Ignoring me, broke up, now what?! |
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 Jan 28 2005, 01:22 PM
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 Spiffy!  Group: Member Posts: 23 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 91,856  |
Okay, so i just broke up with my bf a week ago, and now he's completely ignoring me and avoiding me.
In addition, he's also flirting with A LOT of girls. Which bugs me, of course, since I love him a lot still. I was hoping that we could still be good friends, but when I try to say 'hi' or start a conversation politely, he answers me and then looks down awkwardly until I leave. Does anybody know why he's doing this?  Am I scaring him?
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Jan 28 2005, 01:38 PM
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my ex boyfriend did the same thing too. he ignored me once we first broke up. it's not worth it
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Jan 28 2005, 04:02 PM
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I'm a guy and I've had a girl break up with me once. I avoided her to but it's not because she's scarin me like you asked or anything like that. For guys it kinda embarrising among their guy friends. Sometiems and he could still like you but. doesnt know if u do or somethin I dont know.
oh and flirting with other girls keeps ur mind off it. |
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Jan 28 2005, 07:40 PM
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k if you guys broke up i can kind of see why thats happening....
 so yeah. it does suck but you just have to deal. you'll get over it. look at other hot guys in the meantime. 
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Jan 28 2005, 08:28 PM
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watch out for jellyfish. Group: Member Posts: 174 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 31,672 |
if you guys broke upp, he obviously doesn`t like you anymore y`knoe? i don`t think he`s trying to be mean to you or anything.. but probably doesn`t wanna remember bad memories or anything like that. it`s normal, he`s juzt going through that break-up-time-for-someone-new phase.
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Jan 28 2005, 10:11 PM
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QUOTE(illfadedsoldier @ Jan 29 2005, 6:02 AM) I'm a guy and I've had a girl break up with me once. I avoided her to but it's not because she's scarin me like you asked or anything like that. For guys it kinda embarrising among their guy friends. Sometiems and he could still like you but. doesnt know if u do or somethin I dont know. oh and flirting with other girls keeps ur mind off it.  That sounds alot like what your ex is doing right now. And I also agree, he's flirting with other girls to keep his mind off of this situation. |
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Jan 28 2005, 11:49 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 |
Maybe he just need space? Try talking to him after a few weeks later.
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Jan 29 2005, 02:04 AM
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 I'll never be who I was again.. Group: Member Posts: 2,886 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,981 |
QUOTE(LEDO_D0RKETTE @ Jan 28 2005, 6:49 PM) Maybe he just need space? Try talking to him after a few weeks later. yup i agree... |
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Jan 29 2005, 09:24 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
^ at first i thought the both of you were the same person
my bad. QUOTE(LEDO_D0RKETTE @ Jan 28 2005, 11:49 PM) Maybe he just need space? Try talking to him after a few weeks later. yeah i agree |
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Jan 29 2005, 04:34 PM
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 november 25th,, <3 Group: Member Posts: 473 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 50,226 |
he feels like hes lost something, dont worry about it
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Jan 29 2005, 05:25 PM
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 Change Gon Come Group: Member Posts: 2,286 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 18,822 |
Flirting is his way of coping with the situation. that's what i did.. only made me happy when i was around the girls, but alone, i felt crappy.
give him time to get over the akwardness of being around you and not having you as a gf anymore.. |
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Jan 29 2005, 05:43 PM
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wait a while..maybe he needs his space
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Jan 29 2005, 09:41 PM
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 i need an sn change. Group: Member Posts: 1,915 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,746 |
so whyd u break up with himif u still 'love' him?
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Jan 29 2005, 11:51 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
eh, well my ex did that to me too when he broke up with me. and he still ignores me, and it does hurt. but i guess i got used to it after a while. i don't think he's ignoring you, he's probably embarassed or something.
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Jan 30 2005, 12:01 AM
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Maybe he just needs time...mayb he still likes you but broke up with you cuz he wasn't so sure if he liked you as much as he used to....or mayb for some other reason.....but i think he just needs time...
 or mayb he's hurt
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Jan 30 2005, 01:07 AM
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leenie <3 Group: Member Posts: 318 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 74,816 |
forget about them ... just go flirt with tons of other guys T.T but maybe hes still in love with you .. since YOUR the one that broke up with him
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Jan 30 2005, 03:29 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
you broke up and you want to know what to do? i'm sorry if this sounds harsh, but just move on. go flirt w/ other guys.
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Jan 30 2005, 10:55 AM
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 +Princess+ Group: Member Posts: 134 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 28,131 |
hes probablii jus uncomfortable around you foo noww.. just give it some timee.. and SLOWLY start trying to talk to him if yu still want to be his friend... if you dont want to be his friend.. then forget bout him and flirt with other guys =D kakaka
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Jan 30 2005, 11:09 AM
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QUOTE(lilconfusedbabiix3 @ Jan 28 2005, 8:28 PM) if you guys broke upp, he obviously doesn`t like you anymore y`knoe? i don`t think he`s trying to be mean to you or anything.. but probably doesn`t wanna remember bad memories or anything like that. it`s normal, he`s juzt going through that break-up-time-for-someone-new phase. 100% correct. He's flirting with other girls because he's trying to get back into the game. Hes not flirting with you because you two broke up, which usually means you aren't interested in each other anymore. He's uncomfortable being around you because hes going through post-breakup stress, not because hes trying to be mean. I think with work you two will eventually be friends again. |
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Jan 30 2005, 11:10 AM
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 ferrero rocher<3 Group: Member Posts: 243 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,255 |
aah, i understand you completely.
how immature. you would think that from all the things you went through with him he would understand or try to understand how you feel & why you broke up with him. putting everything aside and still love you no matter what and if not love you at least keep the friendship. but he does the opposite & you feel like hes trying to make you jealous. he does everything possible to make you feel inferior. it sucks cos you dint think he would do that? uggh i feel you. hopefully it will fade, because he probably still has feelings for you. but if it doesnt within a month or so, hes probably stubborn or he really did love you. one or the other hes angry with you. 
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Jan 30 2005, 12:02 PM
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 dizzy me up. Group: Member Posts: 3,191 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 11,139 |
well i guess he feels insecure is and trying to make you feel like he's alright and he's just gonna move on with his life altho he isnt all too ready? but if you love him.. why did you break up with him?
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