Premarital Sex, Yes or No? Options

[psychoticangel]

Okai so I'm not sure if this is where this topic should belong buh.. was just browsing the place and the thought came to mind. I was brought up in a conservative home within a conservative community, and well, basically the answer is no for me. Just wanted to see what you guys think ~ ^.^

[tkproduce]

look what happened to britney ever since she said she won't have sex before marriage

[thedilenquent]

its not ok because its in the bible and blah blah blah but people do it anyway so... yea

[xquizit]

I had been having sex since I was 16 and I've recently decided to become a born again virgin because the bible says that that is God's intention. Sex is God's gift and it is not meant to be used until you find that perfect partner and after you are married.

So I say, no, premarital sex is not ok. And I think two people can be even more intimate and more trusting of each other if they hold off on sex. Once sex comes into the picture, all these problems and trust issues start coming up... it's not worth it... plus it's probably a message from God that you're doing something wrong.

[tkproduce]

but i hear stories where people have made promises not to have sex till they get married and then, after they got married and had sex once, one of them didn't like it (usually the woman) and never wanted to have sex again and so his/her partner's sex life was ruined for the rest of their lives (unless they got divorced or had affairs that is)

[xquizit]

but i hear stories where people have made promises not to have sex till they get married and then, after they got married and had sex once, one of them didn't like it (usually the woman) and never wanted to have sex again and so his/her partner's sex life was ruined for the rest of their lives (unless they got divorced or had affairs that is)

i dunno... that sounds a little crazy. i think when 2 people are in love, the sex should be good regardless of performance, because it's the intimacy and the emotions that matter most and what makes sex good. besides, if it was really that bad, they could always practice at it... i'm sure no one is that good their first time.

[*krnxswat*]

Answers vary depending on person's beliefs. Well for me, the answer is no.

[*Podomaht*]

for me, who cares?

i mean, i personally think its wrong, but thats just me. live life how you want to live.

[tkproduce]

i think when 2 people are in love, the sex should be good regardless of performance

unfortunately, that isn't the case... I've heard a lot of people who, although they "love" their wife/husband, their sex-life is a "bore"

but yea, it really depends on what you believe, but what one believes isn't always what others believe

[*eunie03*]

I don't believe you should go through a ceremony just to have sex. If you really truly honestly without-a-doubt know that you're gonna marry that person when you're "old enough" anyway... I believe any time can be the right time for the first... time. (I need a broader vocabulary )

Edit: Okay, WHO answered "moo o.o" -.-;;

[tkproduce]

blame psychoticangel for putting that as one of the choices in the first place. lol

[CloudUnionX]

Moo.

[silver]

In my opinion it's wrong
And it sucks for the girls if they get pregnant, so I dont think its worth the risk

[silver-rain]

I don't think it's right, but it really depends on the two people, and if they're ready or not.

[peanutbutterbbb]

no, just because everyone does it doesnt mean that its ok for you to do it

[noaccounthere]

Being catholic... and going through about... 10 years of religion courses and even taking Christian Ethics as my Fall semester class which im taking right now. We've learned that Premarital sex isnt the right choice.

Its not only about your religion or your faith, but what is right. Saving sex for marriage is a good choice because it protects you from being trapped into having sex with someone who isnt true to you, who wont be commited to be with you.

[xquizit]

In my opinion it's wrong
And it sucks for the girls if they get pregnant, so I dont think its worth the risk

good point. There's also AIDS and STDs. Using protection is never 100% effective against pregnancy or diseases.

Not worth the risk....

Plus a girl's gotta deal with so much stress and paranoia when they "skip" a month. There's enough stress in a teenager's life with school, and friends, and relationships... they shouldn't have to worry about having a baby.

[phanaticalazn21]

YEA!!!!!!!

[LuShuZxLaNa]

I had been having sex since I was 16 and I've recently decided to become a born again virgin because the bible says that that is God's intention. Sex is God's gift and it is not meant to be used until you find that perfect partner and after you are married.

So I say, no, premarital sex is not ok. And I think two people can be even more intimate and more trusting of each other if they hold off on sex. Once sex comes into the picture, all these problems and trust issues start coming up... it's not worth it... plus it's probably a message from God that you're doing something wrong.

i 2nd what you said... on the second paragraph. I mean if they hold off sex until marriage, then their love for one another is like a whole new level rather than the ones who've had sex before marriage.

[*jimmyjackiechan*]

So many people fall into tempation~

[PBlaze187]

iv been in a relationship for 3 years and we waited to have sex till this year....i know were gonna get married shes moving in with me and were both going to the same college and i doubt theres anyone out there for me ....i guess its all on the situation ...if your really religous then u wait ....im not so i didnt....

[tkproduce]

i don't see why people have to get married in the first place. i'm fully aware that what i've just said has shocked most of the female romanticists, but surely, marriage is just a bunch of paperwork, and just because you've had a ceremony and signed a few papers shouldn't really make you "love" your partner even more than before. If a couple gets on well enough without getting married and lives happily ever after, surely that's just as beautiful as any other married couple doing the same thing. Marriage is just an agreement made by the law - that's what I sometimes think anyway.

[*AngelicEyz00*]

So many people fall into tempation~

That's true. I don't think it's ok, but I don't think it's bad either. Some people have sex though, and they're too young or immature to realize what a big deal it is. I personally believe that you should hold off on sex... although I didn't sometimes I wish i did

[froggie_van]

Premarital sex shouldn't be okay... but everybody's doing it anyways.

[xjjajeengx]

well, im a beeleever in not having sex till marriage. but in my case, i dont want to be married... i dont want to have kids... and so im just going to chose who cares. i mean.,.. its for us ourselves to decide if we want to or not, despite its God's word not to have sex till marriage. i mean, God does not force us to do what he wants.... its our choice. so yea... haha

as a matter of fact, i think sex is the most nastiest unreasonable thing... and please dont bash at me for saying this. i noe someone is going to say something like its cause i dont noe or something, but in my opinion, i would never go through so much pain making love, and i would never make love period. i mean, i think its awesome that people can show so much intimacy with it, but for me, im just disgusted in thinking at all about sex. and also, its just... ergh ahhaha cant explain my feelings for this thing. its like... my feeling are...

yep aha