Young Relationships., Dramatic? i think so. Options

[Devastation]

Almost all young relationships (12 - 17) always have some sort of drama. Why do we adolescent people deal with it? Alot of those relationships end in about a span of one week to three months. the lucky ones go past that mark. The word love eventually plays a major role in the relationship showing that one "loves" the other. which is entirely bullshizz, or i could be wrong. but in my opinion 95% of the young relationships that take part, are eventually going to die out in that span of one week to three months. the word love is most likely tossed around more than once as a word to describe deep liking. but still.. that's not true love. What is your opinion on our relationships that we have as adolescents?

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

I think. it varys for every couple, and we cant put a percentage on how long they will last, or if they really do love eachother. Although most people say it is only puppy love, its still a form of love, or the real thing. And although people say its rare to find the real thing until you are older, its still not impossible.

And i really, really disagree with the one week to 3 months. Most of my friends relationships last for months at a time, and occasionally there are the few couples that end it within` a few weeks.

[lit0chinagirl]

*my change of perspective

yes, i sort of feel the same way that you do. i always knew that i didnt want a part in all of that high school dating but then i gave in once just to see what it was like. all and all, i learned that it just wasn't meant to be at the time. there were no gurantees and i just sort of kidded myself into thinking there were.

some people will toss the "love" word around and others will actually come to mean it. i guess sometimes i view the whole high school dating thing in a negative way because i just come to see so many people abuse the whole idea of it and i don't want a part of it for awhile. BUT! there are a FEW who do it because they care for one another and want to be together.

despite all of that, i still think that it's possible to find some sort of love during your teenage years. it's rare but it does happen. i've heard about some couples who dated in high school-- broke it off for awhile and then got back together.

basically adolescent dating is a crash course to dating in the real world. we'll crash and burn a few times but one day, we'll finally get what we deserve.

[Chii]

ALL relationships have drama. just because you're older doesn't mean that your relationship will be great and last a long time.

i highly disagree with you on how long the relationships last. 95% is way too high of a percentage. it may apply for much younger kids but when you're like 16+ it's less likely.

sure kids are all "baby i love you" after maybe half a week, but they're young. what do they know about being in love? it's usually infatuation. if you're like 16 and you buy into that "i love you" stuff more than once, than shame on you.

[silver-rain]

Hmm, well I think that it depends. Some people's relationships last a long time (my boyfriend and I have gone out for over a year), while others do last a short time. It all depends on the couple themselves.
And, all relationships have drama.

[i_liek_sushi]

Dramatic?

More like retarded.... (i'm sry)

Seriously I hated young relationships (like in middle school, and even freshmen in high school), it was full of crap.

[LuvsDogs387]

I will asume that the mijority of young relationships arn't going to be successful. I believe this from observation. However I do think some people get lucky and have long lasting relationships, they may come to an end some time but it was longer and stronger than most. My friend thought she was in love and ended up sleeping with the guy and even got engaged, but just a few days ago they broke it off. I think for any realationship to work its going to need a sterdy foundation of trust and friendship and I think thats something that many young couples don't have the energy to put into it.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

^ Sometimes, you cant judge just by observation. The outside, is usually never what it seems on the inside. Basically, you cant judge by looking if you dont know whats really going on in the relationship itself.

[LuvsDogs387]

^ Sometimes, you cant judge just by observation. The outside, is usually never what it seems on the inside. Basically, you cant judge by looking if you dont know whats really going on in the relationship itself.

No, not completly.

But perhaps I should have made my self a bit clearer. When I said "observation" I didn't mean I was just an onlooker. However now I realize thats how it might be taken. I've talked to enough friends, and known enough couples, both close friends and acquaintenses to formulate that opinion.

[Just_Dream]

I'd have to agree only because where I live, relationships tend to fly by quickly. Although, as one's age progresses, their ability to keep relationships lasting gets stronger. I mean, at age 14 I met my current boyfriend and we've been dating for 3 years and 1 month now.

I agree that the majority of relationships are usually just the usual "oh he's cute" or "he's got a nice personality" and the relationship pretty much dies after a short span of time. I think it's nice to have those because despite how "love" is tossed in there even though it's truly just infatuation, each partner in the relationship gains more knowledge on how relationships should be.

Of course, this is just based on my observations of relationships of people that I know or have met. :]

[topsyturvy]

I agree with Devastation because that's how my first relationship went. After four months the "love" died out and.. nothing happened.

[_sarcastic_]

not always. i mean yeah some might die out after 1 week to 3 months, but some will last, mine has been 1 year and 7 months. i even know a friend who got with his gf when he was 13 and is still with her, he's 16 now.
the word love is pretty much tossed around fairly easily. but you learn from your past relationships don't you?

[Devastation]

I think. it varys for every couple, and we cant put a percentage on how long they will last, or if they really do love eachother. Although most people say it is only puppy love, its still a form of love, or the real thing. And although people say its rare to find the real thing until you are older, its still not impossible.

And i really, really disagree with the one week to 3 months. Most of my friends relationships last for months at a time, and occasionally there are the few couples that end it within` a few weeks.

that's most of your friends relationships. not the whole young relationship as a whole.
puppy love is not a form a love, it's just a serious liking. just because it has love doesn't mean its a form of love. you'll know when you feel love as well as your partner. i wasn't saying love was impossible in young relationships, i said it was nearly impossible.

that's most of your friends relationships. not the whole young relationship as a whole.

