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 Aug 2 2006, 04:23 PM
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 tell me more.  Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640  |
i tried searching first..
when i meet a new guy its really hard for me to talk to them the same way i talk to a girl, even if im not attracted to them, at all. I have nothing to say and I cant be myself. Im shy in general, but with guys its worse. I want to be one of those girls with alot of guy friends, but i cant make it happen. im going to a new school next year, so i have a chance to make new friends. how you do act when you meet new people, guys especially. and any advice for me? |
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Aug 2 2006, 04:55 PM
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 portami via Group: Member Posts: 467 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 132,187 |
Be yourself. That's all I can say. You'll know whether it clicks or not.
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Aug 2 2006, 05:12 PM
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 Peggy. Group: Member Posts: 2,508 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 214,025 |
Find similar interest between each other and expand it. =)
Good luck! |
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Aug 2 2006, 05:23 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,799 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 37,450 |
My problem is the opposite for you.
I get along with guys REALLLY easily. How? I don't know. Most of the guys that I find myself kicking it with are boys.Yes, I have tons of other girl friends but I feel more comfortable around guys. I think it's my personality. I don't know. Plus, they really help me with my boyfriend, boy whatever problems. I like to open up to them, it's easier cus they're boys & .. yeah. Girls, they CAN help but some girls just give you the wrong advice on purpose. Jealousy & lalalala. I just think it's easier to talk to guys about certain things. & they fool around and roast on each other knowing they're just kidding. That's JUSTTTT me though . --- I think you should stop thinking about it so much. Don't think about how they're boys & maybe you should talk to them like this & about this. Be comfortable because they can tell you feel uncomfortable & you might make them feel awkward. I mean, this can happen with girls too. |
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Aug 2 2006, 05:27 PM
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 in a matter of time Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,151 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 191,357 |
If you're shy, try to find people that you can talk to, and don't force yourself to be someone else.
I get along fine with guys that act fine around me. There are some guys that try and act cool and don't say anything, and don't try to make any conversation at all. I can never really become friends with those kind of people. And if that happens to you, remember that it's not your fault that they're so incredibly boring. I am, however, great friends with a few guys that are extremely outgoing and talk about anything and everything. If you find someone who's open enough to talk to, it'll be easy for you to open up to them, too. You'll break your shyness barrier easily. And you know, that rule replies to friends of all genders, not just males. Just remember not to change yourself around too much to make friends. =) Remember, your friends should be compatible to your tastes, and you shouldn't have to change yourself to "fit in". ...wow, that was a bit repetitive. =p |
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Aug 2 2006, 06:39 PM
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 vengeance. Group: Official Member Posts: 3,058 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 437,024 |
be yourself.
thats one key rule in that. new school? join a club that your interested in, and meet people there. maybe a boy whos in that club you could talk to. 
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Aug 2 2006, 07:04 PM
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 msladyliberty Group: Member Posts: 151 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 105,766 |
Just be someone else. Don't be yourself.
 just kidding! be yourself of course. hang out with guys AND girls so that you feel more comfortable and get used it. |
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Aug 2 2006, 09:49 PM
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tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
being "myself" means being all dorky, becuase i joke around and talk too much
and i feel liek guys [or anyone new] will think im weird. i think my problem is self confidence, which isnt all that easy to fix.. |
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Aug 2 2006, 10:52 PM
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 Lose yourself and fly away, hide away for the day Group: Member Posts: 242 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 446,527 |
Be yourself, they can take it or leave it. I'm actually uncomfortable around guys, but I'm really comfortable around certain ones who happen to be my firends, or my brothers friends lol
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Aug 2 2006, 10:58 PM
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tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
yea people that are already my friends, im cool
but i cant remember how we got to be friends.. haha i guess ill just have to work on it befor school starts. |
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Aug 2 2006, 11:29 PM
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in a matter of time Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,151 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 191,357 |
Screw people who can't appreciate someone who's chatty and makes dorky jokes. If they're going to judge you based on that, then they're not worth making friends with, anyway.
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Aug 3 2006, 01:01 AM
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 Eh; Group: Member Posts: 98 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 174,385 |
When I meet people I'm just myself and act the same way I am when I'm around my friends. Just be yourself, try to find what you have in common with them, act the way you are around your other friends, and don't worry. I share similar interests with most of my guy friends. Friendship is something that just clicks. As time goes by and you meet more people your shyness might go away.
