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 Nov 17 2005, 05:06 PM
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 Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians  Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066  |
Alright my guy friend, I like him. But he has a girlfriend.
Recently, she broke up with him and he's allll emotional about it. Sure it's my chance to take him on but he loves her so much. He even CRIES. omg first time. and he hasn't been out of his room for 2 and a half weeks I don't want to rush him or anything but I want to make him feel, not unworthy. He feels so unwanted and unloved. I want to tell him that without me confessing my feelings for him (because apparently, he thinks of me as a sister  ). Does anyone know a way that I can perhaps heal him? I love him so much but seeing him this way is so depressing. I don't want him to be sad anymore. I want to help him.*edit* IF THERE ARE MODS THAT FOUND OUT THIS TOPIC HAS BEEN MADE.... SORRRRYYY PLEASE DO WHATEVER YOU FEEL YOU SHOULD DO *edit* no matter how much i tell him how i need him (as a friend ) he still won't listen 
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Nov 17 2005, 06:20 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
you just have to let him know that you will always be there for him and you love him
but the fact that he thinks of you as just a sister is just a heartbreaker..i don't know how you are going to change his mind about that |
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Nov 17 2005, 06:33 PM
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Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
QUOTE(Shortiiex @ Nov 17 2005, 6:20 PM) but the fact that he thinks of you as just a sister is just a heartbreaker..i don't know how you are going to change his mind about that  yeah it made me cry when he told me that...and he said it on my birthday when he took me to places i've always wanted to go |
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Nov 17 2005, 06:53 PM
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Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
it's hard to get over someone you love...you should just let him cool off..it can take a few months...years
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Nov 17 2005, 07:01 PM
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 omnomnom Group: Member Posts: 1,776 Joined: Jul 2005 Member No: 180,688 |
If he starts getting emotional, I think what would be romatic is to say look. I love you. You are loved by me so if you wanna go out... well thats un-realistic but it what be cool.
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Nov 17 2005, 07:04 PM
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Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
QUOTE(c0cONuTTeR @ Nov 17 2005, 7:01 PM) If he starts getting emotional, I think what would be romatic is to say look. I love you. You are loved by me so if you wanna go out... well thats un-realistic but it what be cool. aww yeah but like i said, "he thinks of me as a sister" so kinda hard to say that..maybe i should say, "you are my friend and I love you?" |
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Nov 17 2005, 09:02 PM
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 *scribble scribble* Group: Member Posts: 1,314 Joined: Mar 2005 Member No: 119,610 |
since he acknowledged you as his "sister," you can say something like "i love you like you're my brother."
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Nov 17 2005, 09:11 PM
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 Bay Area YadadaDiiiig. Group: Official Member Posts: 4,249 Joined: Feb 2005 Member No: 103,202 |
^ But she wants him to be more than just a friend.
Right now hes going through a tough time. He probably is still stuck on that female, so he doesnt want to look at other girls. Just constantly remind him youre there, and you love him. When he has taken the time to get over her, You will be there. And at that time it would be safe to let him know how you feel. |
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Nov 17 2005, 10:16 PM
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 Seisuke Group: Member Posts: 289 Joined: Nov 2005 Member No: 283,523 |
QUOTE(c0cONuTTeR @ Nov 17 2005, 8:01 PM) If he starts getting emotional, I think what would be romatic is to say look. I love you. You are loved by me so if you wanna go out... well thats un-realistic but it what be cool. aawww, yea I agree with CoCoNutter! and o that would be cute! take his hand and kiss him on the cheek! |
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Nov 17 2005, 11:22 PM
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 You can't keep running from what you're trying to find. Group: Official Member Posts: 5,030 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 54,096 |
QUOTE(c0cONuTTeR @ Nov 17 2005, 4:01 PM) If he starts getting emotional, I think what would be romatic is to say look. I love you. You are loved by me so if you wanna go out... well thats un-realistic but it what be cool. i think it would just make him even more emotional as it is. you should just probably wait awhile, and always be there for him. he may turn around...? but make sure it isn't just a rebound thing. |
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Nov 18 2005, 12:49 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 889 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 42,392 |
he really needs time. only time can heal a broken heart, god knows. just stick in there. there have been many cases where people, after being in a rough time, realize how much they care about the person that was always there for them...one of those apiphany moments, ya know?
