breaking up, how do I tell him? Options

[elaboratedream]

My bf's the really shy, sweet type... but recently it seems he's just a little to... goody-goody for lack of a better term... for me. So I've been thinking about breaking up with him for the past few weeks (we've been going out for 2 and a half months) but I think that I should probly have a better reason than that to break up. I don't want to hurt him. Our relationship is finally starting to be closer to what I would want it to be... but I don't like him as much as I did at the start... and I get the impression that he likes me more than I like him... it's also hard 'cause we go to different schools and that makes it harder to see each other... but I still can meet him a few times a week.
and then to make things more complicated, there's this guy at my school that i like... and he likes me too... we went to the football game together earlier tonight... and we sorta made out. I know, I'm a slut to have cheated on my boyfriend... but I like him a lot more than my boyfriend...

now I'm trying to figure out how to break up with my bf... should I tell him about the new guy? or should I just leave it at telling him that I just don't feel the same way anymore?

he's my first bf so I'm new to the whole breaking up thing... any help on what to say, when or where?

[LittleLulu]

important things about breaking up

DONT be specific as to WHY you're breaking up. its just hurtful. i know it'd seem like the logic thing to do, to give him a reasonable explanation. but try to be as vague as possible.

also try not to do it in a public place. since hes so nice im sure you have no worries of him suddenly being violent towards you. but just try to save him as much dignity and respect as you can.

[5ayuri]

^What she said.

[DrEaMgUy2K1]

^ what he said

[c4rL4]

^ what she said. and i think you should just tell him how you feel.
not everything but so you can just get it out of your system.
=]

[_sarcastic_]

no matter how you break it off with him, it's still going to hurt him
just tell him how you really feel.

[shortiiex]

just say..the spark is gone between you two

[MiLKDUD_DOKiE]

i have the same problem i think im going to break up with him on friday but i have no idea what to say to him.

[NgocQuyen]

lols well if i was you i would tell him that you really don't feel the same way towards him anymore and that you're into someone else. (im the type of person that do not like lying to people) tell him that you really don't want to continue lying to him by staying with him and you would really feel better if you guys were no longer together. make sure you tell him you want him to be happy and that in order for him to be happy he doesn't need to be in a false relationship and that he needs to find someone thats REALLY into him.

[mouse_3k]

just tell him that the whole different school and not being able to see each other much aint workin.

[sadolakced acid]

1- do not mention the other guy

2- do not ask to still be friends.

3- do not do it in a public place.

4- do not give him a false impression.

but i suggest, for his benefit, you tell him that you feel the spark is gone or something, about a week before you break up with him.

give him a chance to redeem himself.

do not go out with anyone fore at least two weeks afterwards.

[ParanoidAndroid]

um best way is:

4) How do I breakup with someone?
Tell them you don't feel that way about them anymore. No, there is no other way. No, nothing else will work. Yes, tell them as soon as possible.

and if the person's feelings are hurt, just tell them "It's not like there aren't gonna be any other girls, i mean seriously, there are 1,292,378, 986, 401 people living in this world"