too soon ?, sex .. Options

[cuul_gurl]

16 is too early..like most of them say...i'm 21 and still a virgin..and i can wait till i'm married thank u very much!!
Dnt ruch into such things..its a lot of risk..be careful..

[vash1530]

i dont think this agree with the emphasis on teen abstinence tht many other ppl in this thread have. implying that ur my age bcuz of ur username, o think this is a good time to expirement with sex, especially if since ur in a relationship with ur prefered partner. make sure ur ready for it tho. many ppl are very emotional abt losing their virginity but personally i think its gassed up a little. if you use protection and you like the guy, do what you think is right.

[s_parker_luver]

it shows that u have doubt if u asked this question. don't do it if u have any doubt. only do it when you're sure that you're COMPLETELY ready for it and can take the consequences.

[NgocQuyen]

sometimes...you can learn from other people's mistakes...so therefore you wont have to make them yourself. isnt that just great? lols if i were you i would seriously consider what your friend is saying. i mean maybe it might be hard to hear and you might get tired of it...but....you should really think about it..learn from it so you wont make the same mistake. i honestly think that you're too young and you should wait..and you've only known him for a year anyways and you've only been going for a month or so.....i mean.....what makes you think he WONT leave you after you give yourself to him? don't you think thats a pretty big risk you're making for someone you've only known for one year? you may think one year is a long time...but one year is nothing...that's just my opinion

[FoxBandCutie08]

If you think you're mature enough to handle the complicated emotions, stress, and risks that come with having sex, then I would say, go for it, if it isn't against your religious beliefs. Keep in mind, when you guys break up it will be very hard because of the physical connection you shared, and you will probably regret it when you guys break up. Also, realize even the best birth control isn't completely safe, and you should take extra precautions to make sure you don't end up getting pregnant if you do decide to go through with it. You're taking some very serious risks with having sex, it's a good idea to talk with your partner about how to handle things properly beforehand, so everything's safe.

[rueyaroo]

if you want my opinon..this may sound a little bit harsh..but..i think you should wait until you finish college..i mean what are the chances of getting married with the same guy youre with now......... you dont want to risk your future over some guy..

[omgah_itsmaggiex]

well, my perspective of it is like this;;if youre really thinking about whether or not you want to lose your virginity to him, then youre not ready. youre obviously a little confused and kinda scared/nervous. if you have these feelings, then i dont think youre ready. plus, youre graduating in 08, the same as me. do you really want to lose your virginity to someone at the age of 15/16? im sure youve heard of break up stories where the girl wished she never had sex with him after they broke up, saying it wasnt worth it. there will be plenty of other chances to meet other great guys, just think it through real well before you do something you regret. =]

[sin_lagrimas]

well with sex..now a days age isnt much of a barrier...ive known 14 year olds to do it..as long as you know how to protect yourself and know wat ur doin and who ur doing it with i guess its fine..but honestly..you have only been with him a month..after a month with my boyfriend i had the same thoughts in my head as u do..you grew this strong connection and trust towards him that your willin to go the next level..but i suggest you take your time..youve waited 16 years before having sex..you can take more time..and if he truely cares about you..he can too...but all of this is up to you..

[xmorningstar7x]

I don't think 16 is toooooo young.

But beware of the person. I've known people who lost it at 16 and ended up getting married with the same guy. (slim chance that ends up happening though) I've known people who lost it at 16, end got dumped right after. So it all depends on the people involved.

However, you've only been with this guy a month. You said you've known him for 1 year, but that was as friends. Relationships are different. My friend went out with her best friend. When they were in the relationship, he was a lot different to her, and ended up breaking up with him after a couple of months. I say if you really want to, wait. I would wait a year, just to be safe, but that's me.

[full:O:beans]

Sigh. That's what they all say.

ya well that's what I said when I was 14 too, and I'm already half way there

[grab-it]

i think that your not ready to.. along with nearly everybody else!
I'm 16 as well, I'm still a virgin.. Sure I think about sex and that, who doesnt? But I'm not guna go and have sex with my boyfriend, even though we've been together for almost a year.
You say you've only been with this guy for over a month?..
Aren't you a little freaked out that he is "so in love with you and wants to be with you forever".. even though you've been friends for a year or whatever you said.. that doesnt necessarily mean.. that because you've been friends it'll be an easier relationship, and since you've known him for that long, that he really knows you, or vice versa.
If your really seriously thinking about having sex with this guy, just think - If something went wrong (condom breakage or whatever), would you be able to handle the consequences?
Having a baby. Contracting an STD for life?
Thats the way i think of it. Until I know that i'll be ok, and i can look after myself and whatever.. there will be no sex.
Maybe you should think about that.
But honestly, if your asking others, your not ready.
It's like asking other people for excuses or something..

