when's the right time, to tell him? Options

[helloxfriend]

Okay, well, I really like this guy. And thanks to my best friend, me and him are getting pretty close (talking online, on the phone, hanging out, etc. ) And I was wondering when I should tell him how I feel. Because I hate this "bottle up my feelings" stage. It sucks. Well anyways, I am hanging out with him on Halloween ( ) with a couple of other friends. And I was thinking about telling him at that time, but I'm the type of person who gets... scared easily. So I was wondering if I should do it online, or in person. And.. I guess, the right time would help too.

[azn cutey chique]

don't make a move, just go with the flow . Don't be so "easy to get girl", he will just loose you! Just be it go in the party, Be patient and TIME WILL COME you will be together!

0h BTW: Pray to God and for him, GOD IS GOOD. GOd will make a way. ;-)

[*Programmer*]

well let me be the first to tell you ^ that advice right above me...doesn't work half the time. if your really like the guy tell him how you feel...if you hold stuff away from him there will always be the akwardness of "what if" in your friendship....but yeah do what you planned you don't need us telling you how to do things...looks like you already have it nicely planned out good luck to you and best wishes.

[_sarcastic_]

if you're not really comfortable telling him infront of your friends, then wait till you guys are alone like in a park or at someone's house.

[misoshiru]

do it in person, but probably alone. i like rico's advice.

[Hiphop d[-_-]b]

Tell him in person. Tell him once. dont pressure him and nag him about the relationship you want. If he likes you also he will make it happen.

[silver-rain]

Definitely tell him in person. Perhaps, get him alone for a while and just tell him. If he likes you, then that's good. But if he doesn't like you that way, don't complain or feel bad and at least still be friends.

[OhXiet_ItzDonnA]

You can just tell him when the mood is right and when you think you're ready. And it's probably better if you tell him in person because if it's online, he'll probably think it's someone else trying to mess with him but make sure you're alone with him. Or maybe on the phone is pretty good. But don't worry. I'm having the same problem right now.

[PinkTrash]

In person. Its a lot better than online, for many reasons.. he could think it were somebody else or you were joking with him. And dont be scared, you have nothing to lose.

[Aoiro]

Depends on how comfortable you are in telling him, and if your ready for his response.
Halloween would be the best time, because he's right in front of you.
If you ask on the internet, it wouldn't seem so...
Authentic.
It would kind of feel like the love isn't there.

[Shahin]

0h BTW: Pray to God and for him, GOD IS GOOD. GOd will make a way. ;-)

Because God is sitting around for this chick's call, so He can jump on it.


Do it in person.

[Mizz Rizza]

if ur gonna tell someone
how you feel, you should do it in
person

but if i were you
i wouldnt cuhs
wat if u ruin ur friendship
with him

when/if he starts giving
you hints that he likes you
he'll go for it
or if you seem confident
enough you can do it

and i know you hate
not telling him
about ur feelings
but everyone
goes through that stage
when they like someone

[*anubis*]

don't make a move, just go with the flow . Don't be so "easy to get girl", he will just loose you! Just be it go in the party, Be patient and TIME WILL COME you will be together!

0h BTW: Pray to God and for him, GOD IS GOOD. GOd will make a way. ;-)

*ahem*

i'm sorry you might have been confused, but we were talking about real life here. k thanks.

that's probably the second most fairy-tale advice i've ever heard.

first was from this one chick that also claimed "if you wait, time will eventually bring you together! and you will live happily ever after!" in response to advice about a girl liking a guy who DOESN'T KNOW SHE EXISTS.

anyway, enough sidetracking.


you should know by now that relationships--the beginning is all about awkwardness, "what if's?" and lots and lots of "does he?"

BUT

you shoulda told us more about him. and a lot less about you--since we already know that you like him and all.

if his actions are all "ooh i wanna be with you afgjkhkjdsagf etc"

then why not?

but if he's treating you like a completely normal friend. "then why ruin it?"

if you want good advice, at least give us a more explained situation

[helloxfriend]

Wow, well, thanks for all of the advice. I might tell him on Halloween, but I don't know. All of you guyses advice was great, I love them all. After Halloween, I might comment again and tell you guys about it. And if he gets all "weird" then, whatever. Why bother.

[helloxfriend]

Okay, wow. I just told him yesterday that I liked him.. But I did it online. But I was happy, because I really knew that was him. Because I told him in like, the middle of the conversation. And wow. Yesterday was the best, I was so happy. Because when I said I liked him .. hmm, wait. Let me just type the conversation. Haha:

Vanny(me) says: Ugh, okay. I like...you, but if that's gonna affect our friendship then I'll stop liking you.

kenny | says: ...
So you want to ...

wait

u serious?

Blahdy blahdy blahhh. Then after that he's all like ..

" Umm ok "

I said .. " what? "
And he said " i like you to "

HAHA! I was shocked, yes. But whatever. So then he said:

" So you want to go out? " Haha, I was puhhretty happy.

I didn't answer the first time for some reason. And I forgot all about that question. So I got bored, and I was like .. " what does this all mean? "

And he said " It means im asking u out "
Haha. Then I said yes. Woohoo. Today was okay, I didn't talk to him which sucked. I just get scared when i'm around his friends and all. But I know most of his friends.

Well, anyways, yes. Your advices got me the courage to tell him how I feel.

THANKS CB MEMBERS!!