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[nightowl89]

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So basically...

Last year over the summer I met this guy "Cole". It was only for ten days at a music festival and I'm usually shy around crushes so although we did talk some and exchanged e-mails it was much more just catching each other's stares (hehe)

we're still in touch right now, a year and a half later...but he's extremely smart and musically talented (Harvard and NEC!) SO he's reallly busy and so am I with hs and my music stuff making the corespondences like...once a month either by e-mail or AIM. I do have his number but I feel weird and kinda desperate if I call out of the blue. Plus its a bit scary for me that he's in collge cuz im a junior in hs...its only 2 yrs but still.

It's really killing me that I havn't seen him in so long, but if I get into this thing for school coming up in March I'll be able to see him(!) There havn't been any announcements about this program yet tho. He's told me that he wants to see me again too...even sorta joked about me sleeping over in his "common room"

...srry about the lenght of that...Just any comments would be great but I guess what it comes down to is: Do you think there's a chance he still likes me too?

[Just_Dream]

Well, a year is a long time. It really depends. What kind of conversations did you have with him? I'm not telling you to spill out it all, but I mean you should consider WHAT you said to him and WHAT he said to you. BTW, does he have a gf? I mean, a year and a half--that's a long time, and nowadays I've noticed people get in (and out of) relationships fast, especially in college lol. So you gotta make sure his status is a-okay.

Also, take it slow. Hey, maybe you two could meet up with a group of friends or something, that way you'll feel safe, since he is older than you. Wow he goes to Harvard? Awesome. :]

Anyway to answer your question, YES there is a chance. There's always a chance. It might be a slim chance, but hey you never know! You never know unless you actually ask him what he thinks about you. :] And if there isn't, then it's okay. Maybe something might develop later on. Don't make it weird between you two if he doesn't like you back.

Oh yea, and age shouldn't matter, unless he's like 12 years older than you or something lol. Remember that you're still a minor.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Theres always a chance. I say you try and see him again, and if the chance that he could have stopped, you could try and spark a feeling.

[topsyturvy]

BTW, does he have a gf? I mean, a year and a half--that's a long time, and nowadays I've noticed people get in (and out of) relationships fast, especially in college lol. So you gotta make sure his status is a-okay.

^ agreed


There's absolutely nothing wrong with "calling out of the blue". It's cute and he'll appreciate it, i promise. Just ask about how things have been with him, blah blah blah

[gr00vyswordsman]

^ agreed
There's absolutely nothing wrong with "calling out of the blue".  It's cute and he'll appreciate it, i promise.  Just ask about how things have been with him, blah blah blah

I agree with K!$$, I too think it would be cute! OOO kawaii desu yo ^________^ Catch up on whats been going on!

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

^ agreed
There's absolutely nothing wrong with "calling out of the blue".  It's cute and he'll appreciate it, i promise.  Just ask about how things have been with him, blah blah blah

^ agreed with kiss. Surprise him, let him know you still have the hots for him Nothing's wrong with calling him, to ask how he's been.

[nightowl89]

thanks guys for the re:s

Yes I do have to ask if he has a gf. I will definietely at some point. haha...ok the I'm scared cuz he's older thing came out a bit wrong...He's a really really sweet and nice guy, my firneds will confirm..it more that I'm scared he has a gf or won't really think of me that way I guess. I know that can't be helped tho...I like him as a friend too anyways. hmm...well when I know for sure when/if I'm going to get to see him I will call to let him know...

[lilphoenix]

thanks guys for the re:s

Yes I do have to ask if he has a gf. I will definietely at some point. haha...ok the I'm scared cuz he's older thing came out a bit wrong...He's a really really sweet and nice guy, my firneds will confirm..it more that I'm scared he has a gf or won't really think of me that way I guess. I know that can't be helped tho...I like him as a friend too anyways.  hmm...well when I know for sure when/if I'm going to get to see him I will call to let him know...

Lol... I'm in the same situation. Here's a better explanation... just change the cooking class to band & he doesn't smoke. :]

The guy that I have my eye on, there's like this chick that hangs around with him but only from time to time. [rarely with her, but i see him w/ his friends constantly. his friends are also in band]
I don't know whether if it's his gf or w/e but it doesn't look like it. [You never know.]

Anyways, he and I have been flirting lately... A LOT. Everytime I would turn around, he's doing something dorky. And I like him for that, he makes me laugh.

The moral is that you should take a chance/risk sometimes, otherwise you'll miss the opportunity. As for me... I'm still working on it. [I'm almost there too!]

