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 Nov 13 2005, 01:41 AM
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the other day, my mom told me that she had pretty much doomed me to never have a decent relationship with anyone since all i've ever seen has been fighting with her husbands (not simultaneous, past and present, though i don't even know why she and my father divorced, nor can i remember them together) so i'll never be able to trust a man. i found it interesting, though, because what it really has shown me is that no matter how cynical i may be, i'm a hopeless romantic, don't like the idea of dating, and am very glad i'm friends with and like such geeky people rather than attractice jerks. but what do you think? is a person more likely to overcome their environment or fall unintentionally into the same trap?
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Nov 13 2005, 01:51 AM
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 Resident Jerk. Is Wade. Respond to PM's!  Group: Member Posts: 344 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 289,510 |
You will fall unintentionally into the same trap. From that point, you will either realize that you did it, or you'll continue making the mistakes of your parents.
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Nov 13 2005, 07:35 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
Personally i'm happy for you for staying away from the "attractive jerks"
 But keep in mind that not all attractive people are jerks.I think you'll overcome your environment. Just because you've been surrounded by bad relationships doesn't mean you can't develop a good one of your own. Just like child abuse, victims can always break the chain.. all it takes is determination and perseverance 
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Nov 13 2005, 08:29 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
well you might or might not become like your parents, maybe this can be a motivation of some sort, and you try not to get into any bad relationships like your mom did.
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Nov 13 2005, 02:35 PM
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QUOTE(K!$$ @ Nov 13 2005, 7:35 AM) Personally i'm happy for you for staying away from the "attractive jerks" But keep in mind that not all attractive people are jerks. No no, I'm not exactly going to descriminate against pretty people, as that would be ridiculous. My point was that I don't like guys solely because they're hot, even if they're complete assholes. |
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Nov 13 2005, 09:58 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
My moms the opposite. My parents fight everyday, literally. And sometimes its physical but ever since i tried to stop it, had an attack and passed out they have lessened. My mom always tells me when shes done with her heaving sobs, through her gutteral tears she tells me no matter how her and my dad are, they shouldnt influence my life. Which i think is kind of hard since its what i grew up around before i started living on the streets on and off.
I think that the environment you grow up in, can only affect your lifestyle if you let it. |
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