i need advice =/, age difference.. Options

[elleiien]

hmm..well me & this guy dated in november then we took a break & we are deciding now if we should date again. well i think he's the one..like i can talk to him about almost anything & i feel confortable telling him anything. - Other guys i've dated i dont really feel like i can talk to them on the phone cuz i guess nothing to say ? but with him we talk about everything hehe. well the part i need help with. Im 14 he's 17 turning 18 in june. im turning 15 in november. My friends keep telling me he's gonna go to jail. So i dont know what to do. I've talked to him about it he told me not to worry about it that if i feel that is keeping us apart maybe we should just be friends. i havent gave him an answer yet because i dont wanna be friends & i know if i tell him iw ant to i will regret it so much.
please help me

[*This Confession*]

awe
don't worry about age
its just a number
I'm 14 as well turning 15 in June
and my bf is 19 turning 20 at the end of this month..

"you think hes the one"
what do you mean by that to lose your virginity to or something??
If so then yea its illegal..
and if your worrying so much then don't do it..

if your just talking about being with him
if you really care and like him
then yea go for it if you want.
Unless your worried about what your friends are saying..

also its not illegal to be in a relationship with them
its against the law to sleep with them
because its considered rape.


any other questions?
because if you jsut give me questions i can answer this whole thing easier

[mary_anns]

he's not going to go to jail unless he does something like rape you or your parents are so uncomfortable with it that they say he does to the police...

i was [am] in the same situation - TAKE NOTE (pls) just bkus you feel like you can talk to him "about almost anything" may at the moment feel like a hunge indicator of a possible connection, it is not everything. as ugly as it may be, sit down and think about if he's into being in a relationship with you for the "other" reasons.

plus, how do you know you will regret just being friends? you could just wait till your older and not be afraid anymore.

[PrincessAda]

Age is just a number.Its not illegal or nothing so you have nothing to worry about.

[*Uronacid*]

yeah, age is just a number, altho, the whole sex thing comes into play and then its sh*t load of hell... tension will grow believe me... O_o just don't get all sexy with him... or at least not until you're of legal age... -_-.... :/

hey check this out... its just a few things i deal with...
http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=134636
i thought it might give you a head up on what he may have to deal with when things get tough... :/

[Paradox of Life]

Once he turns 18, it won't be legal for you to have sex with him, and you may feel the urge to do it. As far as psychology, age is just a number, but just be careful. Older guys can have some raging hormones, and you can't always trust them.

[NoSex]

but just be careful. Older guys can have some raging hormones, and you can't always trust them.

That's funny. I tend to have alot of trouble trusting 14 year old girls.
Although, I guess I also have trouble trusting 18 year olds who have a vested interest in dating those same 14 year old girls. Hmmmm.

Points voided. Voice disapears. Fire walk with me.

[*Teenage Mutant Ninja Meg*]

I don't think age really matters that much, but you probably should be more aware when you're around him. I'm sure he's a great guy, but I've heard of stories about older men taking advantage of younger girls, and I don't want that to happen to you (not that I'm saying it would). It's only illegal if you have sex, as it is considered statutory rape.

Bottom line, numbers don't matter, so I wouldn't worry... just be careful.

Once he turns 18, it won't be legal for you to have sex with him, and you may feel the urge to do it. As far as psychology, age is just a number, but just be careful. Older guys can have some raging hormones, and you can't always trust them.

Isn't it illegal for an 18-year-old to have sex with a girl who is under that age? That's statutory rape. I think they both have to be 18+ for it to be legal.

[Something Vague]

I think everyone knows by now that age is not an issue [+16]
However, you're 14 and I do think that's a problem.
and everything I have to say on the subject....

Once he turns 18, it won't be legal for you to have sex with him, and you may feel the urge to do it. As far as psychology, age is just a number, but just be careful. Older guys can have some raging hormones, and you can't always trust them.

You're 14. You haven't lived quite long enough to know if any guy is 'the one'. Girls your age are having crushes. Not falling in love.

[*This Confession*]

Isn't it illegal for an 18-year-old to have sex with a girl who is under that age? That's statutory rape. I think they both have to be 18+ for it to be legal.

the age differs from states.
like maryland its 16.. so you have to be 16 yrs or older to have sex with a guy thats over 18
north carolina its like 17
and other states are different
most its 18

You're 14. You haven't lived quite long enough to know if any guy is 'the one'. Girls your age are having crushes. Not falling in love.

this day and age
people mature quicker than what people think
so you can't really say that.

[Paradox of Life]

Isn't it illegal for an 18-year-old to have sex with a girl who is under that age? That's statutory rape. I think they both have to be 18+ for it to be legal.

