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[pinayprincess]

ok ive been w/ my bf over a week and a half now. hes a pretty cool guy, the only problem is that me & him havent seen each other since the day hes asked me out... we've talked only once on the phone. yeah yeah talking to him would do something but really, i dont know when i can b/c he works and for me to try to call hes always tired [im assuming]; the crazy part about it [i guess] is that we both live in the city, so its pretty easy to see each other [if we do/did have the chance] but to get to the point, should i end it now? i do like him but the communication w/ him is DEAD.. AND THEN theres this other guy... [ill continue later]

[SarahxJoy]

I have a friend with the same problem, except for the fact that her and her boyfriend haven't seen each other in a month. But they do talk often, which helps.

Hrm, I say even if you're unsure of whether or not he'll be up to talking with you over the phone after work, give it a shot anyway. You never know 'til you try. Also, if he's always tired and never willing to talk to you, even just over the phone, then maybe he's not as comitted to the relationship as he should be in order to help make things work..

If there is no possible way for you two to see each other often or at least even every once in a while, then I say break things off because in the long run, it'll go nowhere.

[pinayprincess]

[sry to double post]

but its like hes the 'good' guy most girls look for, and yeah he can talk, its just that first [and probably last] phone call we had; he kept mentioning "oh this is akward" and whenever there were pauses he said "uhh idk what else to say" [and HES the one who called me!]....

[SarahxJoy]

Maybe he's just nervous since you two haven't been together for that long yet..

If you want, you can either be the one to call him and try to think of more things to say to avoid the awkward pauses. Or you can figure out some way to visit him sometime soon.

That is, if you still want to keep this relationship going.

[PrincessAda]

Its only been a week and a half..not like its months or years..Maybe you should tell him to take a day off or so so you guys can be together.

[cassjamminx]

see if you guys can meet up and if that goes well then maybe you dont have to break it off. if you know he wants to talk to you but he's so busy, then don't break it off, see how things go. but if he's not calling because he doesn't want to talk to you, then that's not that cool..

[danginja]

Give it time. People take time to adjust to certain situations. I mean I'm having the same problem with my girlfriend. We don't talk as much as we should or see each other as much as we should be I mean give it sometime sooner or later he will feel an urge inside of him to want to talk to you if two have the connection. But I mean its all different for people.

[AngelinaTaylor]

I don't understand your problem.

He has a phone, right? Then call him, and say "Hey, wanna hang out?"

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

wow the communication is BAD. well he has to at some point find time for you. he has to take at least a day off so you guys can talk more..thats not a good sign if he does not know what to talk to you about it usually means ( SOMETIMES) that he doesnt know that much about you and what you want to talk about.

i agree with Angelina Taylor. call him up and hang out.

[pinayprincess]

[sry to double post.. again]

exactly [about him not knowing what to talk about] my friends find it easy if i DO talk or they talk for me.. but he just thinks its "all good".. i mean we are soo uncomfortable w/ each other [from the looks of it] and my friends say its better to GET comfortable while your in the relationship... idk-- just a few minutes ago i had a huge break down w/ this problem =( i really dont know what to do [besides the calling him]

[cassjamminx]

^ well if you're comfortable about this, doesn't that mean you've been talking to him to get that way? or been seeing him & hanging out?

Angelina Taylor said that why don't YOU just call him?

i understand that you said that he works, but i wouldn't assume that he works 24 hours in a day, and if he's tired, then just talk at night and fall asleep on the phone together, then. ..

there's no excuse as to why you can't call.

[dorkk-ie]

if the communication is sooo horrible, why are you guys together?
try one more phone call, or ask him to hang out, if it's awkward, you guys really aren't really that compatitible, or know each other that welll.

[AngelinaTaylor]

Why are you together again? ...

[pinayprincess]

lol b/c we like [or liked] each other... i honestly am out of my mind w/ this relationship and he just doesnt know the begining of how i feel

[cassjamminx]

if you have to have "[or liked]" as an option you're obviously having doubts.

save yourself a heartbreak.
communicate by calling yourself.
or walk away...

i know it'll be hard. but it seems like you're having doubts regardless.

[iROCKYOURSOCKS]

if the communication is sooo horrible, why are you guys together?
try one more phone call, or ask him to hang out, if it's awkward, you guys really aren't really that compatitible, or know each other that welll.

yawp i agree..and i wanna take a wild guess at this but how long have you guys really got to know each other before you went out? i guess not that long.. that might be the problem becuz this is EXACTLY what happend to me like three years ago..my ex and i didnt talk at all because we went out way to soon and never got to kno each other..so we never talked because i didnt even know what he liked and he didnt even know what i liked so it ended up preetty quick.

[pinayprincess]

[update]: ive tried contacting him... i guess i'm just going to stick with him.. give it a while....

[*Shinji_Mimura*]

He's cheating on you. With a girl from the suburbs.

[pinayprincess]

[Untrue Paradox]

i dunno about sticking together since hes not too comfortable with u...i dont see the point of being together...

anyways if u wanna then u can find out where he works and when he gets out and meet up with him after work...

[pinayprincess]

he works in washington heights and i live near alphabet city

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