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Unwanted sex appears common in some teen relationships
*mipadi*
post Jun 15 2006, 08:43 AM
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From Medical News Today:
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Many adolescent girls report being threatened or pressured by their partners into having sex, potentially increasing their risk for sexually transmitted infections and pregnancies, according to an article in the June issue of Archives of Pediatrics & Adolescent Medicine, one of the JAMA/Archives journals.

Unwanted sex in the form of coercion and rape can harm mental and physical health and has been linked to depression, anxiety disorders, unplanned pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections (STIs), according to background information in the article. This type of sexual pressure or force can occur in a wide range of relationships, from those in which partners have just met to long-term partnerships.

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post Jun 15 2006, 08:54 AM
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As messed up as it may seem, I believe it 100%. I hang out with a lot of girls and they usually tell me how they hate guys because they're assholes. They just use girls for sex and sometimes to take their virginity which is very a-hole like. These guys feed these girls lies to make them "give it up" to them. I hate guys like that.
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 09:32 AM
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I can believe that. I know so many women who have reported being raped by their own boyfriends. Its really sad because now they don't really wanna tell anyone and its a huge mental burden just being around the person who you thought would care deeply for you.
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 09:40 AM
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Yeah, isn't physical and sexual abuse more common amongst coming from husbands, boyfriends, and other males that the woman already knows, rather than actual random strangers?
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 10:23 AM
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Yup, thats what the stats say.
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 10:28 AM
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So true. I can see it all around me...
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 10:36 AM
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true....so true. i think about 5 girl i know have been raped in the past 2 years...from unwanted sex with there boyfriends...3 are locked up...and the other two our out on bail....the world is messed up..
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 11:12 AM
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Yeahhh..uh..Duh. Some guys can be very convincing, what with all the lies they tell these girls. Quite sad.
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 11:15 AM
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Jinkies. ermm.gif

It's not that I don't have sympathy for those who fall for and succumb to that type of pressure. It's just not something I can relate to. I don't know... I've never had a difficult time saying "no" - even at the risk of being alienated.

*sighs*

I so don't miss the teenage years though. I really don't. sad.gif
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 11:50 AM
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WOO Just my kind of topic.

QUOTE(Ajmalhuuss @ Jun 15 2006, 10:32 AM) *
I can believe that. I know so many women who have reported being raped by their own boyfriends. Its really sad because now they don't really wanna tell anyone and its a huge mental burden just being around the person who you thought would care deeply for you.


People can get over the whole rape thing, a lot of people out there no someone out there has it a lot worse and learn to move on with their life and not live with the mental/ emotional problems.


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Yeah, isn't physical and sexual abuse more common amongst coming from husbands, boyfriends, and other males that the woman already knows, rather than actual random strangers?


yea its been proven that people get raped or sexual abused more by people they actually know then completely strangers. I've said that somewhere else I believe.


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true....so true. i think about 5 girl i know have been raped in the past 2 years...from unwanted sex with there boyfriends...3 are locked up...and the other two our out on bail....the world is messed up..


the world isn't messed up, Just some people are. People read up on these things I mean if you search on the internet you can find stuff where it tells you exactly how to rape someone. People can go to school to be a criminal psychologist and completely know how to rape someone and emotionally lead them on the whole way and get away with it. Its how people learn things and how people take life. You can't say the world is messed up because then your saying everything and everyone is messed up.
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 11:56 AM
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QUOTE(This Confession @ Jun 15 2006, 12:50 PM) *
WOO Just my kind of topic.
People can get over the whole rape thing, a lot of people out there no someone out there has it a lot worse and learn to move on with their life and not live with the mental/ emotional problems.
yea its been proven that people get raped or sexual abused more by people they actually know then completely strangers. I've said that somewhere else I believe.
the world isn't messed up, Just some people are. People read up on these things I mean if you search on the internet you can find stuff where it tells you exactly how to rape someone. People can go to school to be a criminal psychologist and completely know how to rape someone and emotionally lead them on the whole way and get away with it. Its how people learn things and how people take life. You can't say the world is messed up because then your saying everything and everyone is messed up.


