Disturbing story Options

[Ington]

well now, i feel like i can tell you more than i can tell my friends because you're complete strangers, so here i go.

I have this friend. She was my best friend for a long time. And then we started liking each other. We both told each other how we felt. And everything was great. I asked her if she would be my girlfriend, and she declined. She told me that although she loved me, she didn't want a boyfriend. So i was understanding and didn't spread it (i have no idea why). This was about a week ago. Ok now this is where it gets strange.

Yesterday she started going out with someone. Yea. Exactly the way it sounds. You're probably wondering, "Wait, how did it get from her liking you to her dating someone else? Did you skip part of the story?" No. No i didn't. That is sequential, without missing any events. She forgot i was there. She stopped loving me, and started loving someone else. And she didn't tell me. I only found out she didn't like me anymore and liked someone else because i read it on her xanga. She kept me dragging along. She forgot about me. And now she's wondering why im upset.

Background information: From this story she would seem like a slut. But in reality, she isn't, which makes it even stranger. She is more on the shy side.

Now this is my problem. Im not a man of grudges. But in this case, i think i should change my principles a bit. What do you think?

This story makes me sick

[picaso_smile]

That is really strange... Maybe:
a. she didn't really feel the same but didn't want to hurt you
b. she mistook her strong feelings of "friendship love" for romantic feelings
c. she just had a change of feelings... it happens

[SuiE]

i agree with the above.. maybe she just didnt feel the same way you doo.. and didnt want to hurt your feelings.. and by love she meant love foo a friend...

[Chii]

that doesn't mean she's a slut if she liked you but then changed her mind and liked someone else, if she was a slut she probably would've slept with you then slept with someone else the following week

but anyway...maybe she just wanted to know that someone out there loved her...or maybe she started really thinking if she really didn't want a boyfriend right now and wants to try it out first before she makes a true commitment to you...or, she just played you

[xj_liana_tx]

maybe she doesn't like you anymore.

[Ington]

You people don't understand what im saying. We were best friends. And i would understand if she didn't like me anymore and didn't want to tell me. But she started going out with someone else. And she was completely public about it. If she had a change of heart i can live with that. I don't love her anymore. But the fact that my best friend acted like she cared and then dropped this bombshell is what drives me crazy.

And godamn, she knows that if she doesn't like me anymore she should just tell me. She knows that already.

How about that?

[lidoaznboi89]

that's sad. yea she hsould of told you.. what's wrong with her..

[*jooleeah*]

Maybe she was nervous about telling you...but she told everyone else =/ that's the way girls are.

[Zz4evaJeLLo07]

dude dats harsh.. =/ i dink... if she was shy she wouldnt wanna hurt u... *nodnod* sometimes it's easier ta act innocent. i doubt she forgot you. but revisiting her feelings for you might've caused her some unwanted pain... about how she'd hurt you.. or else she didn't realize u loved her anymore and thought u moved on...

[snak3y3z1001]

Maybe she knows she likes you based on lust and doesnt want to lose you as a very close friend.
Close friends > BF/GF imo

[*stephinika*]

hmm she probably wasn't thinking or didn't know what to do...but yeah that is kind of a crappy thing to do...

[sunissed14127]

I would talk to her about it, and say why she lied to you because she lied about not wanting to be in a relationship.

[novemberwind]

i would say that she liked you but inside maybe she felt that you weren't the right one. or maybe she couldn't imagine going out with you.

don't feel bad, i've been in your place too many times.

[megan_x3]

she probally just wanted to play around with u. ><

[Wishful_Dream]

You people don't understand what im saying. We were best friends. And i would understand if she didn't like me anymore and didn't want to tell me. But she started going out with someone else. And she was completely public about it. If she had a change of heart i can live with that. I don't love her anymore. But the fact that my best friend acted like she cared and then dropped this bombshell is what drives me crazy.

And godamn, she knows that if she doesn't like me anymore she should just tell me. She knows that already.

How about that?

...maybe she simply forgot about you... like if your with your loved one or something you kinda forget bout everything else.. =/ maybe she DID like you before.. but stopped.. and found the one she truly liked or something.. =/ you can't force her to tell you everytime she feels something..
anyways, you said you stopped loving her.. then why is she still driving you crazy? couldn't she have stopped loving YOU too? x_X why does she have to tell you? she already declined to be your gf. didn't THAT show anything?
your right.. she should've told you.. but she chose not to.. it's her choice.

[swtchangel]

hmm since you guys are jst the best of friends then why dont you tell her how you feel and ask her why she did it? cause after all.. best friends are supposed to tell each other everything if you catch my drift

[*Azarel*]

Over how long of a time period was this?
Bleh, I suck at remembering details after I read them.

.. she was using an excuse to not get with you. Perhaps she didn't want to ruin the friendship, which inevitably happened anyways.

[*wind&fire*]

youre a guy....oh.....

i think she just got over you....

get over her

[misoshiru]

ouch that sucks. maybe because she didnt want to ruin the whole "friends" thing...so she didnt tell you?

[lilJdawg]

she might be going out with someone she likes & said that she liked you because she didn't want to hurt your feelings. i think you should move on & find someone new. tell her that nothings' wrong & whatnot.

[Ington]

...maybe she simply forgot about you... like if your with your loved one or something you kinda forget bout everything else.. =/  maybe she DID like you before.. but stopped.. and found the one she truly liked or something.. =/ you can't force her to tell you everytime she feels something..
anyways, you said you stopped loving her.. then why is she still driving you crazy?  couldn't she have stopped loving YOU too?  x_X why does she have to tell you?  she already declined to be your gf.  didn't THAT show anything?
your right.. she should've told you.. but she chose not to.. it's her choice.

Lol i kinda said why it bothered me. "But the fact that my best friend acted like she cared and then dropped this bombshell is what drives me crazy."

Ding ding ding

[xGlovex]

That is really strange... Maybe:
a. she didn't really feel the same but didn't want to hurt you
b. she mistook her strong feelings of "friendship love" for romantic feelings
c. she just had a change of feelings... it happens ..
i agree with that.

[whywasisostupid]

o god.

she might have not been interested with you at all.
or she didnt want to lose ur friendship with you if yall ever broke up..?
u never know.

I don't love her anymore.

i doubt you actulay really 'loved' her if you can get over it so fast.

[sweetdreamsx3]

That sucks, esp when she doesn't want a boyfriend and the next day, she's going out with someone else. Just get over her. She did it so quickly. Do yourself a favor and get over it.

[Shattered_Hope]

this is probably the reason...
she didnt want to reject you just like that becuz she wanted to have someone to come back to when that 'guy' didnt ask her out or w/e. She was probably using you as backup..now that he likes her too....no worries and she can drop you. I'm sorry but she probably said it becuz she wanted to shall I say put you on hold?