Do you like giving advice?, on relationships? Options

[smoke]

All my friends think I give the best advice and always come to me when they have problems, especially relationships. The ironic thing is that I never like giving out advice, but I do anyway. It's such an uneasy topic. I'm always afraid I'll give them wrong advice and ruin their love life, haha.

So, how do you feel when people come to you for advice on relationships?

[PrincessAda]

I feel smart.ahahaha like I`m smart enough to choose choices for other people.

[RoseTRAX]

Yea i feel smart too.
It feels good to help them out and give them choices on decisions.
They say i give good advice also and i really do.
Except if i do it's like a long lecture.

[sprezzatura]

I do. But it's usually more to friends because I know more about them and easier to give advice to. Like in CB, some people didn't provide enough information to me to give the best advice as possible.

[smoke]

Yeah, I mean I like it too. It feels good when you give out good advice. I'm just worried I'll give out bad advice, lol.

[marzipan]

hmmm, well i give advice to my friends a lot, so i guess i do. even though sometimes they don't follow my advice and end up in a mess.

[vn_cuti3]

are you kidding me i LOVE giving out advices. my friends say they're good advice even though i point out all the negetive stuff [that makes my friends feel bad about themselves] when i give them advices.....

[cassjamminx]

Yeah, I mean I like it too. It feels good when you give out good advice. I'm just worried I'll give out bad advice, lol.

i agree. i like giving advice because i know my intent is that i'm helping someone. what i dont like about it is the fear of making their situation worse, and it having bad ripples.

[femmefatale4160]

Well, since I'm "the experienced one," I give pretty good advice and I don't mind doing it.

[*This Confession*]

Mostly everyone I know comes to me for relationship advice. I always found it kind of odd in a way. But I never made a relationship go sour by the advice I gave them. So I suppose I was good at it. I stopped for a while though because people kept telling me that I should be a relationship cousilar [sp] and I didn't want to do that when i got older so i quit and told them to figure it out for themself. But then they went out searching for bad advice and over time I decided to give it again, I enjoy it I suppose. I don't like wasting my time though and when you spend a really long time helping them and then they just avoid the advice given, but atleast they heard it.

[Looow]

No. I can barely give advice to myself.

I mean, I'll do my best when I'm asked to but it's not something I love to do.

[ubeonmymind]

i feel smart too especially wen the advice works out good i love it i feel happy lol

[lyin_in_wait]

when they do come, i try to help them make the decision for themselves, i never say well dump her, leave him, do this. i let them know my opinion and they take it from there, so in their heart they know they made the right decision and not because of me.

[*Uronacid*]

I guess I have always given my friends relationship advice, but I never really told them what to do, and when they really bugged me for advice I told them what I would do.

If you want to avoid telling people exactly what to do so that you don't give them bad advice, you need to tell them things that will them them come to their own conclusions, and at the same time lead them to make choices that are morally right. Just talk to them, share your views and opinions about the subject, and help them find a positive solution to thier problems instead of tellng them exactly what to do.

[AngelinaTaylor]

I like giving advice. People always come to me because they know I'll tell them everything exactly as it is, without any sugarcoating.

[*Uronacid*]

I like giving advice. People always come to me because they know I'll tell them everything exactly as it is, without any sugarcoating.

this is a good thing and alot of times people really need this, but sometimes I think you are too generic. Although you are telling the truth, people need answers that help them think about there problems, and help them fix them.

You can tell someone how it is, but if you don't help them fix the problem then nothing is solved... many times people already know the truth, and need help on where to go from there... At that piont a simple prophetic statement from you won't fix the problem...

[AngelinaTaylor]

this is a good thing and alot of times people really need this, but sometimes I think you are too generic. Although you are telling the truth, people need answers that help them think about there problems, and help them fix them.

You can tell someone how it is, but if you don't help them fix the problem then nothing is solved... many times people already know the truth, and need help on where to go from there... At that piont a simple prophetic statement from you won't fix the problem...

And what makes you think I don't help them fix their problems? That's exactly what they want me to do, so I do it. I think you misinterpreted my post. I'm not one of those people who always say, "Oh, honey, it's going to be okay!" and leave it at that..