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Aug 3 2006, 01:03 AM
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vengeance. Group: Official Member Posts: 3,058 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 437,024 |
QUOTE(one_and_only @ Aug 2 2006, 10:49 PM)  being "myself" means being all dorky, becuase i joke around and talk too much and i feel liek guys [or anyone new] will think im weird. i think my problem is self confidence, which isnt all that easy to fix.. so maybe some guys find that attractive? hm. i know some boys out there that are like that. dorks are cool.
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Aug 3 2006, 01:07 AM
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 live + laugh = life [[you don't need love]] Group: Member Posts: 191 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 441,854 |
i agree with all these people just be yourself. so what if you're dorky if they're really interested in being your friend then they'll understand.
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Aug 3 2006, 01:15 AM
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vengeance. Group: Official Member Posts: 3,058 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 437,024 |
i just realized, if they don't like your for being dorky.. then their not even worth being friends with.
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Aug 3 2006, 01:23 AM
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 [BRITT;;] Group: Member Posts: 764 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 433,210 |
What would make you want to be friends with them & have a lot, at that, if it's hard in the first place?
I'm just wondering. I'm friends with almost ONLY guys, it's good but sometimes I wish I could stand being around girls enough to have girlfriends to talk to. Just be yourself. Don't end up liking every one of them; girls do that a lot. |
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Aug 3 2006, 05:54 AM
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haha awe <3
I'm a naturally shy person. Its bad, I even hide behind people. But I don't know if someone brings up a interest that I adore I just seem to have a really neat conversation with them, and I love video games and computer type things. So when ever a guy brings up video games I have these weird in depth conversations with them about them  Also I use to really be in to sports as well, so I suppose that helped. Anyway just be yourself and wait for people to come by and just listen to other people and their opinions, if you have questions ask them. Yes being shy is a down fall on actually asking questions but just think it over in your head and tell yourself you can do it and go do it! Good luck  if you believe in yourself you'll do great.
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Aug 3 2006, 09:00 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 146 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 410,319 |
i used to be really shy around boys but then i started going out more and meeting new people and now most of my friends are guys. theyre so much easier to get on with n stuff. before i used to put on anact around guys to make me seem cool and get them to like me. but now i just act myself.
just be yourself really thats the best advise. and if they dont like you for being you then f**k them! theyre not worth it! talk to guys like theyre your brother or just like a normal girl friend. (Y) |
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Aug 3 2006, 06:22 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 44 Joined: Aug 2006 Member No: 448,405 |
I talk to guys basically like I would to a girl. One of my best friends is a guy and I can tell him almost anything. My best advice is to just be yourself
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Aug 3 2006, 07:27 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,220 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,808 |
for acting around guys: i act myself.. idc if they judge me for being too girly or 'not' girly .. w/e. recently ive met a new guy [well i knew him but not like THAT] and when i hung/hang out w/ him i act like Myself.. i dont have anything to hide.. it turns out this guy likes me for that [i mean more than a friend] he likes me for being myself !
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Aug 3 2006, 10:27 PM
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 rissa. Group: Member Posts: 621 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 436,690 |
Just always tell yourself, "He's cool... I'm not into him like that so I shouldn't be scared!" It's always good to have things in common with guys. Even just little things such as humor. Don't try to have things in common if you don't feel like yourself though. That is what you don't want to do.
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Aug 4 2006, 12:40 AM
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tell me more. Group: Official Member Posts: 2,798 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 35,640 |
thanks for the advice! :]
ill try all this out at my kind of new church haha |
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Aug 4 2006, 10:44 AM
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Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 3,459 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 328,021 |
QUOTE(one_and_only @ Aug 2 2006, 10:49 PM) being "myself" means being all dorky, becuase i joke around and talk too much and i feel liek guys [or anyone new] will think im weird. i think my problem is self confidence, which isnt all that easy to fix.. Psh. Nonsense. Look at me, I'm definitely what a lot of people would call dorky (-slaps on glasses and braces- "If you're sine squared, then I'm cosine squared! Together, we make ONE!"). And I'm definitely weird. Actually, I'd rather call it quirky, but whatever. The point is, it doesn't matter who you are. Your friends should be the ones who appreciate you for who you are, not who you pretend to be. If they love you for who you aren't, what's going to happen when you actually be yourself? |
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Aug 4 2006, 10:59 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Head Staff Posts: 18,173 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 108,478 |
I have a lot of guy friends and I find it easier to make friends with them than with girls. It depends what you're interested in. Just try to find people who like the same things you do. The good thing about having guy friends is you can do stupid things and they won't think you're a spaz. They might call you a dork, but they don't mean it [in a bad way].
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Aug 4 2006, 05:12 PM
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 the name is ada. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 |
Don`t change..just be yourself..let things come naturally.
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