[nightowl89]

^ well I think it depends on where you live, who your friends are, etc..I've seen it boths ways. age 16+ relationships can last for subsantial periods of time I think tho. As for puppy love, it just depends on how you define it and what you think "love" really means. People mature emotionally at very different rates. I don't know if you can just bunch all adolecents together...it really depends on the person. And besides, its healthy to date a bunch of different people when you're young so you know what kind of personalities to look for in the future.

[ParanoidAndroid]

Almost all young relationships (12 - 17) always have some sort of drama. Why do we adolescent people deal with it? Alot of those relationships end in about a span of one week to three months. the lucky ones go past that mark. The word love eventually plays a major role in the relationship showing that one "loves" the other. which is entirely bullshizz, or i could be wrong. but in my opinion 95% of the young relationships that take part, are eventually going to die out in that span of one week to three months. the word love is most likely tossed around more than once as a word to describe deep liking. but still.. that's not true love. What is your opinion on our relationships that we have as adolescents?

I agree if u base this theory on Middle School kids...

Cuz Middle School kids just date people who they think is hot...(most of the time) and use them as an accessory (well in my school they do)

and then dump them after 2 days...they REALLY love that person

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

that's most of your friends relationships. not the whole young relationship as a whole.
puppy love is not a form a love, it's just a serious liking. just because it has love doesn't mean its a form of love. you'll know when you feel love as well as your partner. i wasn't saying love was impossible in young relationships, i said it was nearly impossible.

that's most of your friends relationships. not the whole young relationship as a whole.

I agree with nightowl89.
I also do think it depends where you live, because where i live relationships tend to last past your 3 month mark. And like i said, there are a few that fizzle out within weeks. And i didnt get the part where you said, not the whole young relationships as a whole. That part confused me a bit.
And i could also agree on puppy love not as a form of love, and besides, what i was saying was that you cant put a percentage based on your observations of relationships, whether puppy love, infatuation, or the real thing. And

you'll know when you feel love as well as your partner. i wasn't saying love was impossible in young relationships, i said it was nearly impossible.

Uhm, I have felt love. Real love. And im very sure of it. It was just too bad for me that he died. And, maybe its just me but i get the feeling your pessimistic towards love only because you either had your heart broken recently, or something along that sort. But, thats just IMO.

[Dragonfly_babe]

That is true but people do it just because of the moment. We're only young once right?

[richc]

i think of young relationships as...

just...practices? well not really

like, im not saying to go out with girls as practice for ...marraige

but its just like

think about

wat if u started dating wen ur 25?

then ud get married wen ur like 40

so ...basically..its like the starting step

[angelrevelation]

i think that drama is almost inevitable... because the people usually arent mature enough to handle a serious relationship without overreacting or assuming or anything. but i guess these relationships help them learn cuz it's not like they're gonna get married to these ppl (very unlikely)

[*mipadi*]

Relationships in high school are about learning how to develop relationships, what you like, and just to have fun. Drama occurs because people in them often place entirely too much emphasis on them. But they do serve a useful and important purpose.

[anoniez]

OK.. well this is my take on it. Obviously these can't be the only factors.
I think that younger people are much more insecure and "needy" than people in their 20s or 30s.. that's why the word "love" is bandied around, because they feel a need to be loved and needed and to know that they're a big part of someone's life. Drama and accusations of "you don't love me" occur when one person doesn't feel as cared for or feels like their partner is slipping away. A percieved loss of control leads to drama because teens haven't really learned communication skills yet or how to express themselves. e.g., they don't usually think to say "i'm hurt because you did ___", they say "you did ___, so you don't love me."

[xmorningstar7x]

I agree that many relationships in high school aren't really love, just infatuation. I can't tell you how many times people want to go out with someone because they're "hot" and things like that. But there's always the rare occurence where people do stay together for very long. My parents are high school sweethearts.

However, I really do hate the way love is thrown around so easily. My boyfriend and I didn't tell each other we loved one another until about a year after we started going out, when we were really sure. That made it even more meaningful, because I knew he meant it, and didn't just say it like others do.

[full:O:beans]

   
despite all of that, i still think that it's possible to find some sort of love during your teenage years. it's rare but it does happen. i've heard about some couples who dated in high school-- broke it off for awhile and then got back together.

basically adolescent dating is a crash course to dating in the real world. we'll crash and burn a few times but one day, we'll finally get what we deserve.

I completely agree.

I actually know a few ppl who have been together with their boyfriend for a year and a bit. It just varies from person to person.

But I havn't dated anyone yet, or really plan to in highschool.

[grab-it]

True. Relationships have drama.
Drama happens because your testing out things, and figuring out things.
And it doesn't only happen during adolescence..

And yea, some peoples relationships last longer then others.
it just depends what you want out of it.. and stuff..
can't really think of what i wanted to say anymore but thats it

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Well I agree with you particially. I just don't think that age should matter when it comes to this topic. An adult couple could have just as much drama as a middle school couple. True the L word is tossed around a lot amongst teens, but that doesn't mean that adults don't do that either. It's very rare to find love; that I agree. But I know a couple whos been going out since they were in their middle school years; and now they're on their way to college.