you think it'd work out? Are you sure it wouldn't be a waste of time?

[OhMyAnniee]

Well, my friend is a freshman and her boyfriend is a junior. No one really cares. At first it was like "OMG. A JUNIOR?!" but now everyone's fine with it and it's no big deal now. Everyone's happy for them & they're cute together

[emokimo.co.nr]

Well see, i'm gay, he's bi. THE ONLY ONE. I heard him saying he liked me too but I don't know if we would EVER go out. I wrote him note"S" and he never writes back because he says: "I'll talk to you about it later." but he doesnt! His ex-gf said he likes me. I taked to him twice, 1, Me: "Hi" Him:"Hi", 2, Me:"Mike (that's his name), Mike, Mike!" Him:"Yes?" Me:"Here's a note" Him:"Oh, thanks". Then his friends talk about me (sometimes to him)... HMM!

[aznraver396]

Uh, yeah. I PMed you back already. xD

[emokimo.co.nr]

Yeah, me too! I guess we'll talk on there!

[evaleen]

It doesn't matter until they're 18. There's a two year buffer and if a 18 year old guy is going out with a girl who is atleast 2 years younger, that would be statutory rape.

Other than that, it doesn' matter I guess...

Well, my friend is a freshman and her boyfriend is a junior. No one really cares. At first it was like "OMG. A JUNIOR?!" but now everyone's fine with it and it's no big deal now. Everyone's happy for them & they're cute together

lol I went out with a Junior when I was a Freshman too. Everyone was more like "Dude, he's bad news." rather than "OMG he's a junior." They were right -_-

[iDecay]

It doesen't matter as long as your maturity levels are the same..

[mai_z]

as long as you liek each other, genuinely, it's okay. But at the same time, in terms of of social norms, rule of seven is good to go by:
to find the youngest age you should date, divide your age by 2 and add 7

[tokyo-rose]

I think 13 is too young to expect to have a serious relationship, but not too young to date entirely... Just make sure he doesn't try to take advantage of you because of the age difference.

[emokimo.co.nr]

THANKS TO ALL THAT REPLIED!

Fragil_BlackRose:

It doesn't matter until they're 18. There's a two year buffer and if a 18 year old guy is going out with a girl who is atleast 2 years younger, that would be statutory rape.

Other than that, it doesn' matter I guess...

So if they are 18 (when he gets there) and I am 15, we can't date becuase he would be "RAPING" me?? I don't understand, I thought it was just ILEGAL... but what if I live him too?

tic tac.

It doesen't matter as long as your maturity levels are the same..

Maturity levels? SO I CAN date him even if he's 18 and I'm 15?

mai_z

as long as you liek each other, genuinely, it's okay. But at the same time, in terms of of social norms, rule of seven is good to go by:
to find the youngest age you should date, divide your age by 2 and add 7

I like him SO much, and as far as I heard, he likes me too, so its okay? Thats good, and your "TERM" is true... im 13: 13 divided by 2 = 6 (and 1/2) + 7 =15!!! I'm 13, he's 15... YES!

Wo0yaPo0ya

I think 13 is too young to expect to have a serious relationship, but not too young to date entirely... Just make sure he doesn't try to take advantage of you because of the age difference.

13 (in my head) is when everyone starts to find themselves. I know I did! I found out I was gay... and that's okay. I hope I don't get into a serious relationship TOO soon. I know he's NOT going to take advantage because he's a quite guy, outspoken at times, but quite mostly. He is like at MY command (I'm not that way eigther), and even if he does TRY to hurt me... I know his mom... kinda!

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Other than that, I think he's a nice guy. I am hoping to talk to him soon. ANY replies would be nice!

[.lyricalLIES]

I hate to break it to you, but 13 is a young age. If you go and talk to him and you guys date, that's great, but there's a really low chance it'll last. See, I have this theory where I don't believe in love throughout the teenage years. It's not that I won't date, but it's just that it just doesn't work out. It's better to concentrate on your studies than a guy and I'm not bitter from a bad break-up.