Good luck to you. :o)

[nightowl89]

thank you and best of luck to you too!

[gr00vyswordsman]

thank you and best of luck to you too!

awwwww*sugu

[Fade to Black]

call him up and be like ey foo, marry me plz

[nightowl89]

^ hahahaahah!

I'd love to hear his reaction to that LOL

[LittleLulu]

omg heeyyyyyy!!!!
its me...the other girl in the situation where i like an older guy in college...HARVARD COLLEGE...but yeah...

i guess im not in the best position to give any advice eh? hehe. but i TOTALY understand what you're talking about. TOTALY.

i have yet to tell the guy i met about my feelings, just really caught up in school work lately. I've decided to hold off telling him until atleast i see him, which should be in just over a month, during the christmas holidays.

you've known ur guy for a much longer time though. and a 2 year difference really isn't a big deal. just cuz hes older doesn't mean he has intentions of molesting you or anything of the sort. i completely believe your judgement of him. i bet he's a really cool guy. but anyways.

i've thought about this whole situation, and one thing im worried about is the fact that BECAUSE these guys are in college, they have a wide circle of ppl that they see everyday and make contact with. and since they're soo busy through the day they may not always have time to think about us little highschoolers. I've been busy lately and have spent less time thinking about him. So it'd seem natural with all the stuff going on in colleges that it be even more like that for them if not the same....SO..i think it'd be a good idea to call him once in a while since you can. I can't call him since 1-i dont have his phone number even though i know he has a cell. and 2- calling from Canada to America is still considored long-distance. which are hella expensive.

so calling him once in a while won't seem desperate. But i think it'd remind him of you. not to intentionally distract him from school or anything. but you know, a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do. =D

i wish you the BEST of luck!!!!!

[sw33tii_kagome]

lol.. 2 yrs isn't tat much.. im in a long distance relationship and mi bf is freshman in colege and im freshman in hs.. which is retarded.. but yea..

ask ur guy if he has a gf, does he like yu,and etc.. and its okay to call him out of da blue.. its cute

[nightowl89]

i've thought about this whole situation, and one thing im worried about is the fact that BECAUSE these guys are in college, they have a wide circle of ppl that they see everyday and make contact with. and since they're soo busy through the day they may not always have time to think about us little highschoolers. I've been busy lately and have spent less time thinking about him. So it'd seem natural with all the stuff going on in colleges that it be even more like that for them if not the same....

exactly! Same with me...whenever I miss him I sorta throw myself into schoolwork! haha. I've decided too that I'll wait till I see him to say anything. I'll TRY to muster the strenght and maybe call him at thanksgiving or something ...we'll see.

LittleLulu: its nice to know ther're other girls in the same situation. Best of luck! Tell me how it goes!

sw33tii_kagome: It's not retarded! one of my best friend's bf is 4 years older and they're one fo the best couples I know.

[gr00vyswordsman]

O O O O O >.... SO COME ONE WERE ALL WAITING!!@! whats the NEWS ^_____^

[nightowl89]

...my schools not doing Harvard model congress this year
so i dunno if I can see him now.....

*sigh* This sux...

[shortiiex]

just be sound like a good friends and say do want to hang out..over the break?
then (flirt) joke up about the sleeping in his room
just keep flirting but don't be too obvious...if he does like you and actually does see the signs..he'll do something

[sheddingtears]

try to see him again. so far, it sounds that he's interested.

[nightowl89]

guess what!! I got into model UN which is in Boston so I"LL GET TO SEE HIM IN FEBRUARY!!!!! He doesn't know yet...but wish me luck for when i call him!!


so happy!! its been a year and a half!!!

[nightowl89]

edit: ugh sorry double post...

[expoised]

hm, i've had a guy like that once. i met him over a summer camp... coincidentally a music camp, too. i mean, it was just a crush. we flirted and all, but it was no big deal.

we stayed in touch for a little big and the more i talked to him the more i thought something was there. the thing is... you've only actually known this guy for 10 days, and even though you think there's something based on his looks and stares.... it really might turn out to be misinterpretations.

just don't get your hopes up is all i'm saying. because when they build up and got knocked down... it hurts. a lot. and that's from experience.

[nightowl89]

^ thanks. I'm aware...Im constantly fihgting to keep everything in perspective. By now just seeing him and staying friends would be more than enough for me. OF course if something does happend well.... WHo knows? we'll find out....I'm srry your crush didn't work out tho...




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I'm seeing him for sure in February!! so happy..."it'll be awesoem to see you"