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 Jan 3 2006, 08:03 PM
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 My peanut.  Group: Member Posts: 948 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 187,456  |
3 major IMPORTANT fact: Im shy...very shy...I havent dated...I havent kissed
Ok so theres this guy right.. He is so sweet and I feel like such a BUTHOLE for what I did. Ok so I moved down here(as in mississippi) in august. This guy started liking me and I started liking him... I asked him to come to a pick-nick..and he said yes cuz he likes me.  so.. after I invited him..I had second thoughts of whether or not I want him to go...  So I started not talking to him at the pick-nick...I didnt speak to him but once..  after the pick-nick we had a water fight. hehe.  (man does he have a niiice stumoch..)  anyways... when school came around he started avoiding me and not talking to me...and called me STUCKUP and im not in anyway stuck up I understand because I felt like such an a$$..  We didnt talk to him and he didnt talk to me because he went out and got another girl...  I got mad..he was still mad because I didnt talk to him at the pic-nic.. and then we started talking again.....Everything was cool we talked to eachother on the phone for hours. And I started talking to him at school and everything and then the past few weeks I started not talking to him and I dont want to make him feel like I hate him because I dont. I dont! On new years I felt like calling him..but my cousins talked me outta it... and I feel like calling him now and explaining to him that I dont in anyway hate him or dont like him because I really do. ALOT on top of that. I want to go out with him and I dunno if he still feels the same.. so I dunno... what should I do...O and also... My mom doesnt want me to date him because in her words hes a "BAD BOY" because he smokes...  so what. So does my dad. And so does she.Everyones telling me to forget abotu him...Dont worry you can do better than that...but no other boys have even gave me a clue that they liked me.  so...I dunno what I should do.. HELP!!!! |
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Jan 3 2006, 10:58 PM
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 ^ignore. read> Maria. Group: Member Posts: 710 Joined: Dec 2005 Member No: 323,799 |
uh wow.
you said he had a gf though. did they break up??? and sorry, i cant really help... im a pretty obedient daughter so... yeah. and wouldn't this be better off in relationships? |
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Jan 3 2006, 11:10 PM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
yeah this probably should go into relationships unless you only want a girl's opinion on it
ask him how he feels towards you. if you really like him and want to go out with him against all odds, then go for it ask him out. but wait doesn't he have a gf already?! QUOTE We didnt talk to him and he didnt talk to me because he went out and got another girl...
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Jan 4 2006, 01:00 AM
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 whaaaaaaat? Group: Member Posts: 2,293 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,660 |
1. he smokes. that's not good. and many freaking people care. u should too.
2. u were an ass as u stated. that's ur problem. face the consequences. 3. sounds more like just eye candy for you. u don't sound serious at all. 4. if u really liked the boy, why would u let ur cousins talk u out of it. don't let others influence ur love life. 5. he's got a girl. deal with that too. and i believe it is picnic. not picknick. it's obvious as to why he may have lost interest. u invite him to something, and basically ignore him for no apparent reason. i'd be pretty pissed off at u too. if u want to patch things up, explain why u ditched him like that. but if u cause him to break up with his gf/if there is one, then that just makes u a crappy person, for lack of better words. just move on and find someone else. u already botched this one up nicely. |
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Jan 4 2006, 02:04 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 889 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,392 |
ok first. just because no guys ever told you they liked you, doesn't mean they didnt. Men are shy , just like you are.
if he's going out with another girl then dont do anything to harm their relationship or you'll be labelled as a you know what. stay friends and if you still like him that much then talk to him about it when him n his girl breaks up. in the meantime, dont sweat it. seriously. there are still lots of men out there. |
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Jan 5 2006, 12:27 PM
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 dakishimetainoni... Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 4,322 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 75,318 |
don't doubt your parent's advice, seriously trust me on this one. i dated this guy for over a year and thought he was wonderful, my parents thought he was crap from the beginning. now it's been a few months after we broke up and i've had to file a police report against him for aggravated harassment.
sure it seems useless to you that your parents are telling you not to date a smoker since they smoke as well but quitting is hard. they should know that and smoking can lead to lots of health problems. dahding was right, you kind of did mess it up with him...you should definately patch things up but if he's still with some other girl, then you have to be just be friends with him. |
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Jan 5 2006, 06:46 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 189 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 63,312 |
this looks like an issue of miscommunication. he probably doesn't know you're shy.. if you never told him why you ignored him at the picnic he wouldn't know what to think. Call him, apologize, and say what you posted on here. Emphasize how bad you felt about it and how it was just because you were confused about your feelings for him.. he should understand. I do cause I've accidentally done stuff like that before.. it's mostly cause of shyness and not knowing what to do.. make it very clear that you know you did something wrong, that should soothe his ego (most male egos aren't receptive to being ignored by a female =p) But not too much, otherwise he'll be overly dominating.
 The reason all this has happened is because you haven't communicated with him. Second.. if he already has a girlfriend, I would advise against trying to do anything other than get to be friends with him again. Messing up people's relationships is never really a good decision. And last.. if he's a smoker.. ew =/ Kissing him will taste like kissing an ashtray. Not to mention all the health problems he'll get. I would stay away, but it's really your decision. |
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Jan 6 2006, 11:34 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
QUOTE(dahding @ Jan 4 2006, 1:00 PM) 1. he smokes. that's not good. and many freaking people care. u should too. 2. u were an ass as u stated. that's ur problem. face the consequences. 3. sounds more like just eye candy for you. u don't sound serious at all. 4. if u really liked the boy, why would u let ur cousins talk u out of it. don't let others influence ur love life. 5. he's got a girl. deal with that too. it's obvious as to why he may have lost interest. u invite him to something, and basically ignore him for no apparent reason. i'd be pretty pissed off at u too. if u want to patch things up, explain why u ditched him like that. but if u cause him to break up with his gf/if there is one, then that just makes u a crappy person, for lack of better words. just move on and find someone else. u already botched this one up nicely.  ^ Agree with every word he said |
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Jan 15 2006, 08:37 PM
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 Band Geek. Group: Member Posts: 366 Joined: Jan 2006 Member No: 341,494 |
Is smoking that big of a deal to you? I think you should give it a shot, and explain to your parents that him smokaing doesn't exactly mean he's a bad person.
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