sex: something i noticed, yeah... |
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 Jan 25 2005, 11:10 PM
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te quiero  Group: Banned Posts: 2,586 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,678  |
i just noticed this a few times in this forum...
a girl asks for help because she might be pregnant or a girl is regretting the fact that she's had sex and she thinks she wasn't ready...and things such as that. and most of our responses are "omg, how OLD are you?" "it's your fault" "you shouldnt have sex until you're ready" "face your consequences" and other things like that... you know, if i thought i was pregnant and wanted help, so i posted up a topic here on CB, i wouldnt want lectures like "you're too young" "it's your own fault". goddamn, people. can you show any compassion? maybe give the girls what they're looking for.. which is HELP? i'm sure she doesn't wanna hear that what she did was a mistake; she probably KNOWS that already, or she wouldnt be worried. i might be going of on a limb here, but really guys. don't add to the pressure. sure, sex is a big issue, but what's done is done. so stop telling her she shouldn't have done it. (this is referring to all the sex topics i've seen, btw) |
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Jan 25 2005, 11:15 PM
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 This Life Has Been A Test... Group: Member Posts: 241 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 71,729 |
well, personally, i've never replyed to those topics because i can't say anything that would help the person...unless they think that they have gotten pregnat in some strange way...i really don't wanna hurt anyone's feelings...
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Jan 25 2005, 11:17 PM
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 define our lives for us. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 11,656 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,293 |
All I said was go see a doctor.
 But I totally agree. I wouldn't want people saying that I'm too young to have sex or.. you shouldn't have done it anyway. I'd get annoyed. |
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Jan 26 2005, 12:57 AM
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 Prez of Student Council 04/05 Group: Member Posts: 2,888 Joined: Jan 2004 Member No: 851 |
what your saying is so true... but they shoudl expect that kidna stuff if they post here... not everyone here knows stuff about sex you know
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Jan 26 2005, 01:44 AM
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gigi =p Group: Member Posts: 3,679 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 41,206 |
Some of the people on cB get tired of it. Not that we don't realize it's a traumatizing event, it's just...repetitive. I think most of us have sympathy, but we're just annoyed that there are so many topics on it.
A lot of these questions are asked, and the answers are the same. I, for one, feel much compassion for these people, but it's just repetitive, so I think a lot of people get PO'ed and retort rude comments back. =\ |
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Jan 26 2005, 03:40 AM
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Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 73 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 53,163 |
I noticed that too...n' up till a couple of months ago...I would have given the same lecture...until I realized how easy it is to get caught up n' give in..and if that person were me...I'd want help from cb...n' compassion...they already know the truth...they don't need to be told it again
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Jan 26 2005, 05:09 AM
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 Apr 24 '05* 1000 posts! Group: Member Posts: 1,184 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 56,049 |
that's true. but u sorta have to face the concequences of posting something like that in cB..
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Jan 26 2005, 07:00 AM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 4,882 Joined: Sep 2004 Member No: 47,064 |
I try to be supportive.... I don't think I've ever really lectured them. However, they do need to know that those are their consequences, but I try to help them deal with it.
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Jan 26 2005, 08:27 AM
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 kristin Group: Member Posts: 5,705 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,985 |
i know..its really sad what they have to go through and they probably get enough lecturing from their parents.
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Jan 26 2005, 03:25 PM
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 uoyevoli Group: Member Posts: 177 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 81,430 |
yes...anywayz, lecturing isnt gonna change what they did...help can at least help fix the problem...
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Jan 26 2005, 03:42 PM
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 Rock out X3 Group: Member Posts: 319 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 69,317 |
What other help can be given? They're the irresponsible person who went ahead and did that knowing the consequences. If there's consequences you don't want to fake, then you shouldn't take that risk. I mean what are we supposed to do turn back time for her or zap away her problems? They got themselves into the problem fully knowing the risks. It's their fault simple as that
 
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Jan 26 2005, 04:10 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Official Member Posts: 6,953 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 52,702 |
i never say stuff like that......but in CB you're suppose to say whatever your mind tells you
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Jan 26 2005, 04:38 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
first off....I dont lecture them. I give them advice[ what they're looking for] on what to do...
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Jan 26 2005, 07:23 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 |
QUOTE(Shattered_Hope @ Jan 26 2005, 4:38 PM) first off....I dont lecture them. I give them advice[ what they're looking for] on what to do...  ^ i agree with you. thanks for making this topic? |
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Jan 26 2005, 07:26 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 174 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 60,248 |
i agree too, but its kinda like...if you dont warn them than they might do it again you know?
i give advice but i also give warnings...its just "for their own good" i know thats REALLY cliche but still |
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Jan 26 2005, 07:42 PM
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i think that if you can't help the person with their problem...then you shouldn't post anything at all.
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Jan 26 2005, 07:48 PM
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to hell with you Group: Member Posts: 2,547 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,506 |
we're tired of so many people posting threads on how their pregnate and omg, dont know what to do!! deal with it girls! its your own fault! face the consequences!
how old are you? |
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Jan 27 2005, 06:18 PM
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Newbie Group: Member Posts: 8 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 40,795 |
thank you... i asked for help and thats wut happened to me...i notice you added a nice reply so thanx...ur the best...btw im not
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Jan 27 2005, 07:28 PM
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 i need an sn change. Group: Member Posts: 1,915 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 27,746 |
why melissa, u r brilliant.
haha ITS YOUR FAULT. |
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Jan 27 2005, 08:13 PM
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 it's our chemistry Group: Member Posts: 1,151 Joined: Jun 2004 Member No: 21,775 |
Yeah, I know what you mean. People can be really obnoxious with their "advice" sometimes.
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Jan 27 2005, 08:37 PM
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define our lives for us. Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 11,656 Joined: Aug 2004 Member No: 43,293 |
I KNOW I KNOW I KNOW!!!
Post a pinned topic about SEX. All sex questions go over there. Questions are answered and asked, then edited in the first post with the question & answer, then the question and answer is deleted. How bout that? |
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Jan 27 2005, 08:41 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 7,025 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 4,051 |
QUOTE(youdrivinmegrapes @ Jan 26 2005, 3:42 PM) What other help can be given? They're the irresponsible person who went ahead and did that knowing the consequences. If there's consequences you don't want to fake, then you shouldn't take that risk. I mean what are we supposed to do turn back time for her or zap away her problems? They got themselves into the problem fully knowing the risks. It's their fault simple as that This is exactly what she is trying to say. i know how it feels, it's not fun to be lectured when you are looking for help |
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Jan 27 2005, 08:45 PM
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^^
she has a point. i try not to lecture but its hard not to when the person asking for advice seems really immature...it depends how the person comes across when asking for advice. but yeah i agree with jackie... |
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Jan 27 2005, 09:26 PM
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te quiero Group: Banned Posts: 2,586 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 14,678 |
QUOTE(aznxdreamer @ Jan 26 2005, 6:48 PM) we're tired of so many people posting threads on how their pregnate and omg, dont know what to do!! deal with it girls! its your own fault! face the consequences! how old are you? you seem like you're speaking for the entire CB community. are you? are you tired of people posting threads about how they're pregnant? how about you just.. don't click on them? this is a forum... over time, topics WILL get repeated. i guess it's something you'll have to deal with. and i'm 16, thanks for asking. even though i have no clue what that has anything to do with anything. |
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Jan 27 2005, 09:32 PM
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 free hugs Group: Member Posts: 188 Joined: Dec 2004 Member No: 68,202 |
word. lol ppl r retarded and they just make the other person feel like shit. that aint right, they came here for help, not critiscism
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