[*Uronacid*]

And what makes you think I don't help them fix their problems? That's exactly what they want me to do, so I do it. I think you misinterpreted my post. I'm not one of those people who always say, "Oh, honey, it's going to be okay!" and leave it at that..

Yeah you are one of those people who says, "THIS IS YOUR PROBLEM!!! DO THIS!!!!"

I like giving advice. People always come to me because they know I'll tell them everything exactly as it is, without any sugarcoating.

look at what you said here... I mean, there is so much that you didn't say. Like why do you do it, what makes you believe that you think that it's the best thing to do? you don't explain what you write... It leads me to believe you do even know why you do things... like thre is no reasoning behind what you think... you just think its the right thing, and thats that...

[AngelinaTaylor]

Yeah you are one of those people who says, "THIS IS YOUR PROBLEM!!! DO THIS!!!!"

Close, but not quite. I usually say what people need to hear. Not what they want to hear.

[*Uronacid*]

sorry i edited my post.... ^look up >>

[AngelinaTaylor]

Yeah you are one of those people who says, "THIS IS YOUR PROBLEM!!! DO THIS!!!!"
look at what you said here... I mean, there is so much that you didn't say. Like why do you do it, what makes you believe that you think that it's the best thing to do? you don't explain what you write... It leads me to believe you do even know why you do things... like thre is no reasoning behind what you think... you just think its the right thing, and thats that...

Why must I say so little with so many words? It's short and to the point. That's how I like it ;) I really dislike the whole rambling on for numerious pages if all you wanted to say was, "He's not good enough and you know it; break up."

So why must I explain why I choose to do that? So that it can make sense to people? I'm sure they understand it perfectly. Which part didn't you get?

What makes me believe it's the best thing to do? It may not even be the best thing. I just say what I think - and I give advice from experience, mostly. If I don't think it's right, I won't give it. You can never tell a person what to do - they decide for themselves. The only thing you can do is give in your insight. If they like it, they'll take it.

That better? Man.

Edit: As much as I'd love to chat, I gotta go to work (*kills self*). Bottom line: lots of people like my advice. Well, once they get used to the fact that it's a bit different than what others say. Many people hate it from the beginning, but now a lot of people come to me for advice :) Anyway I gotta go enjoy my slow death.

[*Uronacid*]

Why must I say so little with so many words? It's short and to the point. That's how I like it ;) I really dislike the whole rambling on for numerious pages if all you wanted to say was,
So why must I explain why I choose to do that? So that it can make sense to people? I'm sure they understand it perfectly. Which part didn't you get?

What makes me believe it's the best thing to do? It may not even be the best thing. I just say what I think - and I give advice from experience, mostly. If I don't think it's right, I won't give it. You can never tell a person what to do - they decide for themselves. The only thing you can do is give in your insight. If they like it, they'll take it.

That better? Man.

alright, well... I'll be honest. moast of the time I do think you have good advice, but you do need to explain to people why you are telling them to do something. Yes, I agree it is much easier to be short and to the point, but people easily can take you the wrong way.

You are expecting people to completely understand, "He's not good enough and you know it; break up." The only reason that they post on here is becuase THEY DON'T KNOW, and although that may be good advice. You really need to explain things...

[oXMuhNirvanaXo]

Im good at giving out advice.. All my friends are no help to me though.. well some times..

:-/

[AngelinaTaylor]

alright, well... I'll be honest. moast of the time I do think you have good advice, but you do need to explain to people why you are telling them to do something. Yes, I agree it is much easier to be short and to the point, but people easily can take you the wrong way.

You are expecting people to completely understand, "He's not good enough and you know it; break up." The only reason that they post on here is becuase THEY DON'T KNOW, and although that may be good advice. You really need to explain things...

I do explain what I say, when I think it's not clear. For instance, I'll often say something like this: he's not good enough - he abuses you, he's cheated on you and he treats you like a piece of shit. It's obvious. You deserve better - leave him.

Anyway - I'm off.

[*Uronacid*]

lol, XD.. I don't know what to tell you... xD