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 Feb 23 2006, 09:42 PM
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 she's like tacos on a tuesday morning =)  Group: Member Posts: 24 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 187,283  |
Our favorite topic, I know, right
 . Anyway, there's this guy named David. I don't like him (except for as a friend), but he really likes me. It's pretty lame, but we always go to this Thursday night church service together and afterwards, his mom drives me home. Well tonight on the ride home, his sister and her friends tried getting me to go out with him, but I just want to stay friends and all. After a while, his sister and her friends started to leave us alone and we just sat there and talked. A little bit later, his mom made a sharp turn and I leaned into him and stayed there because he was confortable  . And then later we started holing hands, which isn't really too bad, but now I'm worried that he might think we're going out because I've been leading him on. Any ideas on how I should tell him that I only like his as a friend without being too mean or cliche? Blah, so confusing 
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Feb 23 2006, 09:46 PM
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Well you can:
Myspace comment Xanga comment AIM MSN YIM Text message call on the phone leave post-it notes make an alphabet soup send him a letter leave notes in his bag pack Write the message on his notebook Leave notes in his locker arrange leaves on his front yard...or anywhere his bedroom window looks out on Give him a build-a-bear with a note a hallmark card ETC Otherwise, you can confront him about it... |
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Feb 23 2006, 09:54 PM
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 Transience Group: Member Posts: 39 Joined: Feb 2006 Member No: 380,725 |
Say it to his face and be COMPLETELY honest, and as detailed as you can.
If he doesn't want to be friends after it, he's either 1. shallow, 2. only friends cuz he wanted to get in your pants or 3. unable to deal with the truth and reality...in which case(s) you're better off without him. Of course, you can ignore this advice, and more drama shall surely ensue. |
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Feb 23 2006, 10:11 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
umm. i would DEFINATELY do it in person...whatever you do, PLEASE don't do it via messenger or cell phone....i mean...you need to see him and he needs to see you, reactions are needed when this topic is mentioned or whatever. don't try to sweet tooth it or anything like that because he'll most likely end up misinterpretting what you're saying and he'll think he might have a chance later on in the future or something. just tell him straight up that he's been a great friend and that you only wish for his friendship. nothing more, nothing less.
 hmm..that's just what i would do 
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Feb 23 2006, 10:42 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
Doing it in person is the best way. But if you dont have enough guts to face him, then tell him over the phone. Just simply tell him the brutal sugar-coated truth. You two are just friends.
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Feb 23 2006, 11:27 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
did he know that you only like him as a friend prior to that incident? if he didn't know then you really need to do some damage control and tell him as soon as possible so he won't get the wrong idea.
if he did know then it's not as dire but you should still tell him. that's really pathetic that he had to recruit his sister and her friends to try to convince you to go out with him. i hate it when people do things like that, it's cheesy and not sweet or cute or whatever. |
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Feb 24 2006, 12:20 PM
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you should talk to him
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Feb 24 2006, 12:30 PM
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 RAWR. Group: Member Posts: 2,585 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,641 |
sounds like you kike him too to me. Maybe you need to really dig into why you don't like this guy more than a friend. If you like being near him and holding his hand whats the real problem. Is he uncool? Ugly? Short? Your friend dated him first? Whatever it is, you are behaving in a way that reflects attraction. Just think about it for a while. If you still feel the same way, hook up with another guy. That you actually like. He'll figure it out lol. Or just be a big girl and tell him how you truly feel. Just make sure you know how you really feel.
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Feb 24 2006, 02:26 PM
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I guess just let him know unequivocally that you're not interested. But if you knew he liked you, why would you lead him on and flirt with him by laying on him and holding hands with him? That seems like a bad idea to me.
How do you know he recruited them? Often times, people, especially sisters or good friends, take their own initiative in this area. QUOTE(Chii @ Feb 23 2006, 11:27 PM)  that's really pathetic that he had to recruit his sister and her friends to try to convince you to go out with him. i hate it when people do things like that, it's cheesy and not sweet or cute or whatever.
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Feb 24 2006, 04:03 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 4,882 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,064 |
Wait, I'm confused. Why did you hold his hand? I don't hold my guy friends' hand. I don't really think that is a good idea at this point he can be getting false hope. Tell him in person alone that you don't have any feelings for him, but you do cherich his friendship.
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Feb 24 2006, 04:39 PM
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 Band Geek. Group: Member Posts: 366 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 341,494 |
Well I would just start talking about the guy I like or something, and make him think you're interested in somebody else, and ask him his opinion. I think he'll get the hint, but you can't aviod hurting his feelings because he wants to go out with you in the first place so he's going to be sad that you don't like him back.
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