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 Jan 22 2005, 08:41 PM
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ums like, lets say you're in a relationship of 5 months. and you really really love your boyfriend except you're always hurt. like every month, you guys will get sad or not talk to each other for a period of time. yeah thats me right now. i mean i really really love him, and i know he does. and i take the word 'love' really seriously. i mean, my past relationships.. i'll admitt i didnt love love them. but him, i really think i do. except sometimes he gets me really sad and when im sad, i cant help with his problems. and lately he sounds so unhappy. what should i do?
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Jan 22 2005, 08:46 PM
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 highfive. Group: Member Posts: 1,301 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 32,951 |
You should talk to him about this. You both get sad? Well; everyone one gets sad once in a while. It's no one to blame (unless it's like a problem..).. anywho, if you love this guy and don't want to lose him- communication is the key. Find ways to cheer him up. Talk about life with him once in a while. If he feels that his girlfriend understands about his sadness, maybe he would feel better.
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Jan 22 2005, 08:47 PM
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 ...and this is me.. Group: Member Posts: 3,518 Joined: Oct 2004 Member No: 57,899 |
confront him....tell him that you don't want to put up with it anymore...and that you're sick and tired of it...course..he might get mad..so approach this problem one step at a time...hope the situation gets better.
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Jan 22 2005, 08:57 PM
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Maybe you should do something to give the relationship it's spunk back. Sometimes people start to get unhappy in a relationship when they don't have that first-going-out feeling anymore. Try talking to him about his problems, or open up to him to show him that it's ok to talk to each other once in a while =)
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Jan 22 2005, 08:59 PM
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wait, he gets you sad...what makes you sad? elaborate
and you can't help with his 'problems'...what kind of problems? i guess you should talk to him about it, that you really care and you really want to help him but ____ (state reason he gets you sad)... iono...hope it helps Good lucK! |
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Jan 22 2005, 09:51 PM
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 hi. call me linda. Group: Official Member Posts: 8,187 Joined: Feb 2004 Member No: 3,475 |
you know, i've been having this same problem with my boyfriend. we love each other very much, but sometimes, i just get sad. well, what happened between us was that we'd talk about it. so try talking to him about it.
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Jan 22 2005, 09:54 PM
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 Blasian, Asian, INVASION! Group: Official Member Posts: 4,288 Joined: May 2004 Member No: 16,769 |
i take love serious too n iurno..5 months. i say tell him ur probs n wht hes doin wrong. if he still acts the same leave him. I had the same problem with my bf of 6 months before and it was like tht. it just sucks. save urself the pain and get rid of him. if he's hurting you, then dont allow urself to love such a man
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Jan 22 2005, 09:56 PM
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 Senior Member Group: Member Posts: 1,564 Joined: Jul 2004 Member No: 30,336 |
Tell him about how your feeling. Maybe go for a break?
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Jan 23 2005, 04:01 AM
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 yan lin♥ Group: Staff Alumni Posts: 14,129 Joined: Apr 2004 Member No: 13,627 |
yeah, definately talk to him about it. and maybe you should think over whether you guys should be together or not.
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Jan 23 2005, 10:48 AM
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 <3 Group: Member Posts: 3,657 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 64,493 |
talk to him about it, sort things out between the both of you. you've gottta talk to each other
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Jan 23 2005, 11:21 AM
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 tower over me Group: Member Posts: 1,190 Joined: Jan 2005 Member No: 77,717 |
Y ou should definitely talk to him about your feelings!
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Jan 23 2005, 02:56 PM
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talk to him. thats the best you can do. just try to sort things out, if you guys really do love each other it should work out.
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Jan 27 2005, 11:02 AM
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 dude i got gas Group: Member Posts: 38 Joined: Nov 2004 Member No: 66,119 |
You should ask him what's wrong. I think you should just sit down and talk about your problems with each other. It's the only way it works out really. And if it does not work out, just try over and over again to see if it continues to lead to problems. If it does, maybe you two aren't worth the sadness. You want someone who makes you happy, the person who makes you sad, the one you love, should make you happy again. I know exactly what you're in right now. I was just in it 2 weeks ago. My boyfriend and I worked through it together and now we are great. Just...Don't focus your whole life on him....Things will change and love will backfire hun. Just becareful...
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