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 Mar 23 2006, 07:35 PM
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 hes the reason i smile.. <3  Group: Member Posts: 104 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 158,486  |
ok well ive known my boyfriend for about a year now. we made it official a little over a month now .. everything is perfect.. im 16 and still in school he is 18 soon to be 19.. he comes over about every other day during the week whenever he doesnt have to work and we are together every weekend.. there is one thing that does bug me though. he gets jealous very easily .. i am kinda a redneckish girl and pretty much all of my friends are guys .. when i talk to them or the call me hes gets really mad .. i understand why .. because he cares for me and he wants him to be the only guy i talk about.. i am kinda the same way ... but i havent been lately .. he said he wants to get over it and he wants me to help him get over it .. but how ?? please help .. a little advice ?
 kthxbye <3
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Mar 23 2006, 07:55 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
he just has to try and accept the fact that you have alot of guy friends, but make sure you don't hang out with them too much
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Mar 23 2006, 08:27 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 628 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 98,376 |
you guys have to work on your trust. but you have to know, insecurity means that he really love you. but however, you have the right to talking to your guy friends but don't talk to them too much. make sure your boyfriend knows that he's the only one you love. everything should be okay. :]
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Mar 23 2006, 08:30 PM
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he has to except that not one person can complete your life. if you avoid all your friends while you guys are dating, something could happen and you have no one to fall back on.
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Mar 23 2006, 09:10 PM
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 × Dead as Dillinger. ♥ Group: Member Posts: 1,527 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 384,615 |
QUOTE(_sarcastic_ @ Mar 23 2006, 7:55 PM)  he just has to try and accept the fact that you have alot of guy friends, but make sure you don't hang out with them too much Well I don't know about that. It seems that she was friends with these boys first before she started going out with this guy, so it wouldn't be fair to her friends to just suddenly not hang out with them as much because her boyfriend gets jealous. But it's good that he realizes it and is trying to overcome it. Just don't talk about your guy friends as much around him. Or try to invite him along too when all of you hang out, so he can realize that they are really harmless. |
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Mar 23 2006, 11:54 PM
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 The Bone Collector Group: Member Posts: 2,860 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 44,162 |
You be the boss, and you do what you want.
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Mar 24 2006, 03:35 AM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
Ugh, he reminds me of my psycho ex, he was incredibly possessive, he didn't even want me talking to any guy via AIM.
Please don't buy into that "he's only jealous because he cares." If he really cared, he would be fine with you associating with your FRIENDS. They're your friends, not strangers. Talk to him and let him know that you want to be with him, and that he is your boyfriend. Those guys are just your friends. It's ridiculous and unfair to force someone to just associate with one member of a certain gender. If he can't understand then you should just get out of the relationship. Don't allow anyone to control you like that. |
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Mar 24 2006, 07:06 AM
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 ][»hottiebheibi«][ Group: Member Posts: 44 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 220,763 |
gurl, i could relate to you *LoL* we're in the same current situation... it's a good thing since your bf already knew he's wrong. eneweiz, this is what i do..
1. let him know who's with you (may it be girl or boy). 2. introduce him to your guy friends so he'll know who's who. 3. make him understand that you also need to mingle with other guys. 4. then tell him and show him how much i love him... 5. TRUST each other 'coz that is one of the main ingredient for a successful relationship 
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Mar 25 2006, 09:52 AM
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hes the reason i smile.. <3 Group: Member Posts: 104 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 158,486 |
thanks for all of your help .. u said for me to introduce him to my freinds ... the thing is ... he is really good freinds with them .. but they all have liked me and wehn we all started hangingout i clikced with ( my boyfriend) but over theese past few days .. weve been hangin out with my bestfriend and her boyfriend who happenes to be my boyfriends best friend ... sorry if its confusing ... but thanks for the help ..and thngs are getting ALOT better .. - foudn out the reason why he had trust problems .... - his parents left him with his g-ma when he was like 5 ... he has a hard time trusting people .. but he told me im the one who he trusts most ... moer then his own family ... <33
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Mar 25 2006, 09:29 PM
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Syar Group: Member Posts: 23 Joined: Mar 2006 Member No: 388,958 |
You can either spend more time with him, or tell him to stop being so possessive, because you have only been going out for 1 month. It's not as if you can't have any friends that are guys just because you are in a relationship, and he should understand that.
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Mar 25 2006, 11:23 PM
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 My name's Katt. Nice to meet you! Group: Member Posts: 3,826 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 93,674 |
QUOTE(Chii @ Mar 24 2006, 2:35 AM) Ugh, he reminds me of my psycho ex, he was incredibly possessive, he didn't even want me talking to any guy via AIM. Please don't buy into that "he's only jealous because he cares." If he really cared, he would be fine with you associating with your FRIENDS. They're your friends, not strangers. Talk to him and let him know that you want to be with him, and that he is your boyfriend. Those guys are just your friends. It's ridiculous and unfair to force someone to just associate with one member of a certain gender. If he can't understand then you should just get out of the relationship. Don't allow anyone to control you like that. Agreed. He's upset because he doesn't trust you with other guys and that's a problem. Explain to him that you have friends that are just friends and only one that is your boyfriend. Tell him if he really trusted you and really cared about you, he wouldn't be concerned about you and your guy friends. |
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