friendships and love, they just dont go together Options

[christiee_nax]

this is all so stressing..

ive got a friend. we hang out alot and stuff. we met like at the beggining of this school year. and then at around november, he started liking me. he knows that ive got a boyfriend back in indonesia tho. so he tried not liking me. and then thinking he was over it, we continued hanging out. and then a few days ago, he sent me a letter. telling me he 'loved' me and that he wont give up on me and he'd wait. and then yesterday. we were talking and i told him to try and go like someone else. today he started ignoring me. wouldnt talk to me at all. he told me that this was how he'd try to get over me. but thing is, i like him as a friend. im close to him. and i miss talking to him.

i want everything back to normal.

what am i going to do..

[yukichan]

i guess explain to him that u still want to be his friend..if he doesnt understand then give him some time..

[to-devastate]

Yeah. I kind of know how your friend feels.
My crush was a really charming guy, and i grew to love him. But then he just didn't like me as much as I liked him. So the only way I could get over him was to ignore him (which I'm still trying, haha.) Give him time. That's all he needs. He just needs time to think about stuff and if you miss talking to him, be a good friend, and just let me off for a while. I bet everything will be back to normal very soon.

[_sarcastic_]

just give him more time, after awhile he'll get over it, and everything would be back to the norm again

[designergurlxx]

giv him sum time...hez probabli confused rite now wether 2 get ova u or to wait 4 u. onli time can tell...

[sheepy]

i don't think there is anything you can really do. maybe he's trying not to like you because he knows its wrong. but its so hard to stop liking someone when the person is always around; so i guess he's avoiding you. but maybe try to talk to him about it?

[heyyfrankie]

i don't know if things will get back to "normal". i mean, he likes you as a g/f and you only like him a friend and he is obviously crushed because of that. and he must like you alot if he has to ignore you.

i guess just try to let him get over it and move on but try to keep y'all's friendship alive!

good luck.

[Skyline Drive]

I dont think telling him to go find someone else to like was the best way to get him over you because I'm sure that hurt him. If you want things to go back to normal I think you should talk to him and tell him that you didn't mean it like that and you didn't mean to hurt him because he is a great friend and that you miss him =]

[Just_Dream]

The big question is... do you have even a tiny hint of love (or liking) for him? As in like-like. lol Just wondering.

I agree that telling him to move on isn't the best thing to do. Tell him that you still want him as a friend.. Perhaps deep down he really does love you? Love doesn't come and go so easily. Although, lust does. Tell him that right now, you just want him as a good friend of yours, that you already have someone (your boyfriend in indonesia) you care a lot more about. Tell him sincerely that you don't know what the future might bring, but for now you just want him to be your friend.

My current boyfriend of 2 years and 2 months asked me out back in November 2002 and at first I rejected him. He ignored me for about a week.. I couldn't stand it.. I really don't know why. We weren't even that close, yet I couldn't stand the fact that everyday I would see him and he'd look away. The fact that he wouldn't talk to me because I said no.. It made me realize that deep down, I did like-like him deep down, despite my thoughts on focusing education more and not wanting to have a boyfriend at all. It made me realize that he meant something to me. Afterwards, I asked him if he liked me a lot, and I thought I'd give him a chance. :] I'm SO GLAD that he still wanted to date and that we're together.

I know you have a boyfriend in Indonesia and all, but maybe my story can teach you something... maybe not. Good luck

[christiee_nax]

thanks for the awesome advice! we skipped school today (along with other friends) and he's still ignoring me but its alright. ill wait and see what happens i guess. and okay, i admit, there were times when i did sorta feel a connection with him.. but.. yah..

thanks again! =]

[sarason]

i agree w/ other ppls. amke it clear u want to be friends. trust me, if u 2 have a relationship, in the end it wprobably will end badly. after it ends, it most likely will be extrememly awkward and the friendship will be over. But hey, you might be one of those very lucky ppl i envy,