[Spec_R]

There is nothing wrong with having sex at a young. What is growing up? To learn new things and how to become an adult, right? Being curious and liking/loving someone is a part of growing up and a part of life.
But keep one thing in mind that once it is lost, then it's gone. Even though a lot of my friends had sex at a young age. But for me, I believe in something that's called love. It have more meanings to lose it to someone you'll spend the rest of your life with. (Just a lil of my opinion, whatever you choose is up to you )

[ParanoidAndroid]

I think teenagers rush into sexual intercourse too fast. Sex should mean something; I feel that a lot of relationships in high school, no matter how "real" they seem, are not solid enough to warrant sex. At that age, you should be dating to get a feel for what you like, develop solid relationship skills, and so forth. Jumping into a sexual relationship makes a relationship suddenly much more serious, and then it becomes too much of a burden, and can often hinder development. Furthermore, as noted, there are a lot of problems (sexually transmitted diseases, pregnancy) associated with sex, aside from the mental/emotional issues.

And not to be a killjoy, but just because someone says that he is thinking about your future together, that you're "going to get an apartment together," doesn't mean much at such an early age. Trust me--relationships of all types (family, friends, romantic) change a lot once the parties reach college-age.

To be honest, sexual intercourse isn't something I'd rush into lightly. And besides...there's always alternative methods in this department.

I agree but do you have to put it in big words?

[REBELnDISGUISE]

I think it's too soon. You don't wanna start off to early and be addicted to sex. Then people who'd call you offensive things and thats not a good way to start your life. Trust me, I know.

[177emories]

when your young and a virgin i guess you think sex is this scary and very important thing taht you should KEEP.... guys like virgins! and when your not a virgin anymore they can tell! cause you'll be loose, hope i'm not giving too much detail... do you truely love this person? cause you'll feel bad later on in life that you did it with this guy and you guys broke up and then later you meet the guy you love and you gave it away already i thinkyou'll wnat it for someone you truly love but we never know that when we are so young... but thats only important when your a virgin cause after if you've done it once you wont feel that special anymore cause your not a virgin you can do it with anyone any time whenever blah... just becareful and use protection and wait till your older... you'll regret it later even if you think it is RIGHT at this moment... it really isn't...

i've been with my bf for almost 2 years in feb and obviously i'm not regreting anything and we're much older than you are... 3rd year university (him) first year for me and when you grow up and get older, you will not think so much about doing it... when the moment is right it just happens no thinking involved.

[*mipadi*]

i've been with my bf for almost 2 years in feb and obviously i'm not regreting anything and we're much older than you are... 3rd year university (him) first year for me and when you grow up and get older, you will not think so much about doing it... when the moment is right it just happens no thinking involved.

Whoo, he was robbing the cradle when he picked you up, eh?

[177emories]

i dunno what that means lol

[LexyGirl]

Honestly, if you feel ready.. there's a lot more pressure I think on the whole thing than there needs to be.
At this point in time, If you feel comfortable enough to be with him, then go ahead and be with him. The truth is.. The biggest risk when you have sex is that you both will stop talking and only have interest in one thing.

That being said, there is a very good possibility that you will break up in the future, taht it will be hard, and that life will go on. There is also a chance that won't happen. Regardless. You have an oppurtunity to move forward with someone and learn both about yourself, but also about a new self that comes with being with someone.
If you are ready, you should go for it.
And if you're questioning... you should not.

[criime scene x]

you know what threw me off about this story. the fact that the boy is telling you he wants to get an apartment. .. i think a lot of guys say that to girls because at the moment they feel like they want to be together "forever." .. my boyfriend says that to me, and i'm like "yeah, that sounds good" .. but deep down i know that it won't happen. i know how i am, i know how he is and sometimes we argue a lot. that isn't something i want to look foward to.

we are sexually active and have been for only a month or so.
we've been dating for almost a year and we're completly comfortable with eachother.

i think that if you're questioning whether or not you should do it or not, that you definetly aren't ready.

if you were, you would know it.