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Okay so my parents arent around all the time because theyre super busy with their jobs. Now, My parents seem to think that they can in a way "buy" my love. They get me WHAT EVER I WANT and they NEVER GROUND ME. I guess its like well i dont spend enough time with you so ill get you loads of things to take your mind off it. Do you think thats right?
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![]() snazzy. ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 63 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 123,077 ![]() |
Hrms, well in my opinion, it's more wrong than right. I understand what you feel because my parents used to be like that until their jobs became more stable. But you do have to think about what they're doing to make your life easier. Plus you get free stuff :]
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Hrms, well in my opinion, it's more wrong than right. I understand what you feel because my parents used to be like that until their jobs became more stable. But you do have to think about what they're doing to make your life easier. Plus you get free stuff :] ![]() ![]() |
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![]() snazzy. ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 63 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 123,077 ![]() |
Aww, yeah like I said I know the feeling xD; and I know you weren't complaining o_o; just saying that I would like to have free stuff too and not ever be grounded :] Still there's nothing you can really do about it. When I was in that situation, I just sat them down and spoke to them about it. Of course they didn't think much of it cause I was young but still, it gets to them eventually.
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![]() What the fack. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 6,164 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 8,519 ![]() |
Yeah sooner or later they'll realize that true family affection can't be bought, and they'll find some way to make up for it.
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![]() i think you're stupid. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 608 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 388,203 ![]() |
my dad used to be like that. he wouldn't come home till 9ish and back then i went to bed at 8. i guess try to spend as much time as you can with them on weekends...and if it's not too uncomfortable tell them how you wish you could spend more time with them. maybe suggest a vacation or something. anyways good luck! hope it works out
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![]() the name is ada. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 4,688 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 334,608 ![]() |
I think they`re trying to make up for loss time.Talk to them about spending time with eachother.Tell them to make plans for you.
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![]() Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 ![]() |
My parents ignore me and dont buy me sh*t. Lol.
But I think it is bad but okay. As long as you're not actually really hurt or anything by them buying you a lot because they're so busy. You seem to understand their situation, they're working really hard so they're alwyas busy. But they're working for you, for the money they have to buy you everything. Their intentions are good, and soon enough their jobs should calm down and they'll partake in being with you more. If they don't and it does start to bother you, talk to them. & If you don't really want to talk talk, drob subtle hints. |
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![]() Hello There. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,572 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 88,673 ![]() |
I don't think its that great of them. But who knows, they want whats best for their kid.
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I've had a lot of people do that to me. 0_o. I don't exactly like it but maybe you should tell your parents that what you think their doing and try getting them to take time because if your not going to pay attention to your kids then maybe you shouldn't have them?
=X i probably shouldn't have said that. |
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![]() Jake - The Unholy Trinity / Premiscuous Poeteer. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 1,272 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 411,316 ![]() |
I don't think that it is a good thing. I mean, my mom is around all the time, basically, but there are just things that go wrong when parents buy you everything you want and don't discipline you. They are suppost to be around to teach you things. I always hear how everyone hates their parents because they get grounded or whatever. I mean, I complain about that stuff too sometimes, but it's like, I know she's just looking out for my best interest. I'm young and I need her around to give me advice so that I don't screw my life up in the long run. And when you have parents who buy you everything and don't ground you, how do you think you will treat your kids, or even yourself? I know that people have the capacity to change how they live, but alot of people just go with the cycle.
Your parents are probably very good parents, it's just that today's society everyone one needs to work to make ends meet. Partially it's not their fault. It's just today's society and different little things. Maybe they are just compensating that they can't spend time with you so they spend their money instead and are lenient with you. I don't know. I'm just an observer. I haven't had a dad for a long long time and now it's so hard because I my mom just got married a couple years ago, and it's so hard that there's this new person there setting rules. You should really just discipline yourself. Get your life straight now cause you're going to be miserable later on. |
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![]() Krista. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 4,380 Joined: Apr 2006 Member No: 391,319 ![]() |
well, they should spend more time with you, but it's not their fault they have to work and make a living. maybe you should talk to them and say you want to spend more time with them.
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Um it's good that your parents are willing to slave at work for you and the whole family, but it's not right they're buying your love. Your parents should have a line that you cannot cross D: But I guess their mistake gives you an idea of something you shouldn't do when you become a parent
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![]() then, simple: follow the little saying under your avatar. QUOTE b' date='May 29 2006, 8:11 PM' post='2066881'] and soon enough their jobs should calm down and they'll partake in being with you more. who the hell are you to say that? their boss? jeebuscristo. |
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![]() Freelance Graphic Designer ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 98 Joined: May 2006 Member No: 415,447 ![]() |
well id prefer love over and object.
i mean yeah id love to have everything id ever want but at the cost of the love of my parents? not me. well just talk to em about it. |
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![]() My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 ![]() |
then, simple: follow the little saying under your avatar. who the hell are you to say that? their boss? jeebuscristo. Holy crap, Sean Ho. I actually laughed at that. And that's not right. Cut out the rudeness. Anyway, I think you should look at the positive side of the situation .. you get everything you want and no grounding?! Consider yourself lucky. |
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![]() RAWR. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Member Posts: 2,585 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,641 ![]() |
eh. I know how that is. I was taken from my mom when i was nine and all she felt like she could do was buy me nice things because she couldnt be there for me. And then the person i lived with didnt really love me (my second cousin) and it was like she got me everything i wanted, but i never got affection. I think it screwed up my relationships with people because i love too fast lol. But I guess just try and sit down with your parents and organize a family nite or something. Parents are busy but tell them if they dont spend more time with you ull go looking for affection elsewhere and wind up pregnant by some biker dude and infected with syphillis. Maybe theyll listen. haha.
oh, and could you PLEASE change ur font color? Reading ur posts makes me eyes hurt. really annoying. ![]() |
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![]() Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 ![]() |
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It's really not right. Parents should be there financially for their child but also they should also be able to bond with them (without pushing that whole crappy 'Let's go on a fishing trip' happy-camper bonding idea into mind.) My parents have both gotten busy in the passed couple of months. Dad's got one of those traveling jobs and Mom's in college trying to be a nurse. The house can get lonely but Mom's still around for dinner (most of the time) and then passes out a few hours later. The next time either of your parents gets a break maybe you can suggest something small like seeing a movie. =3 Movies are da bomb.
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QUOTE b' date='Jun 3 2006, 1:46 AM' post='2072653'] What's up your ass. 0_o everytime i see you reply its just saying something like that to someone elses comment. If it was sarcastic or even close to it? |
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