Don't know how to talk to a girl anymore, Confused |
 Jan 29 2006, 05:06 PM
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So me and my girlfriend broke up about a year ago and I still do kinda of like her sometimes and sometime I feel like I'm over her. The problem is that she hurt me so bad, I don't know how to talk to a girl I like anymore, and sometimes my ex writes comments on myspace or xanga and I just can't help it but keep reading it every five minutes, even though she hates me, I don't know what to do anymore, i dont know how to talk to a girl I like nor what to do with my ex
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Jan 29 2006, 05:14 PM
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Changa Group: Member Posts: 53 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 177,785 |
loosen up, kid
i dont think ur over ur gf my advice (cause im in a similar situation) go after another girl... |
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| *Programmer* |
Jan 29 2006, 05:24 PM
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hahahahahaha....
 hold on....let me get this strait... i girl has to scared to commit to another..wow...WELCOME TO LIFE BUDDY! |
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| *chaneun* |
Jan 29 2006, 05:41 PM
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^Like you have one.
Uhh, you could either: a. Ignore her. b. Ask her out again. c. Get on with life. I think you should just go up to her and straight-to-her-face, say "I still have feelings for you, but I'm not sure about how you feel." Then ask her out, for the heck of it. |
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Jan 29 2006, 05:42 PM
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 =] Group: Member Posts: 1,910 Joined: Jun 2005 Member No: 156,614 |
think ABOUT it.
what did you do wrong? or did you even do anything? try to talk to her, express you feelings. ;] even though she hates you, ask her, or even beg her just for a few minutes to talk it over. she'll understand and eventually, you two will be together again =] |
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Jan 29 2006, 08:22 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
if you still like her so much, put the past behind and tell her how you feel that you still like her. if not then find another girl
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Jan 30 2006, 04:23 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
But if she hurt you so bad, how do you know she won't do it again?
Find another girl worthy of your attention. |
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Jan 30 2006, 06:00 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 56 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 365,833 |
Don't worry kid all u need is confidence....
u have all the time in the world.... all u have to say to you're self is... "here comes the lady killer" lol .. no but for real 
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Jan 30 2006, 06:02 PM
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learn to hate her back and find another f**king girl.
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Jan 30 2006, 06:05 PM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 56 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 365,833 |
QUOTE(i_liek_sushi @ Jan 30 2006, 5:02 PM) learn to hate her back and find another f**king girl.  I agree... |
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Jan 30 2006, 06:12 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
you need to do something about this before you get stuck in this position and leave yourself scarred.
look, she hurt you. what do you do when people hurt you? you stay away from them and ignore them so you don't get caught up in their sh*t again. all girls are not like that, they're not going to hurt you and if they do it's most likely not intentional. you're probably scared to be hurt again and right now you're very vulnerable. relationships are not easy things. just ignore her and realize that yeah she hurt you but you're still living. there's life after her crap. don't let her win by you being afraid to be with someone else. |
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Feb 2 2006, 09:44 PM
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 Being happy...is all that matters Group: Member Posts: 765 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 102,284 |
Well I was in a similar situation last year when my first real bf broke up with me. He hurt me, and broke my heart for the first time, and I just didn't know how to deal. I didn't want to associate with any guys in any way...so I was really "anti-guys" for a while, especially anything to do with liking guys. But eventually, I learned to like guys again, and I learned to trust them, and I learned to get over him. As a matter of fact, I have a bf right now, and even though I know we won't last forever and ever, I'm still happy with him.
What you have to do is get over your gf first. Cutting all contacts with her helps. Then...just let things sit as they are for a while, and then eventually you will find yourself able to talk to girls again. I think you're still not over the fact that your gf hurt you, and in your mind, you think that ALL girls are like your gf and will end up hurting you. That's just not true. get over your gf and your insecurity around trusting girls. Just think of it this way: you wouldn't stop stop eating your favourite candy just because it made you sick once...you may stop eating it for a while after you got sick...but eventually you'll start eating it again, and this is just like dealing with love, relationships and breakups. Eventually you'll get over it, and like it again. Just give it some time. |
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Feb 3 2006, 03:59 PM
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c[: Group: Member Posts: 2,302 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 2,876 |
i think the thing thats really holding you back is your ex girlfriend. because you keep thinking and talking about her, you have no chance to really go out and talk to other girls and really enjoy yourself. you know what i'm saying? i mean if you just get your ex-girlfriend off of your mind you'll enjoy talking to other girls. i know it sounds hard to try to stop thinking about her, but you never know how much you can do if you don't try. even if you can only stop thinking about her for 3 minutes. any number of seconds count. if you just try, those three minutes will turn into 3 hours. those 3 hours may turn into 3 days. and so on. you never know. just give it a try. and when you're out with a girl you like enjoy HER company. its HER company that you have. so appreciate it.
 ---edit oh by the way. i know that getting someone off your mind even for a few minutes thing works because, well, i've done it before. many times. and it works for me..i surely hope it works for you 
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Feb 6 2006, 04:02 PM
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Member Group: Member Posts: 28 Joined: Feb 2006 Member No: 372,372 |
o.o...wow...............get over her.....know that the fact that you two probably wont be together anymore...you probably stilll likes her because you keep looking at the comments she posts....loosen up dude.....you'lll find another girl someday....havent you ever heard the saying "one must kiss a few frogs before they find their prince charming" ? well change the prince to pricess >_> and frogs to uhh....whatever you like xD anyway, you probably would want to talk and hangout with the girl you like for a few weeks and loook for signs to see if she likes you. if you think she does then.......tell her that.
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Feb 6 2006, 09:59 PM
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 Band Geek. Group: Member Posts: 366 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 341,494 |
If you really feel you can't get over her, tell her how you feel in an email or in person. If she doesn't feel the same way, then maybe it's time to move on. DOn't give up just yet.
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Feb 11 2006, 12:39 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 129 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 320,404 |
you're not completely over her.
since you're sure she hates you, it's best to move on. talking to other girls can help you do that. there's not a technique or anything to talk to girls 'cause every girl's different. being yourself is the best and easiest option. pick yourself up, move on, and just be yourself. |
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