Should I? Or should I not? Options

[HoodieObsessed]

I am a very, very inexperienced 15year old at dating and to tell you the truth I don't even want to date, or have a boyfriend. But anyhow.

This guy Shane, who's 14, who I've only seen twice, once for the whole day and another for half the day at his house keeps on asking me out. Or kind of. He sais things like "Sooo...are you my girlfriend? are we going out??" or "can I tell my friends your my girlfriend?" etc. I say no, because obviusly you can't just "be" someones girlfriend, beofre you call yourself someones girlfriend you have to actually know them and just you know, be their girlfriend. I donno if that made sense, but ya.

He also talks about how it's the first month of school and he's looking for someone to date and he's getting desperate, and how his old girlfriend moved away etc. So naturally being the person I am I gave him a very, very long pep talk on how life isn't about dating, especially when you're still in highschool. You should concentrate on family, friends, and school, and about your future. It's not that I'm against dating in highschool, if you've known a person for a while and you really like them, than sure, take them out, but why go looking around day after day for someone that wants to go out with you just for the sake of going out on a date?

Well, I don't think he really got my point, but here's the reason for the topic. He asked me out to the movies, if I say no, than that's it, I'll never have to talk to him again, he won't bother me, he'll know it's over. But it's not like I hate him, he seems decent...sometimes...and I feel bad about dumping him. But what if I say yes? Is it worth it? What if I jsut start a really bad relationshipi? I just want some of your opinions

[gelionie]

This is more appropriate in relationships rather than the girls' locker.

If you don't "like" him the same way he does for you, then definitely you shouldn't start going out with him. Saying "no" in this case is definitely NOT dumping the guy at all, since you two didn't even start.

Go by what you've always believed in, and you shouldn't go against your beliefs just for the sake of not losing a friend.

Just keep telling him what you've been telling him, unless... you really "like" him more than a friend.

[OverratedStupidi...]

Take your own advice.

I don't even want to date, or have a boyfriend.

And by the way it seems, he's either going to be one of those guys who just looks on to the next girl, or he'll be overprotective and won't give you your space.

[*mzkandi*]

Moved to Relationships

[Chii]

just say no.

if you say yes, you're only doing it because you feel bad for him. you should never be with someone because you pity them.

[HoodieObsessed]

Take your own advice.
And by the way it seems, he's either going to be one of those guys who just looks on to the next girl, or he'll be overprotective and won't give you your space.

I agree with you. I sent him an email saying I don't want to go and that he should find someone else, it's not even worth his time.

Tell you the truth I really don't like the guy, the more I talk to him the more I disagree with everything he sais. Besides, he's obsessed with cars, the relationship was doomed from the first place

[AngryBaby]

he sounds like a goof.

ask if you can bring a friend

[yummy_delight]

he sounds like a goof.

LOL!

He sounds like a territorial kind of guy, already "claiming" you when you're not even going out with him. If you don't like him, then just say no and don't go and that'll be the end of it.

[3ssx]

hmm. well obviously you dont like him the way he likes you.
why dont you get a couple of friends and go to the movies together? if you two go alone. he might think you like him and want to go out with him.
OR you could just say no. and explain to him how you feel about the situtation

anyhow.. good luck on your decision =]

[_suzie_]

maybe he just wants the chance to get to know u more and doesnt know the right way to go about it.

go out to the cinema a coupla times or something. get to know him

[*mipadi*]

A single movie date is hardly a relationship.

[piney]

if you say yes, he'll think you are going out, which can be good or bad. if you sorta want to go out with him, say yes. you wont exactly being going out, but if he says again "are u my girlfriend" you can say, "well, we're not really going out,because you havent asked me." THEN if he asks you, say yes because u know he actually likes you. if he doesnt ask you, just consider him a good friend and that hes just a teeensy bit deperate.

[sunissed14127]

Just tell him no. He seems like one of those persistant guys who doesn't get the picture easily, so i guess if you just say no, I dont like you, sorry, that sould get the picture across.

[itsARIE]

if you don't want to be in a relationship... DON'T BE
if you dont' want a boyfriend... DON'T HAVE ONE!!!

it's that simple! lay down the law and say ..."no"

[Ington]

You go out when you think you're in love. If you pity him, you're not in love. Therefore, going out with him will only result in a tragic ending.

Plus, you said he wants you because he's desperate. Er. Thats the worst relationship I've ever heard of.

Don't do it, obviously.

[o0olaalaa]

ew. he's too clingy no offence >.< uhm if you don't like him that much you shouldnt date him if he was like that too me i would be annoyed. great pep talk even though he didnt get it lol