Long-Term Boyfriend, Me, & New Guy.. Options

[cutey2kc]

Ok, so here's my dilemma, straight to the point.
I have been with my boyfriend for a year and almost one month now, and things were going SOO well, like i swear, i really thought i fell in love. And, all of a sudden I get closer to this new guy, but who is leaving for college (graduated senior). BTW, me and my boyfriend are in the same grade, 11th.

So, i asked my friend to ask the new guy if he liked me, and he said "i wont lie, i do." And he told my friend that the only thing that's holding him back from making a move on me is my bf.

And I love my boyfriend, i really do, but at the same time, i like the other guy, and it's killing the hell out of me! The other guy and me keep talking for the past couple of days for like 3-4 hours on the phone. And the more i start talking to him, and getting to know him more, the more i have these feelings for him.

I'm just so scared of change. It's hard to let go of something that you've built up from, and had so many memories with. And, i mean, i guess the reason why i haven't felt like this ever before, is because no other guy came into the picture...until now.

And so, I know this guy likes me for sure, but he's just too afraid to get closer to me since i have a bf. My bf has no idea about this. And I have feelings for this other guy, but at the same time, also for my long-term boyfriend.

Please help me. Im in desperate need of advice. I dont know what to do. :/.

[*steve330*]

Sucks. He's going to college. Don't blow off your boyfriend of a year for a few months with some other guy you aren't even guaranteed to like/stay with. Also if you're having these second thoughts about your boyfriend, maybe you shouldn't be with him anyways. So maybe you should do a summer fling then wind up missing college boy and not having your old boyfriend to fall back on when you're miserable and lonely because you started off with two liking you and now you have none.

[me1issaaaa]

Well, I don't think you truly love your boyfriend, if someone has already come between the two of you.

I suggest you take some time being single, so you can figure out what you want to do without hurting anyone in the process.

[cutey2kc]

yeah but he's only going to SF state..and it's not that far away from where i live.
Ugh, but things are so complicated.
I dont know if i should forget all about this..or maybe take a break with my bf to figure things out? Or..maybe this will die off, this feeling.
I think it shouldnt make any sudden movements just yet, i'll just wait it out. See where things go from here.. :/.

[*steve330*]

He'll go to college. He'll find someone else he likes more than you. He'll break up with you, or get drunk/high and cheat on you. You'll get upset. You'll wish you never left your old boyfriend. I already stated all this, but it's unwise to be hopeful of dating someone you don't even know all that well as they go into college.

[EmoEyelinerx]

I agree with all them ^.

[concreteangel]

Dont blow off your bf for this new guy. I did that before and regretted it later. I blew off my bf because of this guy I had met and was really liking. I hated it.

[mytangerine]

'you only live once' totally cliche but that was the first thing that came to mind when i read your situation. if you have strong feelings for this new guy, go with him. as heartless as that sounds, i would probably do that /:

[$$$ soul]

'you only live once' totally cliche but that was the first thing that came to mind when i read your situation. if you have strong feelings for this new guy, go with him. as heartless as that sounds, i would probably do that /:

No, that's stupid. Don't do it, you'll regret it!!!!!!!

[courtn3y]

He'll go to college. He'll find someone else he likes more than you. He'll break up with you, or get drunk/high and cheat on you. You'll get upset. You'll wish you never left your old boyfriend. I already stated all this, but it's unwise to be hopeful of dating someone you don't even know all that well as they go into college.

Exactly. High Schooler dating a College student, it hardly ever works. Due to schedules, other people, time to see each other, etc.

[luxuriate]

HEY GIRL
WE ARE ALMOST THE SAME

Everytime I meet a nice, hot, caring girl right, i'm like yo get away from me bitch!
Then I get me some real HOES and BITCHESSSSSSS

[*steve330*]

^I'm gonna agree right there. As well as the others that shut down that argument.

I mean imagine you had an acquaintance who currently liked your boyfriend, and your boyfriend liked her. You and him loved each other but he decided to take his chances w/ her. He gets dumped by her. He threw the prospect of you out the window just so he could try something new. Now whether or not you'd forgive him so easily and jump right back on his lap is another story, that's you. Still you would rather him not even leave you to try someone new.

[lorrytruck;]

Tell your BF. I mean, he deserves to know, and it's better than him finding it out all on his own. You can't love/like two guys at the same time, you're gona have to make a choice.

'you only live once' totally cliche but that was the first thing that came to mind when i read your situation. if you have strong feelings for this new guy, go with him. as heartless as that sounds, i would probably do that /:

^I actually agree with that. Live your life for you, do what you want, bcos in the end it's all about you. Everyone else will do what they need to for themselves. Don't stay with someone if you like someone else just because you're afraid of being heartless and hurting his feelings bcos you've been together for so long.

[transcendentalis...]

you sound just like my ex boyfriend. he dumped me for the exact same reason. the only things different between our situations is that i'm a year younger than my ex and his new girlfriend is his age.

if you want to stay with your boyfriend, then avoid the hell out of the other guy.

what melissa and steve said.