And you say you're gay now, but you never know. Don't take this offensively, I don't mean it that way, but 13 is still you to know who you are and especially with sexual orientation. I mean, I thought I might be bi for a while and no, I wasn't. You might grow out of it, youmight not.

When it comes to friends, never listen to them. Believe it only if you heard it yourself or saw it yourself. Friends mixing in your love life = bad. Trust me. And if he's 18 and you're 15, I don't think you can date him. I'm not sure about American laws, but in Canada, it's like 5 years or something. I don't remember. My friends are dating older guys, but they have that same maturity factor. They're two of the most mature people in our year and possibly of our school.

So dating an older guy is and isn't a big thing. If you like him, he likes you and there isn't anything wrong with him, you guys should be fine.

Beh, it's up to you.

[datass]

As long as your mature and all that.

[lovescream]

(I got too lazy and read no other posts than the first one XD)

Okay. Well, IMO, 13 isn't considered young nowadays, and dating a 16 year ol d shouldn't be much of a problem? It's only a 3-year difference (also kind of hadxcore said, her friend a freshie and dating a junior) And yeah. Even though I doubt the relationship will go really far, I still wish you best of luck. You shouldn't keep your head high in hoping it gets serious or anything, but hey, it can happen.

[splitnightsky]

13 is a little young, but I'm kinda biased...
I wasn't allowed to date til I was 16 ^_^;

but nah, this doesn't really bother me...
just make sure you guys have the same beliefs in relationships
and have the same maturity level...

[emokimo.co.nr]

.lyricalLIES

I hate to break it to you, but 13 is a young age. If you go and talk to him and you guys date, that's great, but there's a really low chance it'll last. See, I have this theory where I don't believe in love throughout the teenage years. It's not that I won't date, but it's just that it just doesn't work out. It's better to concentrate on your studies than a guy and I'm not bitter from a bad break-up.

And you say you're gay now, but you never know. Don't take this offensively, I don't mean it that way, but 13 is still you to know who you are and especially with sexual orientation. I mean, I thought I might be bi for a while and no, I wasn't. You might grow out of it, youmight not.

When it comes to friends, never listen to them. Believe it only if you heard it yourself or saw it yourself. Friends mixing in your love life = bad. Trust me. And if he's 18 and you're 15, I don't think you can date him. I'm not sure about American laws, but in Canada, it's like 5 years or something. I don't remember. My friends are dating older guys, but they have that same maturity factor. They're two of the most mature people in our year and possibly of our school.

So dating an older guy is and isn't a big thing. If you like him, he likes you and there isn't anything wrong with him, you guys should be fine.

Beh, it's up to you.

OMiiGOD! Thanks that's SO touching. The chances that it will last is 5/10. We are the ONLY guys in the school that like OTHER guys. I respect that theory, but I a don't think I love that way, see I date now... only because they help you through and they are your "SOMEONE".

Okay, 13 is a young age, I know but I think i've know since like i was 11-12. Sexuality is bs... the bible says "NO!", we say "YES!"... hmm. I think homosexuality / bisexualtiy is normal... hey i your bi... way to go, if you not... way to go, see everyone is the same.

Yeah I learnd that friends are... somewhat... nonreliable. You can't trust them! HEHE! Our maturity level is HIGH... he is like the MOST popular guy in school, and he is the most WANTED guy in the school, but ever scince he found out I liked him... he rejected most of the PRETTY girls... syas something?? LMAO! Thanks for the help!

Anyone else? Advice?

Thanks to everyone that posted while i was repling to the LONG LONG reply! I want to that you guys for the advice. I hear: maturity... I think its about time to ask: "What IS mature to you?"

[lovescream]

I don't know..
Mature, IMO, should be like how well you react and handle things?
But I think in this case, it could be how well you two will be together. How well you to would be able to understand each other and communicate well enough?
IUNNNNO

[emokimo.co.nr]

He and I are BOTH involed with school (me: prsident of 7th grade||mike: chief) and we have the same perspective. He's..... similar to me!

[emokimo.co.nr]

I think, LMAO!

