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 Feb 12 2006, 02:55 PM
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Okay why do guys allways have to ask the girl out. When i ask my girlfriends this she allways say's
"it's not right for a girl to ask a boy out". And the it gets more complicated when girls play hard to get! So any girls out there wanna answer this Q. 
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Feb 12 2006, 04:54 PM
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well i guess it started a longg, long time ago. you know, stories were always about how the guys save the girls, making the girls seem like weak. so the guy asking the girl out concept probably developed, making it seem that it was guy's responsiblity to do it? i don't know. that's what i think.
BUT it's perfectly fine for a girl to ask out a guy too, in my opinion |
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Feb 12 2006, 04:55 PM
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 Jus Sweet Chocolate Group: Member Posts: 739 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 216,959 |
it doesnt really matter who askes who
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| *anubis* |
Feb 12 2006, 05:12 PM
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this goes back to the time of king arthur.
that whole chivalry thing...knights and mistresses and "courtly love" where the guy has to fight/risk life/kill/write and show affection while the woman acts like she's minimally impressed. but i guess that's back then. a lot of people i know (girls) took the first step or move in a relationship. times are changing, but a lot of people still think of it traditionally. |
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| *mipadi* |
Feb 12 2006, 06:08 PM
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It probably runs even deeper than Arthurian times. Western cultures, and even many eastern cultures, are traditionally strongly partiarchical, meaning that men take the primary role in starting and supporting a family.
With the women's liberation movement, though, I don't see why many girls still cling to that traditional notion, while abhoring other traditional notions. I think it's perfectly fine for girls to take the lead, and more should do so. |
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Feb 13 2006, 08:50 PM
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Most girls are insecure. Even the most confident, independent looking girl wants to be sure that she means something important to a guy. And when he initiates the relationship, she knows that she means something to him. Thats why we're so happy when you call: because we know you cared enough to.
 But of course its totally fine for girls to go for it. guys if a girl is really going the extra mile for you, at least give her a second look, cuz it takes a lot of guts. 
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Feb 13 2006, 10:33 PM
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 cvchango Group: Human Posts: 492 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 332,717 |
it's the MANly thing to do
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Feb 14 2006, 02:25 PM
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 cB Assassin Group: Official Member Posts: 10,147 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,672 |
I don't really care.
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Feb 14 2006, 05:10 PM
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to hell with you Group: Member Posts: 2,547 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,506 |
its manly!....O_o
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Feb 14 2006, 06:35 PM
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It's what society tells us to do.
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Feb 15 2006, 11:13 AM
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 Ill get around to doing that.... Group: Member Posts: 518 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 275,913 |
^ Yea and girls are more "giggly" in the love area.... Guys can get "strong" and ask a girl out without having to blurt out laughing......
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| *Blow_Don't_SUCK* |
Feb 15 2006, 01:36 PM
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Because it assures a girl she's not going to get a bad deal.
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Feb 15 2006, 04:59 PM
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 ...who created this mess...? Group: Member Posts: 451 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 97,244 |
QUOTE(nightowl89 @ Feb 13 2006, 9:50 PM) Most girls are insecure. Even the most confident, independent looking girl wants to be sure that she means something important to a guy. And when he initiates the relationship, she knows that she means something to him. Thats why we're so happy when you call: because we know you cared enough to. But of course its totally fine for girls to go for it. guys if a girl is really going the extra mile for you, at least give her a second look, cuz it takes a lot of guts.  Yeah, that's one of the reasons. I'm not saying guys can't be insecure, but most girls are more self-concious than guys are (at least, that's what I think). It's not wrong at all for a girl to ask a guy out. I can see how hard it may be for the guy to always ask out the girl. Ehhh... I've never actually done it before, but I still know that. XD |
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Feb 16 2006, 07:15 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
QUOTE(nightowl89 @ Feb 14 2006, 9:50 AM) Most girls are insecure. Even the most confident, independent looking girl wants to be sure that she means something important to a guy. And when he initiates the relationship, she knows that she means something to him. Thats why we're so happy when you call: because we know you cared enough to. But of course its totally fine for girls to go for it. guys if a girl is really going the extra mile for you, at least give her a second look, cuz it takes a lot of guts. very true. but as michael has said, most cultures as we know of them today have been mainly patriarchial - therefore causing the belief that guys SHOULD ask girls. even through the feminist movements, there has been little change because [as i see it,] girls like it when guys ask them out. Girls do ask guys out, but we're usually too self-conscious to do so. |
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| *Programmer* |
Feb 16 2006, 07:16 AM
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times are changing girls ask guys out more often then before.
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Feb 16 2006, 10:38 AM
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^^^ That's very true. Now it doesn't matter who asks who out. Matter of fact, my longest relationship (1yr, 2 mths) started from HER asking me. So yeah, guys tend to ask girls out first 'cuz that's tradition I guess. But like I stated before, it doesn't matter.
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Feb 16 2006, 04:01 PM
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cB Assassin Group: Official Member Posts: 10,147 Joined: Mar 2004 Member No: 7,672 |
IT DOESN'T MATTER! iono...
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Feb 16 2006, 05:21 PM
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Dating is alot more laid back today. Go back to the roaring 20's and a date was formal. Dinner, and maybe a show. As females, on average, did not hold jobs, males were required to pay for everything as females did not have any money. This spawned several traditions, most notably, the idea that the man should pay for the date. However, obviously this can be related to the traditional forms of asking someone out.
Females want equality, but most still want to perpetuate traditions born out of their ancient social inequalities. Maybe because it's alot easier and convienent to have the male pay for everything, ask you out, and drive you around, lest he feel guilty. 
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Feb 16 2006, 07:09 PM
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 oooh yeah. Group: Member Posts: 1,333 Joined: Feb 2006 Member No: 376,533 |
QUOTE(Acid Bath Slayer @ Feb 16 2006, 4:21 PM) Dating is alot more laid back today. Go back to the roaring 20's and a date was formal. Dinner, and maybe a show. As females, on average, did not hold jobs, males were required to pay for everything as females did not have any money. This spawned several traditions, most notably, the idea that the man should pay for the date. However, obviously this can be related to the traditional forms of asking someone out. Females want equality, but most still want to perpetuate traditions born out of their ancient social inequalities. Maybe because it's alot easier and convienent to have the male pay for everything, ask you out, and drive you around, lest he feel guilty. I love how honest you are.
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Feb 16 2006, 11:35 PM
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 My name is really Matt... if you care. Group: Member Posts: 1,442 Joined: Oct 2005 Member No: 258,234 |
QUOTE(uran @ Feb 12 2006, 3:55 PM) Okay why do guys allways have to ask the girl out. When i ask my girlfriends this she allways say's "it's not right for a girl to ask a boy out". And the it gets more complicated when girls play hard to get! So any girls out there wanna answer this Q. we dont ALWAYS have to.... ever heard of Sadie Hawkin's dance? girls ask guys! some states call this dance "twerp" idky |
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| *swtcherriipie* |
Feb 18 2006, 01:22 PM
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i guess its just.. i really dont know but can someone fill me in.
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Feb 18 2006, 02:31 PM
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 Diana =] Group: Member Posts: 1,318 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 174,147 |
QUOTE(Blow_Don't_SUCK @ Feb 15 2006, 1:36 PM) Because it assures a girl she's not going to get a bad deal. Exactly. |
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