philosophical question Options

[sadolakced acid]

Which is better? To keep loving someone you can never have, or stop loving and walk away?

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Not stop loving and walk away, but stop loving that person and walk away. To stop loving entirely is ... horrible. I'd rather walk away from the one I love and devote my time and energy to getting over him and finding someone to love me the way I love them, than pining over someone I already know I have no chance with.

[*Programmer*]

stop loving that individual and walk away. But somtimes if the person really means somthing to you it's hard.

[LOWinSKANK]

oh wow.
i don't even want to think about that.

[Mr. Slowjamz]

to not stop loving and walk-away ....yeaap .

[sadolakced acid]

stop loving only that person isn't a choice for a reason.

because it's pretty hard to get over something like that. i mean, you didn't even get to love and lose, you just lost.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Oh then that's a harder decision.

But I'd choose loving someone I can never have, but be really good friends and I'd work my way into being his best friend. It would hurt seeing him love others, and knowing all his secrets and how he feels about other girls but as long as he is happy, I would be content with that even though I know I'd be lost in a love that I couldn't find a way out of. Because eventually I would fall out of that love, if that's an option.

[pinayprincess]

b' date='Jul 18 2006, 1:06 AM' post='2161424']
Not stop loving and walk away, but stop loving that person and walk away. To stop loving entirely is ... horrible. I'd rather walk away from the one I love and devote my time and energy to getting over him and finding someone to love me the way I love them, than pining over someone I already know I have no chance with.

i totally agree.... its better to walk away from the one you love than NOT to love at all... i did that to my ex.. i still love him no doubt about that; we both know we arent at the right place/time to be together [again], though even if we arent together we still have a bond - connection [sounds chessy] but he still my love and i am for him

[Jane Doe.]

I was in a situation where I had to decide that exact same thing.
I honestly did want to walk away and to stop loving entirely. I didn't want to go through something like that again, especially believing that only the same will happen again.
Of course, I wanted to become cold and to not emote any longer.. which I guess I still do.

I haven't exactly walked away, though. I continue speaking to this person, and I am trying hard to only want them as a friend and not care for them in this way--but at the same time, I want to stop feeling this way and to not let it happen again.
God this is hard.

Well, I'm walking away and giving up my feelings for them and any chances of ever caring for someone else, so I guess I'll pick the latter.

[lyin_in_wait]

uhm. well you can love them from a distance and act like you walked away. but if its an unhealthy love then i say move on completely and find some one new

[pedophile]

To be honest, I'd rather stop loving at all & just walk away.
Yes, it might sound cold-hearted & selfish, but I have my reasons.
Whenever I DO love someone [not as in a guy or w/e], the person either turns out to be taking advantage of me or doesn't really love me back.
It really hurts, & if I don't love at all, this wouldn't affect me in any way.
But if I stay loving someone I can never have, I probably won't be able to move on since it hurts me so much & therefore will pretty much fcuk up my life.

If I stopped loving altogether, yes, it would hurt those who really care about me, but atleast I'd be happier.
But if I stayed loving that person, not only would I be getting hurt, but those who really care about me will also be getting hurt w/ me in the process, so it all evens out.

Gahh, actually idk what I'd prefer.

[Shahin]

Stop lovin all together. I wouldn't be able to take the girl i loved cupcakin with other dudes.

[pinacoolada]

stop loving that individual and move on..
which is hard for me because I feel like I should wait for him to come back. So I'm stopping myself from completely moving on.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

stop loving and move on because its harder for me to know everyday that i love that person and i know that they can never love me back it would be like constant torture! =(

[PrincessAda]

I`d say stop and keep walkin`..someone who makes you wait..ain`t worth it.

[*Shinji_Mimura*]

Do I want to keep killing myself, clinging on to that non-existant hope that one day I'll be loved back? Yes.

[*Libertie*]

Keep loving, even if it hurts. If you walk away it will hurt twice as much.

[_sarcastic_]

to keep loving but can't have that person

[*baby_in_blue*]

keep lovin`.

[tbabbyx3]

b' date='Jul 18 2006, 12:06 AM' post='2161424']
Not stop loving and walk away, but stop loving that person and walk away. To stop loving entirely is ... horrible. I'd rather walk away from the one I love and devote my time and energy to getting over him and finding someone to love me the way I love them, than pining over someone I already know I have no chance with.

yeahhhhh what she said :)

[*Uronacid*]

Well, you should love everyone... If you mean love someone boy-girl relationship-wise. Then I would suggest that if you know for a fact that it will probably never happen. You shouldn't waste that on someone who will never feel the same way about you. You should still love them, but not in that way. There are so many different kinds of love.

[shattered00dream]

stop loving that person and move on. the longer you like them, the more and harder it's gonna hurt and move on later

[msladyliberty]

keep loving...to stop is even harder.

[SarahxJoy]

I agree with Bella. To stop loving that person and walk away, but not give up entirely on love.

[emazing]

If you really do have feelings/love that person, then you can't just immediately stop loving them and walk away. I think it's better for you to keep on loving that person & just continue with your life. Distractions can be swell.