That's what I was saying. Anyway, a lot of people don't even date at age 14. Dating someone that's about to go to college when you're getting ready for highschool is a huge risk. What do you think he'll be doing as soon as he can drink and hang out with his friends at the bar?

[*Ox_Su`Zie*]

This happens all the time. You say hes "the one" but sweetie youre only 14 years old i dont think theres anything wrong with the age i just dont think you should see him as the one because you have a long time to live and who knows maybe he is and maybe he isnt y'know? Im just telling you, be with him have a greate time with him but dont do anything silly.

[shoumar]

Yeah... Age don't really matter if you really love the person. My gurl is 17 and I'm 23. Don't worry about Age. Its the least thing you should worry about, except parents. lolz.

[marzipan]

also its not illegal to be in a relationship with them
its against the law to sleep with them
because its considered rape.

right. it's not illegal to date him!

you're 14. how do you know if he's the one?

[elleiien]

hmm..thanks alot =D
well im not counting on having sex with him or anything well at least not anytime soon. i think he's the one...for me like to date not to have sex..not the one to like marry..yet...just to date. ya' know ?
mmkays well thanks

[Something Vague]

the age differs from states.
like maryland its 16.. so you have to be 16 yrs or older to have sex with a guy thats over 18
north carolina its like 17
and other states are different
most its 18
this day and age
people mature quicker than what people think
so you can't really say that.

Who cares if they are mature? It isn't about maturity.That isn't the point.

[*This Confession*]

it is a matter if your mature or not.


i mean you go on and on
about how people don't know what love is
do you even know what love is to even say that?

the only part i quoted and that was to you
was this

You -You're 14. You haven't lived quite long enough to know if any guy is 'the one'. Girls your age are having crushes. Not falling in love.

Me - this day and age
people mature quicker than what people think
so you can't really say that.

If people are mature enough then you can understand what love is
and isn't.

[Something Vague]

Personally, I think it's more about having enough expierence with relationships to tell the difference between a crush, love, and being in love.

That's just the way I see it.

[*This Confession*]

well even if you have expierance
you still have to be mature enough to understand it all as well.

people go through life everyday going through different tasks in life
but it doesn't mean they learn from it.

[Something Vague]

well even if you have expierance
you still have to be mature enough to understand it all as well.

True.

[msladyliberty]

The age is good. girls mature faster than guys (girls are 3 years ahead, mentally)

Well, if you plan on keeping the relationship, your parents have to be aware that he's turning 18. And if you stay in the relationship...you can't have sex. If ya'll do, don't even tell anyone ya'll are! seriously!!

I have 2 girlfriends that HAD to marry their boyfriends because it was child molesting. Their teachers and some friends exploited their relationship, and their boyfriends were threatened with arrest. No joke!

One is divorced (at 18) now and the other had kids...so she's just stuck with the guy. Both were married at 15 & 16.

He'll be going to college soon, so you have to think about if he's willing to commit to you. And you have to live with the fact that he won't be around you everyday...and you must have trust in him. If you're not able to trust and live with that, then...just stay friends.

[*This Confession*]

^makes me think of my parents


you really need to understand what love is before having sex
and make sure your are in love with the person before having it.

Also my mom got pregnant with my sister when she was 15 to this guy that may have been some older don't really remember, and the guy wasen't willing to cont a relationship and ended up leaving. eventually to a whole different state. Then later my mom met my dad and ended up getting pregnant with me. At 16 and they got married. My mom never loved my dad. But yet my dad loved her. and well their going through their second divorce now.

Relationships can't be one sided
and if you do choose that have sex,
be safe.
Marriages
50% end in death
and 50% end in divorce.

numbers aren't low
and probably in the future the divorce is only going to go higher.
And most marriages that happen at such a early age like 15 or 16 probably don't last.

&shrugs; theres mis spelled stuff in that i can feel it..
anyway
Just be safe.

[xCrys]

Hey, as long as you love him, age doesn't matter. But I'm not sure you know that you truly care for him, it sounds like a relationship with my ex and this girl he was engaged to... Shes 15 hes almost 19... anyway, You need to tell him about how youre afraid and junk.. But that you also don't want to lose him, just get your points across ^^; Heh, I'm at a loss for words;; haven't been to bed =x

Just listen to Holly, she's quite smart, usually steals the words right outta my mouth anyway :x

[timeflies51]

Yeah, I'm 14 and I like someone who's 18. He thought I was at least a sophomore, so yeah...

I've decided that he's too old for me. I mean, he's going to college two hours away, and who can say if he'd even stay devoted to me? We're 14, we've got time to find someone.

And yeah, the whole "illegal" thing comes into play, too.

[*This Confession*]

psh Forget Maryland Josh
we need to move to Hawaii