*hugs and kisses*

she's right. happy.gif

many people are messed up, becuase they are all looking out for themselves.... become as selfless as you possibly can. It takes practice, but its totally worth it. :D

Give to Receive... *husg and kisses*
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 12:01 PM
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QUOTE(This Confession @ Jun 15 2006, 12:50 PM) *
People can get over the whole rape thing, a lot of people out there no someone out there has it a lot worse and learn to move on with their life and not live with the mental/ emotional problems.

Telling someone that others have it worse doesn't really help people get over the trauma of rape—or any traumatic situation, for that matter. Things that are personal are naturally harder to get over, even if someone else is worse off.
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 12:07 PM
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People can still get over them, everything takes time. And if you think of things in different perspectives it helps. But if someone sits there and holds it against the world because they got sexually abused/raped. They need to move on. Not everyone is the same and such and it does take different things like going to a shrink and such. But its better then crying to the world about it.
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 12:12 PM
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I'm with you to an extent, Holly.

I can tell you from first-hand experience that some things, particularly when dealing sexual violence can't just be *overcome*.

If anything, I don't think that people (women specifically) cry *enough* about it. It's really scary, knowing that there are so many acts of sexual violence that *aren't* reported either out of fear, or out of not wanting people to hear them, well, bitch about things.
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 12:16 PM
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There also people out there that get told if they ever want to live again or if they want to be raped again then not to tell a soul. And people live with that guilt. All they can do is move on and forget it. Its not like you can clear it from your memory completely but you leave it to the back of your mind to a extent that it doesn't bring you down everyday.

Theres so many stories about people being raped that you can't explain every emotion or story as a example for people to understand. People learn how to move on though. Its all you can do in the end. Its better then living everyday depressed about it.
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 12:28 PM
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I never said people should stay depressed about it and "blame it on the world"; rather, I said that people need help and support to get over it, and it's not supportive to merely tell them, "Well, others have had worse happen, so you should just deal." People need to feel free to seek support for rape—and any traumatic experience.

In fact, Zatanna pretty much just echoed exactly what I said.
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 12:29 PM
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And i'm saying that all don't need that.
Which i said above it differes from person to person
Atleast i think i did. I don't know i'm to lazy to scroll up and look.
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 12:30 PM
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QUOTE(This Confession @ Jun 15 2006, 1:29 PM) *
And i'm saying that all don't need that.
Which i said above it differes from person to person
Atleast i think i did. I don't know i'm to lazy to scroll up and look.

They don't need help and support to get over things like rape?
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 12:34 PM
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some don't
Some just live with it.
 
*mipadi*
post Jun 15 2006, 12:37 PM
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QUOTE(This Confession @ Jun 15 2006, 1:34 PM) *
some don't
Some just live with it.

So, just to be clear, you're saying that in traumatic events, there are two ways to deal with it:
  1. Deal with it on your own and get over it yourself (without any help and support from friends, family, or professionals);
  2. Don't get over it at all.
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 12:41 PM
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I hate how some people don't ever think more into things mellow.gif

1. Deal with it on your own. No help from others, people are very independent sometimes and don't want others sympathy over things and don't want others in their business about it all, asking questions about it and such.

2. Go get help, talk to as many people as possible go to psychologist and talk to them their always going to be there, they won't exactly be the top on the list of the caring matter but there always there to listen. Of course its their job to listen to your problems. and talk to you about them.


I never said for someone to never get over it.
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 12:43 PM
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You do know that's pretty much what I just said; the fact that you were arguing so adamantly is why I asked for clarification a number of times. wink.gif
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 12:44 PM
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which explains so much of why i don't deal with this tyoe of subject with some people. mellow.gif


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post Jun 15 2006, 12:45 PM
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QUOTE(This Confession @ Jun 15 2006, 1:44 PM) *
which explains so much of why i don't deal with this stuff with some people. mellow.gif

What exactly is that supposed to mean?
 
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post Jun 15 2006, 12:54 PM
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what it says.
 
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