[.lyricalLIES]

.lyricalLIES
OMiiGOD! Thanks that's SO touching. The chances that it will last is 5/10. We are the ONLY guys in the school that like OTHER guys. I respect that theory, but I a don't think I love that way, see I date now... only because they help you through and they are your "SOMEONE".

Okay, 13 is a young age, I know but I think i've know since like i was 11-12. Sexuality is bs... the bible says "NO!", we say "YES!"... hmm. I think homosexuality / bisexualtiy is normal... hey i your bi... way to go, if you not... way to go, see everyone is the same.

Yeah I learnd that friends are... somewhat... nonreliable. You can't trust them! HEHE! Our maturity level is HIGH... he is like the MOST popular guy in school, and he is the most WANTED guy in the school, but ever scince he found out I liked him... he rejected most of the PRETTY girls... syas something?? LMAO! Thanks for the help!

Anyone else? Advice?

Thanks to everyone that posted while i was repling to the LONG LONG reply! I want to that you guys for the advice. I hear: maturity... I think its about time to ask: "What IS mature to you?"

I'm not saying that being bi-sexual or homosexual is wrong. I mean, I love bisexual boys. It's this random thing I have, but whatever. I understand what you mean by someone to help you through, but I'll give you the advice I give to everybody when they ask what should I do? I know I don't like to meddle, but I stay on the neutral side. Just get to know him and become a closer friend. Spend more time around him and see how good you guys mesh. Then, start asking yourself questions like 'if we were together, how would this change?', 'are we better off as friends?'. Basically, my idea is that you get to know him not just so you can date him, but try to get to his core personality. That way, he'll be open and more trusting and you'll see if you really like him.

And I'm sorry if I implied that one's sexuality will make you someone lesser. I didn't mean it that way. I mean, I would be completly acceptant if my friends told me they were bi or gay.

It shouldn't matter that he's popular or wanted. It should matter that you like him and there's a possibility that he likes you too. It should matter that you're trying to figure out a way to work this out. And also, see, I go to a private school and there's only one hot guy. He's most wanted and extremely popular. Pretty much every girl has tried to ask him out (including myself and all the pretty) girls at school and yet, he rejected them all. He simply didn't want a relationship (he's all school-focused). So you can consider that, too.

I'm not trying to burst anyone's bubble, I'm just putting out the possibilities and giving my opinion and hopefully, you'll just get some more thinkage done over it. Well, I unno. Sometimes you just need to do it without thiking, but I always end up looking at every aspect and possibility.

Maturity; Can you handle any situation calmly without losing your cool? Can you think straight and judge things equally? Like, say, your friend is fighting with someone else you know, but you're not that close. Can you still see both sides of the story without immediately aligning to your closer friend? There are so many thing that would make maturity for me. And to be honest, I am not mature, in my own opinion.

I hope I'm not being a pain >_< and that it's helping you... in some way.

[elaboratedream]

eh, it is a bit of an age gap... but I'm not one to talk... half of my relationships have had a two year age gap.
but three years, at your age is a major difference. imagine dating a 10 year old.

I know you also have the issue of not having many options right now... I know what that's like.
I'm bisexual, and for awhile I thought I was a lesbian... I know it was really hard to find bi/lesbian girls to date.

and also remember, relationships aren't everything. You're still really young. I know I didn't have a bf/gf until i was almost 15.

there's still plenty of time for all of that.

but i suppose if you both are on the same maturity level, and both of you share the same beliefs about relationships and shit like that, it shouldn't be a problem.

[-sincerely]

I think 13 is too young to expect to have a serious relationship, but not too young to date entirely... Just make sure he doesn't try to take advantage of you because of the age difference.

i agree 800%.

but in general
a 3 year difference isn't bad, i suppose. anything more than like 4 years i'm kinda iffy about. depends on the ages.

[emokimo.co.nr]

OK, thanks people! You guys REALLY help!

[Laughsalot]

i have bunches of friends that are older than me. like i'm 14 and they are like 16-17. nothing's wrong with that. but just be careful in that relationship when ur 13. cuz i know what an older guy thinks..

[mouse_3k]

13-16 is ok. dont expect marriage though