girl problems, USED to be a close friend.. Options

[lexaa621]

so basically, i'm a guy, this girl's my friend, and something happened. for a few months we were really close friends. then i kinda started developing a crush on her. she started acting weirder and seemed meaner for a while and we didnt talk as much. i kinda lost the crush i had on her, but i still felt weird about it. a few weeks after that i asked her if i could talk to her, and i talked about a bunch of stuff that had been bothering me. she wasnt very encouraging though. she called me hypocritical and a bunch of other crap, and just said "sorry, but its the truth". then i told her i felt weird because i sorta liked her a few weeks beforehand. then she started acting nicer and said she was happy i told her. i thought things might be better again. but instead, lately she seems like she doesnt want to talk to me at all. i don't get it. she seems happy when i talk to her, but she never starts any conversations with me anymore. she doesnt approach me much anymore in person, and online she always says shes busy with homework or something.

i just wanted to ask, is our friendship pretty much over? should i give up? she used to love talking to me and would come up to me all the time, but for some reason things changed. i don't get it. nothing caused it. at least on my part. i dunno. should i stop talking to her for a while and wait til she's less busy with homework? or should i keep trying to talk to her even if she seems to be avoiding me. gah this is so annoying.

sorry i probably made this longer than i should've. and sorry if its confusing. haha

[PrincessAda]

Did you ask her..why she`s acting like that? You should try to talk about ya friendship first and work things out..find out what the problems about and then..if it works out..be friends again.

[lexaa621]

yeah i tried talking to her about it. she just said she's been busy and "things change". i'm not sure if that means she doesnt want to be friends anymore or what..

[*Uronacid*]

just give her space if she likes you she likes you... if not learn to to worry about it... maybe she feels under pressure because you like her... either way its her problem, and if she wont let you help her with it then you just need to give her space

[lexaa621]

i dont really care whether she "likes" me back or not, i just want to keep our friendship. plus i told her that there was a point that 'i thought i liked her, but it turned out i just treasured our friendship and would hate to lose it.' so its not about a crush.. just keeping our friendship. i hope that developing a brief crush on her didnt ruin it -_-

[Chii]

If you already told her that you'd be fine or more than fine with keeping the friendship alive then you'll just have to wait a bit more. If she never comes around then forget her, she was just too immature to get over it. True friendships cannot be broken by things like this especially since you told her that staying friends is important to you.

[*mipadi*]

Ah yeah, the classic liking your best girl friend deal. Yeah, I went through that. All I can say is this: Girls are weird. Yep, really weird. And they don't get any less weird. I think that's what dating in high school is all about. It's getting used to girls being weird, so you aren't so thrown off later on in life. The good news is that they get less weird as they age, but it never completely goes away.

A lot of times when you like someone close to you, you might act differently. Girls especially seem good at picking up this vibe. So maybe she acted weird, too. Or maybe you just over-analyzed the situation and thought she was acting differently. Or maybe it was a combination of both.

I'd say just play it cool. It's not a big deal. Don't act any differently than you did before. Maybe it's awkward now, but it'll pass.

[lexaa621]

haha very true. i seriously don't get girls sometimes.

thanks for all the advice so far. i'm gonna give it some time and see how things go.

more advice is welcome

[*This Confession*]

Girls aren't weird.
We just have a mind of our own.

I think you should give her some space.
While I was reading it though, kind of
gave me this impression that shes
trying to distance herself from you
because she may like someone else..
Who knows. I would give her some space for now
and once you want to talk to her after you think
is the right time, talk to her.

[*My Cinderella.*]

I think I'll have to agree with the others on this one. Give her a little space because it seems like she feels ackward around you right now. The friendship is still there, so don't worry. Just...stay distant for a while.

[*Uronacid*]

right, i know i distance myself for girls who like me for fear of hurting their feeling....

[lexaa621]

hmm i dont know if i made this clear, but i don't have a crush on her. i basically just told her i used to think i did, but in reality i just really appreciated the friendship. maybe she didnt realize this either...
so yeah, she knows that i don't have a crush on her (or at least i think she knows) so i dunno if thats a factor. she started acting a little weird even before i developed a small crush on her. i think the reason i thought a crush on her was cuz she was acting different and i was afraid i'd lose her.
i hope i'm making sense....

[xmoon_lightx]

Maybe she wants some time to think about it