Girlfriend Problem Options

[Spec_R]

I have problems with my girlfriend and I am very confused on what she wants. If you guys would solve this for me then I would be very thankful.

I don't know but recently my girlfriend have been acting weird. When we are together, I try to hug her but then she don't want to be huged. I try to french kiss her but she only want to smooch. Really, it feels like we are losing love. I told her what's wrong she said she need spaces. She told her friend that she is tired of me, but I'm not suppost to know. I told her, I love you a lot...but if you are going to act like that then let's break up. She's like no, I still love you. It feels like the love is gone. I think she is lying to me and she lost the love long time ago. I don't know what to do...?

[topsyturvy]

I think your girlfriend herself is very confused about what she wants. Seems to me she needs space to think everything through.

Try to find a time when you can talk to her about it. Ask her what she feels about your relationship right now. If she isn't willing to talk, then ask for a break.

Hope that helps!

[Chii]

i hate it when people are like that. sit her down and tell her what you heard but don't name names. it's really ridiculous if she's lying to you.

don't just simply ask "what's wrong?" ask specifically. tell her that you feel like the love isnt mutual anymore, ask her what she means by needing space, and tell her that it hurts that she's not telling you everything. relationships are built around trust and honesty, if she can't be honest then what's the point?

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

Try not to push your girlfriend or pressure her into this hurry. Give her time to think about what she wants and you'll get an answer. Maybe she does like you a lot, back, but doesn't like it that you're with her every second of the day? Talk about it.

[pinayprincess]

omggg; the saame thing!!!! i mean exactly.. but only part is that he doesnt refuse when we kiss..

[HongKongDong]

If you believe strongly in something, do NOT give in to any aspect of it. Compromise is useless against girls, because they will rationalize that if they can get you to concede to one factor of the problem, they think that they can get you to quit on the whole situation. Tell her and ask her everything you can. If it comes to an arguement don't be afraid to take cheap shots! More then likely (it happens to me) that when you argue about your current situation she will throw something in there with no relevance whatsoever to the arguement. It's a girls way of trying to wear you down and push you off-topic like she seems to have been doing. If she starts busting out in tears dont worry about it. It's a girls ultimate weapon, knowing that guys can't handle their girl crying and will be able to break you down with that. Stay focused and get the problem straightened out.

Of course all of that doesn't have to happen... all you have to do is ask, don't give in and get it done and over with. If she really does not "love" you then let her go. You don't deserve it.

[alphanumeric]

Ask her how she really feels. Don't stand for "I don't know" or some other answer that totally avoids the question. Don't pressure her or anything but just try to get her to talk & tell her how her actions make you feel.

If she won't budge give her space, you don't have to break it off but just let her be & make the decisions for a while.

[sadolakced acid]

just leave her alone. don't try to hang out or anything, but don't avoid her. don't break up, just give her some space.

she'll probably then be able to sort herself out.

it would probably be good to tell a few of her friends what you're doing though.

[Spec_R]

i've been hanging out with her for 2 weeks like every single days together, I think she is getting annoyed of me......I guessed. But maybe i'm stupid but if u love someone, then there isn't the word annoying? I guess the one with problem is me....in a hurry and want to rush her. We broke up but we hooked back a month ago, she said all she want is to start over and be friends. I told her it's hard to be friends, either girlfriend or not even see me at all. is it really my fault?

[sadolakced acid]

not your fault, not her fault.

maybe it just doesn't click for both of you.

anyways; the key is to not burn any bridges.

tell her friends you think she needs some time alone and that you're giving it to her. don't make it official, don't tell her. just, talk to her less and stuff.

let her sort out what she wants.

[Paradox of Life]

I told her what's wrong she said she need spaces. She told her friend that she is tired of me, but I'm not suppost to know.

You seem to really want her, but she's saying things behind your back. She needs her space. She's tired of you. Maybe it's a sign that you're a bit too clingy. Give her the space she wants; that's my advice.

[xxtaintedlips]

I know that some people have trouble with the trasition from being in the heat of the moment to good old companionship...this could be the case. Or maybe she is having a hard time deciding what she wants. Just let her figure our who she is and give her some space.

[misoshiru]

give her space, but maybe the feelings really are gone and it's time to let go.

btw, your sig is too big

[voguelove]

well, if someone doesnt like you, you cant make them.

[*digital.fragrance*]

Just remember this: "Absence makes the heart grow fond." Just give her a little space - keep up contact, but not all the time. It might rekindle the love that is seeming slipping away... it's there - it always is. It's just a matter of finding it again.