Brake up... to make up? lol, i want to see who else... Options

[CindyRelly]

hi peps.
ok so almost a month ago the guy who i most loved decided we should brake up. Our relationship wasn't bad at all. I had been w/ him for a year and four months. They said we were like the "perfect couple" (i'm not exaggerating, but it's just a hint how close we were.)
I had been in love before(once), but this one hurted like if it was the first time.
Ok, so his reasons were that we had to concentrate in school & work... since he works, and just started school, and i go to school and just started to work. I don't like the word of "a time out" but does it sound like it? He told me he never goes back once he dumps someone, but I will be the only one he will go with so we stayed as friends... it sucks.
I want to meet people who are or been thought the same as me. I want to know how they felt, what happened or is happening... or i just want to know what anyone thinks...
i keep in mind if this love was true, he will come back to me. But sometimes I just can't help it and yea you know start having all types of ideas
Thanks for taking your time!

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

It might not be love. It might infactuation. True love actually lasts and is mutual. You'll move on, don't worry.

[_sarcastic_]

^ agreed
lol it's *break*
anyways, if you guys really loved each other, you would've still stuck together and work out something so that the relationship wouldn't affect your studies.

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

I'd like to add...

If you're still depressed about it, I'm always here to sit and listen.

[NgocQuyen]

well sometime's you think you're in love, but you're really not. just because others see you two as "the perfect couple" or whatever, doesn't really mean it's all perfect.. or perhaps it was perfect, and for him maybe it was a little TOO perfect...get my drift? i don't know...i mean i've never been in that situation...lols and i never really got the idea of "breaks" in a relationship anyways...i mean...what's the point in calling it a break? does that mean you guys are just not spending time with eachother but you're still together? and if you guys are broken up then just say that you're not together anymore...ughhs....i don't understand breaks....i think it's stupid and if some guy wanted to take a "break" from me then i would tell him straight up that i don't need the nonsense of a break and if he wants to end it then just end it. that's that. soo yeah...if i were you i wouldn't even sweat him...i would just try to get over him because if he was in love with you he would put an effort into the relationship instead of wanting a break..that's just..my opinion...

[pinayprincess]

oohhhh God [excuse me Lord lol]; but thats like a huge lie [saying that boys will never turn back... its like BLAHBLAHBLAH... my ex said the same exact thing [three times in a row, broke up w/ me & ASKED ME OUT again... we were good, [i never would regret our relationship b/c he treated me like a queen!] but we eventually broke it off b/c of the new people in our school [starting freshman yr] arggg i got mad, but after EVERYTHING, we became really good friends [like bestfriends you can say], but now i have a BF, so he kinda wishes that he never broken up [hehe]

[Chii]

wait...did you two think that you were perfect with each other? that's the thing that really matters. it doesn't matter that other people thought you two were great together.

it doesn't sound like his reason is legitamate. if your relationship "wasn't bad at all" then why did he want out just because of school and work? especially if he believes in that "never look back" thing? if your relationship truly was all good, then he'd find a way to make it all happen.

the guy i'm seeing works more than one job and is going to start classes again soon but he still makes the time to see me. i go to school too and i'm going to start working as well.

i think you should definately look elsewhere for a relationship.

i've kind of been in the same situation...i stress the kind of part because we never had an official relationship and it wasn't serious in the beginning. then there was this period of time that we didn't talk and now we rekindled whatever it was that we had. it's really good now because we've both grown up and can relate to each other more. back then, i was quite immature and we both wanted different things.

edit - now that i read what you said again, i'm actually not really in the same situation. so never mind

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Well if your love is really as true as you say it is; he will indeed find a way back to you. In the meantime, it takes time but you will move on.

[me1issaaaa]

*Raises hand* I'm in the exact same situation right now. The boyface & I broke up almost two weeks ago and we want to stay close friends, because right now we need to focus on school and family and friends and work and everything, but he does want to get back together soon, probably over the summer when he visits for a while (he's about 600 miles away and wants to get back together when we can actually be together for more than a week at a time.) He's already decided that he wants to go to college here, and he said he isn't going to date anybody inbetween then.

As happy as I am to know we still have a chance, it's pretty damn hard from being totally and completely in love with a promise ring, practically engaged, to "just friends". So believe me, I'm in the same boat as you. Let me know if you need someone to talk to.

But I mean, like said before, if it's true love and it's meant to be, then it'll happen.

[lit0chinagirl]

it's tricky. he could be truthful to you and then he may not. can't say i was exactly in the same situation as you. he said he wanted to go on a "break" after saying break up-- it just got plain confusing afterwards but everyone told me it was a breakup. we agreed to be friends but not much progress there either. it's just hard for me to actually face him because i've had enough of his games so i can't trust him much.

perhaps your guy means what he says. the outcome of situations like this varies on your luck. just don't get your hopes too high, alright? good luck and don't be too hard on yourself.