Dating your bestfriend's ex... Options

[V_TEK]

Have any of you guys somewhere in your life have dated your bestfriend's ex boyfriend or girlfriend? How does it make you feel and how are your relationships?

[Ilaem]

Last year, i went out with this boy, Jordan. He then dumped me for my best friend, Melissa, and i ended up with her ex, ryan. Basically, it ended up one huge mess. All we were doing was getting back at each other. Fellings weren't genuine. Basically, i regret it now.

[steezahh]

never done it.. but i dont think its a bad thing! =]

[Chii]

that's like an unwritten rule, you can't date your best friend's ex. even if they say it's okay, it's most likely not. your best friend will always be thinking about it in the back of his/her head that their ex likes you better than him/her and that you're better somehow.

it's best to just back away and look elsewhere.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Never done it. I'd rather not, it'll just be like a little love triangle or more.

[mzbbc]

no i've never done that. unless it was something i really couldn't help myself from, you aren't really supposed to do shit like that to your best friend.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Ive never done it, but my views are different than most people. I think, if your friend broke up with the guy, or the girl then you should go out with them if feelings are mutual. Your friend broke up with the person, obviously implying something was wrong in the relationship or they didnt like them. If the other person broke up with your friend, then yeah maybe you should back down, but if you really feel that she could be the one then either get her and ruin your friendship ( which sometimes doesnt even happen ) or wait it out, if youre really meant to be.

Id probably feel awkward at first, but then i wouldnt really care.

[_sarcastic_]

i've done it once, well she wasn't exactly my best friend but somewhat a close friend, she cheated on him twice though.
no never been out with my best friend's ex.

[sweetest-emotion]

i'm on the opposite end of that...right now my ex-bestfriend is dating my ex-boyfriend. we had this argument on how i like "dumped" her after i started dating my ex (which is NOT true...i mean wat am i supposed to do once i have a bf? i need to manage my time, and i did that) so now she's going out with him, and has absoloutely no regret. grr. it sux, and it hurts the friend more than you may think...

[Shahin]

I've never done that. It's just something you don't do. If my best friend dated my ex, I'd give him a nice, big, fat - nevermind with that, I'd just beat the shit out of him.

[*RiC3xBoy*]

No, it is kind of like an unwritten rule like Chii said.

[xblueradiance]

I don't/haven't had a boyfriend, but I think that dating your best friend's ex would just cause problems. I mean, imagine it from this perspective: you're dating someone that you like very much, and then you break up, but later on that someone (that you once loved or still do) is dating your best friend. That's how they would feel. It would just be too awkward.

[anniepiee]

that's like an unwritten rule, you can't date your best friend's ex. even if they say it's okay, it's most likely not. your best friend will always be thinking about it in the back of his/her head that their ex likes you better than him/her and that you're better somehow.

it's best to just back away and look elsewhere.

i second that.
espcially the " even if they say it's okay" it's usually always NOT.

i've never experienced it personally, but it would be a horrible feeling i'm sure.

[xmorningstar7x]

I dated my best friends ex after she dumped him. I made sure it was ok with her first though, and told her I valued her friendship over him anyday.

Dumped him after a week. All he did was compare me to her saying how I was better cuz I liked this blah blah. That really angered me.

[xFaith]

That is definately a big no-no..

[davexd]

nop , my friend did and her best friend got SOO mad at her

[topsyturvy]

Never tried it before but i'd feel pretty bad if my ex started dating one of my best friends =\

[LittleLulu]

...no but i once dumped a guy, who then started dating my then best friend.

it was so frustrating.

but i got over it.

[shadowchild]

last year I had this guy who liked me and I liked him back, but we didn't tell eachother and just acted as friends. Then we had a lock-in and I went, and he went, and we were just talking and then he asked me something. He said, "DO you like me?" And being the shy girl that I am said, "No, you're just my friend." And we remained friends, still neither of us knowing how the other felt. Then one day a few months later he asked my best friend out. And, even though I was so completely jealous I pretended to be happy for her (she didn't even know that I liked this guy). Then after a few months they broke up... then on the last day of school we were in this huge charter bus coming home from the zoo that we had just been at. And he turned to me and told me his secret. "You know that at the lock-in at the beginning of the year when I asked you if you liked me and you said no, I only asked that because I liked you..." But being totally weird, I still didn't tell him how I felt! Because I couldn't go out with him! He had gone out with my best friend... then he went to a different school and I haven't talked to him in months.... sad really.... I sent him a Christmas card but I haven't gotten a reply yet...

[*stephinika*]

that's like an unwritten rule, you can't date your best friend's ex. even if they say it's okay, it's most likely not. your best friend will always be thinking about it in the back of his/her head that their ex likes you better than him/her and that you're better somehow.

it's best to just back away and look elsewhere.

that's not always true.
i'm dating an ex of one of my best friends. mind you they didn't go out very long and they're great friends now.
but anyways.
my other best friend might be going out with my last ex soon and i don't mind at all. i approve of them actually. so. yeah.

[short_stop08]

Ive never done it, but my views are different than most people. I think, if your friend broke up with the guy, or the girl then you should go out with them if feelings are mutual. Your friend broke up with the person, obviously implying something was wrong in the relationship or they didnt like them. If the other person broke up with your friend, then yeah maybe you should back down, but if you really feel that she could be the one then either get her and ruin your friendship ( which sometimes doesnt even happen ) or wait it out, if youre really meant to be.

Id probably feel awkward at first, but then i wouldnt really care.

i agree 100%. I couldn't have worded it any clearer. I've never done it even though I thought about it once.

[Anime_gurl_4eva]

that's like an unwritten rule, you can't date your best friend's ex. even if they say it's okay, it's most likely not. your best friend will always be thinking about it in the back of his/her head that their ex likes you better than him/her and that you're better somehow.

it's best to just back away and look elsewhere.

EXACTLY!

[Mireh]

baddddddddd idea.


buds before studs.

[SSJ Kenshin]

I'm currently dating one of my best friend's exes, but he had to practically threaten to ask her out on my behalf if I didn't...kinda long story actually.

Basically I liked her first, but I stepped aside for him, and that didn't work out, and flash-forward six months, I ask her out, and now, over a year later, we're still together.

[NgocQuyen]

i haven't really gone out with my bestfriend's ex....or my friends' ex's at that...iunno i just don't feel the "connection" lols...i mean....after seeing those two cuddle for so long you just don't feel right..haha or i dont anyways...=]