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 Apr 19 2008, 03:32 PM
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What's your take on having sex with your ex after breaking up with them?
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Apr 19 2008, 03:35 PM
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If you can remain emotionally unattached (assuming he is if you've both broken up) and not want anything else but the sex...
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Apr 19 2008, 03:41 PM
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 sleep now, moon Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,540 Joined: May 2007 Member No: 526,212 |
I couldn't do it without feeling emotionally attached. Then and again, I can't bring myself to do anything with someone I don't have an emotional connection with anyway.
I suppose if neither of you have feelings for each other beyond friendship right after, FWBs is fine. |
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Apr 19 2008, 04:42 PM
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Best to leave people alone after a breakup. I think sex would make things far too complicated.
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Apr 19 2008, 05:19 PM
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ELBA STOP.
don't have sex with the a-hole :( |
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Apr 19 2008, 05:21 PM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
DON'T DO IT.
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Apr 19 2008, 05:24 PM
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Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,645 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,975 |
Lawl. Should I wait?
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Apr 19 2008, 05:25 PM
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 I'm Jc Group: Mentor Posts: 13,619 Joined: Jul 2006 Member No: 437,556 |
   
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Apr 19 2008, 05:26 PM
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 here, here, and here Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,301 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 206,103 |
I believe you shouldn't treat an a-hole for a treat
I think your better than that 
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Apr 19 2008, 06:00 PM
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When me and my current boyfriend broke up for the umteenth time, we decided to remain sex buddies. The sex was the same. We were still whispering I love you. After sex, we were all kissey kissey and saying how much we loved each other. LOL. Sex friends thingy didn't work out. We came back together that night.
 ELBA - If you REALLY want to have sex and you think you can handle sleeping with your ex and not taking him back then GO FOR IT. If not, stay clear. |
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Apr 19 2008, 06:02 PM
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here, here, and here Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,301 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 206,103 |
^ Well that's weird
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Apr 19 2008, 06:05 PM
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LOL! I know. It was VERY weird. I slept in his house that night. He went out and when he came back, we kissed like a normal couple. We were still 'together' while it was 'over'. It was HORRIBLE. Well, the best thing that came out of it all was that I realized that I truly did love him. I love him love him love him SO much. Lol.
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Apr 19 2008, 06:05 PM
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it'll make things confusing x23525252.
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Apr 19 2008, 06:10 PM
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^ True true. I also tried it with one of my ex but nah. Got tired of his dick.
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Apr 19 2008, 07:12 PM
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here, here, and here Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 3,301 Joined: Aug 2005 Member No: 206,103 |
QUOTE(Sandraaa @ Apr 19 2008, 07:05 PM)  LOL! I know. It was VERY weird. I slept in his house that night. He went out and when he came back, we kissed like a normal couple. We were still 'together' while it was 'over'. It was HORRIBLE. Well, the best thing that came out of it all was that I realized that I truly did love him. I love him love him love him SO much. Lol. wait ru guys together? 
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Apr 19 2008, 07:21 PM
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Like I said in my first post, we came back together that night. Yes, we are still together. It'll be 5 months soon.
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Apr 19 2008, 07:27 PM
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 i've never wanted anything rationale. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 8,449 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 19,045 |
I think it's a giant mistake Elba. Honestly, it will make it SOO much harder to move on. Plus, the sex isn't the same. It's not love-sex, it's just plain f**king. Now don't get me wrong, f**king is fun but not with a person you're used to loving. Plus, the emotional attachment will get stronger again and it will be hard to just hook up. He'll probably not want to only be hooking up with you, and that hurts. All in all, it's a bad deal for some sex. (PS, I did this with Tom, thats why I know it's soo hard)
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Apr 19 2008, 07:41 PM
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GAH, I don't know what to do. I know it's going to hard. I don't think I should go through with it either.
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Apr 19 2008, 07:43 PM
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If you still have feelings for him, don't do it! You'll get hurt. Way hurt than the way you're hurting right now.
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Apr 19 2008, 07:54 PM
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Sex is so much better when it's more than just f**king. I only want to have sex if it's love making. Now that we're broken up, I don't want to feel like it's just sex, because it wont be that way for me. Even if it is just sex for me, it's not as enjoyable.
Man, I think I'm going to have to pass. Plus, he wants the sex without the commitment? Eh, I don't think so. |
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Apr 19 2008, 07:58 PM
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Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 2,223 Joined: Dec 2006 Member No: 485,356 |
Lol. Your answer is NEXT. I think you should be single for a while. Endure the moments without sex but don't forget to enjoy the freedom.
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Apr 20 2008, 09:09 AM
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before i was married, there was this guy that i thought i loved, and he broke up with me and i wash crushed. He still wanted to have sex, so did because i thought i could win him back. But his goal in life is to see how many women he can get with. i'm so thankful for my husband i have now, i love him so much
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Apr 20 2008, 04:32 PM
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Elbaaaaa, don't do it! I agree with Rachel and Sandra, take time to be single and it'll just hurt you more in the end, so definitely don't do it.
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Apr 20 2008, 04:37 PM
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 <(^_^<) DANCE!(>^_^)> Group: Official Member Posts: 1,304 Joined: Nov 2007 Member No: 586,621 |
i wouldn' have sex with an ex. ever. it's just asking for trouble. you shouldn't let a guy have that "power" over you. you have to be strong for yourself, and be able to not have sex with an ex... especially if he wasn't good to you.
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Apr 21 2008, 02:19 PM
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QUOTE(mizzkewl06 @ Apr 20 2008, 04:37 PM) i wouldn' have sex with an ex. ever. it's just asking for trouble. you shouldn't let a guy have that "power" over you. you have to be strong for yourself, and be able to not have sex with an ex... especially if he wasn't good to you. i agree... i made that mistake. |
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