so personally, i say stick by him, help him through. give him some time to gather himself up again. god knows breakups arent easy. |
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Nov 18 2005, 03:10 AM
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 Heykidd. <3 Group: Member Posts: 74 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 124,701 |
i was in this situation. just yesterday.
sort of.. it started last week. but if you just help him with his problems and always be there. he will feel attached to you. because thats what happened to me. im not with him.. he went back out with the girl.. just try and be prepared on how he feels towards you and everything else. let him feel special and talk to him. let you feelings out and ask him how he feels about it.
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Nov 18 2005, 04:33 AM
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 naïvety Group: Human Posts: 1,303 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 488 |
I've gone through one of those. It was awful at first but i made it work
 .. Then it was all awful again  But anyway, i advise giving him some air to mourn alone for now.. Even if it breaks your heart to see him so depressed. Don't shower him with too much attention or try to bribe him out of his misery, but never cease to remain at his side, offering words of encouragement and whatnot when he needs it. Just remember to be there for him during this time.. In time, he'll be over her. Then that's where you come in. Tell him, "I know you think of me as a little sister, and over time i've developed an ever-growing affection for you as a big brother, but also as something more." Tell him if he's not comfortable with that, it's cool with you. NEVER pressure him into anything. Wait for him. In time, he might finally realize and accept your intentions and who knows what can happen.
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Nov 18 2005, 12:22 PM
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 Yawn Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 9,530 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 65,772 |
You posted that you wanted to "heal" him. Let me just tell you this now, you can't heal him or fix him. You can help him, but don't get those two things mixed up.
He's heartbroken from this past relationship, so right now he needs a friend. Try to put your feelings aside for him, and just be there for him. you know? talk to him, let him know you are there and listening. I wouldn't even think about getting in a relationship with him for a long time, he needs some time to get over this last girl |
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Nov 18 2005, 12:28 PM
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 Like i care. ♥ Group: Member Posts: 780 Joined: Apr 2005 Member No: 124,706 |
Do fun stuff with him.. for distraction.
If you keep on talking with him about his breakup and how much you need him, he will keep being reminded to the breakup, and that will make it even more depressing. If he is over it, than thats the time to tell him about your feelings. if you tell it now, i dont think it will help much, he isnt waiting on romance now. if he likes you too, it will most likely not work out because of his feelings for his ex. good luck! :) |
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Nov 18 2005, 04:03 PM
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Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
^I did that once...but he too pessimistic that he didn't care
QUOTE(angel_revelation @ Nov 17 2005, 11:22 PM) i think it would just make him even more emotional as it is. you should just probably wait awhile, and always be there for him. he may turn around...? but make sure it isn't just a rebound thing. yeah i agree... that's why i don't want to tell him my feelings...it would...make it seem clingy and rebound-ish (if he agrees) |
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Nov 18 2005, 04:13 PM
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 Don't wake ghostie. Group: Official Member Posts: 3,546 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 2,405 |
Just dump him. Tell him you won't put up with that crap, he'll come around.
(jkjk yen) |
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Nov 18 2005, 04:28 PM
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Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
QUOTE(Retrogressive @ Nov 18 2005, 4:13 PM) Just dump him. Tell him you won't put up with that crap, he'll come around. (jkjk yen) *phew*..i was gonna say...
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Nov 18 2005, 04:53 PM
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Don't wake ghostie. Group: Official Member Posts: 3,546 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 2,405 |
HAHA, my real advice is to let off him for a while.... maybe he'll realize how much support you were. (not completely let off)
But if you want to make him feel better get him dressed and out of the house. Take him to the circus or something. 
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Nov 18 2005, 04:55 PM
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Don't worry guys, size doesn't matter...to lesbians Group: Member Posts: 2,444 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 85,066 |
QUOTE(Retrogressive @ Nov 18 2005, 4:53 PM) But if you want to make him feel better get him dressed and out of the house. Take him to the circus or something. wait...get him dressed? he's not naked...he just locks himself in his room |
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