not really sure where to go w/this, big flirt? or into me? Options

[resrchmnkygrl6]

ok...so i like this guy, right? <<<classic line<<<

so...he's in two of my classes and we've been talking a lot in btwn classes and during finals week. and what not...at first i was thinking, "oh...he's bobby...he's just a friend."...then a week goes by and we were walking to our lockers (like 3 away from ea.other) and i was walking normal speed and i caught up to him...then he goes, "why'd you speed up?" i'm all, "i didn't this is the way i walk." "he's all..××right××...i know you like me...(jokingly)" from that day on, i didn't really realize how much i ××did×× like him. so a couple of days go by and i'm trying to figure out how to tell him...in a note or face to face...it's friday now and i've written a note. he wasn't there that day, and i dated the letter and everything...so if i give him the letter w/ the date on it, he'll think that i've been thinking about this for a ××really×× long time...so i hold it off and visit his myspace....i'm all, "hey bobby...i need to talk to you on tuesday (mlk day on mon.)...there's been something on my mind i need to talk to you about..." so i wait...two days later...he logs on...no reply...see his myspace again, and he deleted my comment...i'm like, "okay..." i look through his comments and notice that they're all really stupid and really no meaning or coversations going on or anything...so i blow it off...maybe he just wants funny comments, right? tuesday comes around...he's ignoring me. i'm like, "wtf?"...i know that he knows that i need to talk to him...next day....nothing...so i'm all, "okay...i'll ignore you too." couple of days go by and it's friday again...he starts talking to me like nothing happened...××WTF??××...if i knew he didn't like me (like for sure didn't like me) then i wouldn't have a problem...but for some reason i get this strong vibe that he does...iono...should i just let him be or confront him and tell him everything??? help...

[*Blow_Don't_SUCK*]

confront him privately but writing a note is like writing a personal message on a post-it....publicly posting it somewhere..if ur REAL desperate to tell him, just talkt o him privately. Notes sound so....err idk how to explain it but they're awkward and who knows he might show it to his friends

[*mipadi*]

In my honest opinion, it seems like this guy is not really into you—based on what you wrote, at least. Of course, not having every detail, it's hard to make a judgement, but my gut instinct would be that he's not that interested.

However, if you feel a "vibe", you might be getting that intuition for a reason.

My advice: go with your gut. If you think he might like you, talk to him about it; if not, just make a clean break and forget about it.

[i_liek_sushi]

why don't you just become a hooker?

[ParanoidAndroid]

^dude that wasn't even funny

if mipadi is right and that he's not interested, i don't see what confessing does to benefit BOTH of you. Sure it might do a little good to you but if he doesn't like you then...i don't know.

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shiit i hate how this keeps happening :log out:

[Chii]

why do you have this feeling that he likes you? if he did then why did he erase your comment and ignore you after his little joke?

[LittleLulu]

often a guy will act differently around the girl he likes in comparison to those he only considers "friends".

So, is he a really flirty guy or what?

[just love me.]

well in my oppinion you seem like a nice girl. so if this whole bobby thing doesnt work out... i have a friend that might uh.. nevermind. anyways you should have a friend ask him or something. that always works. oooor u can just say do u think im hot?u wanna wanna wanna go out sometime. we could uh u know u know u know... go pumpkin carving festival or uh something. or to uh pump some iron. but if he says yes you must be fully prepared to where your matching spandex that EVERYONE should have! you better take my advice.. *cock it and pull it * or else..anyways im having a similar problem. only "bobby" trips me or you could just read up on MY topic its in the relationship section its called "in dire need of help" haha its almost the exact same! oh em gee we are like best friends hehehe besties!! twinnies!! i love you! good luck with booby!

[resrchmnkygrl6]

wow...they're all so different...i don't know whom to take advice from...
i'll reply one person at a time and thank/reply to you [[personally]]:
[[blow_dont_SUCK]]: well...i see what you mean as far the note writing thing...as far as i can see, i need to tell him face to face (if i do decide to tell...
[[mipadi]]: i think i shall go with my gut...seems to work for everybody else...
[[i_like_sushi]]: hmm...no...thanks for the suggestion?
[[andromeda_90]]: so basically...find out for sure if he likes me...
[[chii]]: i guess it would make sense...but that's a little harsh, don't you thnk?
[[LittleLulu]]: uhm...he's really flirty...i mean he flirts with every girl, but he does it harder when he's w/me..
[[just love me.]]:thanks...if only everybody knew that...as far as the friend asking him thing...it could happen one of two ways: 1. he thinks, "oh...she's likes me alot..so much that must mean she's too shy to ask me." OR "she's really bold...etc etc etc."


so thanks, guys!!!

[topsyturvy]

Errr.. i don't think he's too happy with your public note of desperation on his myspace and that's probably why he deleted it.

I think he's a little turned off from that (and therefore ignored you). But the reason he's talking to you now is probably because he's over it. So i think there's still a chance.

Next time just remember.. if you need to talk to someone.. do it. Don't broadcast it on their xanga or myspace..

[resrchmnkygrl6]

^i didn't....all is said...hey, i need to talk to you on tuesday...i didn't shout it: HEY BOBBY! I'M IN LOVE W/YOU! that would've been stupid...

[seremela_culnamo]

This sounds like what happened between my crush and I. But we are really close friends just from one class. We are best friends now (after a lot of things with him knowing and such), but before we talked things out, we weren't. We actually only knew one another for a little less than a semester, when he was in my chemistry class last year and his locker was 3 spaces away (what a coincidence with you, eh?), but we were too shy to approach one another.

Anyway, about him ignoring you..that's what happened with my crush. Well I don't know exactly why he was ignoring you, but he was probably having a bad day or something. Or simply a lot of things are going through his mind. My crush wouldn't talk to me a lot one day because of that. Then afterwards, everything will be fine. I was on and off with our friendship, too. Since I would talk to him one day, then pratically ignore him the next or something.

Not knowing the truth kills you, right? Well at least that's with me. Apparently my crush and I, we flirted way too much. Like my friend said, we "unconciously" flirted or something. Then I realize that it was true. We do it in class, too. Meh. Anyway, if you really want to, just write him a letter. It really works if you're shy or whatever, or simply someone like me who can't bring herself to confess everything directly. A letter really helps :] But only do that if you think he has feelings for you. & about the myspace thing, I really have no clue. Ask him if he saw your message throughout the period when you confess to him or simply tell him whatever is on your mind?

Hope that helps!

[resrchmnkygrl6]

^it's always good to hear that other people are going thru the same thing....i think i'll just ask one of my friends to see if he likes me back before i do anything drastic....
ps...LOVE your sig...it's one of my fave episodes