I think I like one of my guy friends., ahhh. help. Options

[kimmytree]

Errr I think I like one of best guy friends. We've been friends since 6 grade, and we were best friends in 7th/8th grade. We're not quite as good friends as we were before, but we're still pretty good friends. I guess good enough for him to have me on his top 8 on myspace. Heh. We go to a small private school, so we have all of the same classes.

Sometimes he wont talk to me as much... he wont exclude me, but he will hang around his other friends more. But then sometimes, he will almost exclude his other friends to talk/hang out with me. He's a very sweet guy, with good morals. Last year we went on a school trip together and it was wonderful. We spent almost all of our free time together.

But the thing is, how can I tell how he truly feels about me? And how should I tell him how I feel about him? He's constantly on my mind. He brightens up the worst days by just smiling at me in class. He knows that I used to like him 2 years ago. We even joke about it sometimes. But the thing is, i've liked him for almost 6 years - since 6th grade. I just dont know how to take our friendship to the next level - and tell him how I feel without freaking him out. Lol.

Any suggestions? I'm clueless. I've never been in a relationship, let alone on a date, so I have no clue on what to do.



[edit] He's very outgoing and a funny guy. He's more like the class/school clown. Lol. And he looks just like Napoleon Dynamite... just not quite as skinny, and is way cuter/sweeter. So what would be a funny/cute way of telling him? lol.

[*This Confession*]

just talk to him
and be honest with him
and tell him how you feel

could make a long eventful joke and in the end he finds out you like him..

idk? an idea..

[kimmytree]

Oooh. Like I could hide him a series of notes... and each note would lead him to the next one. Or something. o_o

[GREASEbaby]

HAHAHAHHAHAAAA



one sec, I need a moment to laugh my ass off..

LMFAO!!!!!!! HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Okay, I'm better. That's exactly what happened to me. Exact exact exact. So go ask him out.

Easy as that

[kimmytree]

Lmao. Its driving me INSANE.

But the thing is, im very shy. And he knows it. I'm very soft spoken... sometimes he has to lean in to actually hear what im saying... which im actually starting to do on purpose. heh.

[edit] BTW - Not like it really matters, but we're both 16, almost 17, and sophmores. We've both never been on a date in our lives. We've both been rejected by several people too. xD

[Chii]

Just tell him you like him.
Go out for tea (I love tea) or most likely coffee or something and say something like, "We've been good friends for awhile now. I love being friends with you, you have good morals and you're such a sweet guy. I'd like to be more than friends with you if that's possible [his name (if you mentioned it, I'm sorry for being blind)]. If you want to stay friends, I'm fine with it and would really like to stay friends. I don't want anything weird between us."

Don't be scared. Tell him how you feel. I'm incredibly shy in person, I planned what I was going to tell my current darling (before we started seeing each other), I even practiced it beforehand but just couldn't get it out. Then the next time I saw him, I blurted it out and was very embarassed. It was worth it though, if I never said anything we wouldn't be together.

Don't let oppurtunities pass.

[kimmytree]

I think i'll give that a try. Lol.

Thanks for the advice though.

Well... actually... I still dont know what to do. We go to such a small school.. we have all the same classes... and we're really good friends, so i'm almost constantly around him. I dont want to make things awkward for either one of us, if he doesnt feel the same way about me. :/

[PrincessAda]

I think you should listen to your heart.If you wanna go for it..go for it..if you just want to be friends..stay that way.

[*Uronacid*]

hmmm, well... its upto you... if you can stay friends with him... than doit, your love will only continue to develop if you remain friends as long as you both keep the relationship healthy... eventually there will come a time when you can tell him... and it will get really awkward at first, but you will knwo when its the right time... if you just don't feel like its the right time then dont doit... when the time comes you will know... dont worry about it, just go wiht the flow... if its meant to be it will happen :)

[magicfann]

ask him out

good game

[colleen92]

a way to ask him out without making him think that's it's all serious is saying something like "let's go somewhere tonight." the worst thing he could say is "sorry i can't i'm doing something else." whereas if you asked him to be your boyfriend or something it could be awkward. if you go out alone together more casually, he'll only think about you the entire time and he might develop the same feelings for you as you have for him.

[ikn0wurm0m]

Just tell him you have a sorta crush on him. Dont lay it all out to him at one spot.

[kimmytree]

Just tell him you have a sorta crush on him. Dont lay it all out to him at one spot.

Yeah, thats what I was thinking. He's been acting weird lately. Sometimes he'll act like he likes me, and then sometimes he'll act like I bother/irritate him.

Boys are confusing. lol.

AND, the other day I had a friend tell me that he (the guy I like) said that I bother him, and that I'm like glued to him. And then It turns out he said the same thing to some 7th grader. WTF? He's the one who usually ends up sitting next to me at lunch and stuff. He's the one who walks up to me in homeroom when I'm getting my books out of my backpack, and starts a conversation. Its more of a equal thing. I figure that either: (1) my friend lied (2) he really feels that way, or (3) he just said that so they wouldnt think that I like him. Maybe my friend just asked him, and he freaked out and said that?

I dont know. I'm just worried. Worried that i've been bugging the crap out of him. Maybe he's pretending to be nice to me and friends with me because he feels sorry for me? I dont know why he would though.

And, if I "irritated" him, why would he have offered me a ride last night after our school play to go to the cast party?? And make everyone else sit in the back, and save the front seat for me? And sit next to me in the restaurant?

I'm confused. lol