what shuld i say or do, My bf is a lil odd Options

[Jayembe]

well lemme fill u in a lil. I have this bf now but ive know him since last september. He's liked me since december and so hav i but this past halloween he's finally made up his mind and asked me out. And of course i said yes. The only problem is now that we r going out we will hug wen we see each other but if im going sum where with him or walking by him he doesnt hold my hand or put his arm around me and weve already been goin out for like 10 days and ive only kissed him once. I mean i like him alot but theres only so much i can do on my own. im wonderin if u culd giv me some advice on what i shuld do or how u think he's feelin. cus wen i ask him he thinks everythin is alright and if i ask if he's shy he says no. For me to get that kiss i had to ask him i dunno maybe he doesnt want ppl to no im going out with him or what. i just need some advice and opnions on what you all feel.

[aera]

10 days seems pretty fast for kissing.

dont rush the relationship. if you want him to hold your hand and put his arm around you that badly, just tell him.

[xsign_my_heartx]

^ Right. You shouldn't rush relationships.

[miss-_-guitar]

next time ur going somewhere with him start holding his hand. just make sure u dont rush him or make things uncomfortable

[_sarcastic_]

um it's only 10 days?
why rush into things, if you want to hold his hand so badly, why not make the first move instead of waiting for him to and kissing in 10 days that's pretty fast.

[_sarcastic_]

oops sorry

[silver-rain]

Yeah, don't rush things in the relationship. If you really want to hold his hand, then why don't you take the initiative and reach for his hand or put your arm around him?

[*jooleeah*]

It's only been 10 days. You shouldn't rush things, it'll make your boyfriend feel pressured.

[NgocQuyen]

10 days seems pretty fast for kissing.

dont rush the relationship. if you want him to hold your hand and put his arm around you that badly, just tell him.

agreed

but you really shouldn't rush it...because its only been 10 days...start really complaining when its been like 10 months... heheh don't worry he'll open up soon enough

[ParanoidAndroid]

He's just a little shy, boys are always like that. Or maybe he's not much of a "romanticist" as you

[dahding]

if u rush things, it'll all go kaboom in ur face.

take it slow. i mean, u already kissed him. that's going pretty fast for 10 days.

[*iNyCxShoRT*]

Maybe he wants to take things slow. Not everyone wants to take things fast. I didn't kiss my boyfriend til like the first month? Ask him if he'd like to take things slow. Like the others said, don't rush it.

[gr00vyswordsman]

hahahahahaa, IM IN THE EXACT POSITION HAHAHAHA..even though she wants me to badly kiss her though cuz we both liked eachother for now 2 years and really wanna take our frienship further, we've talked and held hands and cuddles a few times. But cant get closer right now cuz i am sick. My situation is here.
http://www.createblog.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=109430

Hmmm try watching getting tgehter next time n watch a movie you'd both like n see if one of you start holdin' hands and if you do, try to cuddle with him, alot of guys LOve the cuddling hehehe, and gurls of coarse ^_^ aww so cute.

[topsyturvy]

The only problem is now that we r going out we will hug wen we see each other but if im going sum where with him or walking by him he doesnt hold my hand or put his arm around me and weve already been goin out for like 10 days and ive only kissed him once. I mean i like him alot but theres only so much i can do on my own. im wonderin if u culd giv me some advice on what i shuld do or how u think he's feelin. cus wen i ask him he thinks everythin is alright and if i ask if he's shy he says no. For me to get that kiss i had to ask him i dunno maybe he doesnt want ppl to no im going out with him or what. i just need some advice and opnions on what you all feel.

1) A relationship only works with 2 people, so stop deciding what he should be doing and do it yourself. Don't be sexist ("oh he's the boy, he should be reaching for my hand").
2) Personally it usually takes me a month to get close to the person. If we kissed in 10 days i'd be pretty freaked out.
3) HE IS SHY. Think about it. Would you answer "yes" if someone came up to you and asked if you were outgoing (or possibly clingy) or not? It isn't a very good question in the first place.
4) Back off and let things flow naturally. When he feels it's time to show his affection, he will reach for your hand and put his arm around you. I can promise you it will come, you just have to wait and be patient. For heaven's sake don't rush him.

[o0olaalaa]

10 days seems pretty fast for kissing.

dont rush the relationship. if you want him to hold your hand and put his arm around you that badly, just tell him.

exactly. don't rush it, it mite scare him a lil

[boobooxpp]

men *sigh*