who's at fault?, me or him? Options

[nikkkkki]

alright, me and my friend Daniel were just messing around with our friend Frank, 'cause he got a haircut. just Once. but all of the sudden he starts cussing us out. let me tell you, I was not in a good mood already and so of course I felt horrible. when I tried to apologize he simply said F U. I was so shocked, all I've ever been was nice to him. I Swear to God it's true. and now he even put me on his "sh*t list". I felt so guilty and being already partly depressed I cried. and now I have to see him at school and I don't think I can..
do you think he's overreacting or am I being a baby?

[Your pain is not...]

He's just still pissy at it. Give him some time, and he should be okay with it if you guys are friends.

[xbby_charmz]

^^ I agree but maybeeh that might have been his week spot yah knoe? but in time it will be better and just give him some space. give him some air to breathe so he later can come tlk to you all mellow and no one doesnt have to get hurt

[*mipadi*]

Sometimes people have something they're really sensitive about that they try to shield and repress to be nice and friendly, but if you push them the wrong way, they get really upset. For example, I'm fairly short (5' 2"), and for the most part I don't mind. But if the wrong person makes a crack about it, or someone says something at the wrong time, or they say it in a way that I don't perceive as a joke, I can get a bit defensive. For instance, I don't like the shop for clothes because it's hard to find anything in my size. I have a friend that comes along to help me out a lot (because let's be honest, I have little to no fashion sense). She occasionally makes jokes about my height and I usually don't mind, but shopping for clothes is a bad time to make a joke, because I'm already pretty sensitive about it as it is--so she knows not to do that.

In other words, maybe something was bothering Frank. Maybe he was having a bad day. Maybe he really doesn't like his haircut. Maybe you embarassed him in front of someone he didn't want to be embarassed in front of. I'd give him the benefit of the doubt. Just say you're sorry and tell him you didn't mean to hurt his feelings.

[_sarcastic_]

^i agree
give him some time, he'll probably get over it

[PrincessAda]

He`ll get over it.He`s just mad.

[corohehe]

wow what a bad temper. leave him.

[-sincerely]

I don't think its anything you did, maybe he doesn't like his haircut and when he hears other people 'complaining about it' (what he thinks is complaining, at least) it makes him feel worse. Just give him time.

[Chii]

He got a new hair cut. Lots of people are self conscious about themselves and some people get bad haircuts. Maybe one or both or apply to him.

I'd get pissed too. If I was iffy about my new haircut and someone makes a comment reinforcing my iffiness I'd be hurt and pissed because you're just rubbing it in.

Last night, the guy I was seeing told me I missed a spot in my lower area. I got upset and slapped him because I'm self conscious there. I try my best to shave and it's hard to do that there since I shave in the shower and can't exactly see what I'm doing.

He had a reason for being pissed but he is overreacting for not accepting your apology and putting you on his sh*t list. Just give him time to get over it.

[WarPlayer]

yea it'll be cool just give it sometime.

[marzipan]

if u only did it once, he'll get over it. give him some space. don't feel guilty or anything.....he should know you were just playing around. but if he didn't, then tell him.