mature love or infatuation? Options

[lilmizannie]

okay, this has been bugging me lately. I have these 2 friends who are coupled. but all they do is fight. most of the time about the most insignificant things. they get like..jealous of each other when we hang out...which means theres like...no trust. and the whole thing all together jus drains them of energy. and they dont even talk to each other about their problems that they have with each other!! how is a relationship supposed to work if theres not even that communication?? all they do is just like...set it aside and act as if it didnt happen. it tears me apart seeing them like this, but they claim to love each other.

i dunno, i've been kinda indifferent about this whole relationship stuff, esp in high school cuz u dont kno about the colleges and its jus blah..anyway thats besides the point

my point is, i just dont kno wat to do/say to them anymore when they come to vent to me. from the way i see it tho, it seems to me like their love is more along the lines of infatuation or immature love. like...i kno i shouldnt be butting into their business cuz...hey, its their relationship right? who am i to judge. but still....its jus..aggravating to see 2 of my best friends so miserable

[_sarcastic_]

talk to them about it, help them out , just don't butt in too much on their relationship.

[misoshiru]

infatuation. leave them alone..they should sort out their own problems. not you.

[KissMe2408]

hmm..well all relationships have fights in them or disagreements. But tell them to stop venting at you and talk about it to each other. I'm sure they care about each other. I'm not sure if it's love or infatuation because i don't know them, lol, but just tell them to talk about it with each other, and tell them ur worries for their relationship. If they are your best friends then you should def tell them then!

[cmgchica717]

My sister and her stupid worthless boyfriend are the same way. I tell her that he is stupid and worthless all the time just because I am her sister and well...thats what older siblings do. But with friends its a different story. Tell them both that they can have their relationship but that you do not want them coming to you with their problems anymore.

[177emories]

hey they like it like that then leave it! and fights arn't always bad.

[to-devastate]

You should talk to them but you really shouldn't butt into their relationship ... it's their relationship; if it's how they want it, they shall have it that way.

[sammehmyst]

There is no such thing as teen love.

[heyyfrankie]

if they are miserable, they should break up no matter how much they "love" each other. if they loved each other, they wouldn't be fighting every 5 minutes! they either need to stop fighiting, get over it, or break up. try to tell them the most easy way possible.

[pinayprincess]

ahhh im going through the same thing [as ur two friends] with my bf we work it out, but if we dnt, then we juz froget about it nd move on...now we r trying not to get mad at each ...we only get mad at each wen something happens between us, not if we get jealous of each other or sum like that...

[lilJdawg]

infatuation. i think you should leave them alone & don't butt into their realationship/problems too much. then you'll be involved & i don't think you want to be.

[xtreme_<3]

i think you should let them deal with it. although if they keep fighting like that then something is bound to happen, like maybe they'll break up. my cousin and his gf were same too, though and the ending wasn't all that great. my cousin and his gf would argue almost once every month and they had been dating for like 4 years i think then my cousin's gf cheated on him and he almost comitted suicide .. told you it wasn't a great ending ..not that i'm saying the same thing will happen to your friends but ..couples who fight too much isn't a good thing ..

[istolearock]

talk to them about it but do not act like you are some sort of pro cuz that may get them even angrier and they will take it you on each other.

[Shattered_Hope]

infatuation. next time they come to vent to you..say you're tired of it and that you don't care..well i mean they end up solving ...errr...forgetting about the problems and seeing as how it's never serious? You should just tell them you dont care and to go vent somewhere else...

[ZiggY]

tell them to talk to each otha not uu

[pikimoo]

Just because they fight doesn't mean they don't love eachother.

Jealousy? Well, it hurts when you love someone so much and they go and do things that would make you jealous. It's not a lack of trust in eachother. It's wanting to be with them all the time. Not wanting to let go.. but knowing that one day, you may have to. It hurts a lot.

They probably do talk to eachother. And it probably makes things worse.

Or.. are they with eachother like, ALL THE TIME? And their friends kinda get angry when they just spend time with eachother? It's a frustrating feeling choosing between hanging out with friends and being with someone you love all the time. It gets to the point where you want to do both.. but it just isn't allowed sometimes.

It is nice to have a friend to vent to though. A good friend would always be there. No matter what.

I don't know these people, but I wish them luck with their relationship.



Sorry.. I know some people going through this..

[Mireh]

theyre prob just trying to act hard to get towards each other.

[pikimoo]

[+] A little bit of anger strengthens a relationship.

[-] Not too much anger, btw.

[Priscilla]

Sounds a lot like infatuation to me, but who can be completely sure? Only time can tell.

[EyeOfTheTiger5]

They're going through problems, every relationship has them.

If it doesn't stop ever, then they shouldn't be together. But it's not your job to force them... give them your opinion but don't try to make either of them do anything.